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November 26, 2007

Your wife could be your soul mate!

Right from college days I had been a storehouse of porn content. It was magazines in college days, and when technology developed and I started working in branded firms it was porn CDs. One fine day one of my friends was pressurizing me to get some good CDs from home. I was wondering why all of a sudden he is pestering me so much, when he always knew it was easy to get them from me. In fact for him it was a matter of promotion, his boss wanted to watch few CDs in a week’s time, and the reason was – his wife had gone to her mother’s house, and he wanted to enjoy life in her absence!

It is admirable on the boss’s front that instead of hiring few striptease dancers or sex workers at home in his wife’s absence, he went only for some virtual fun. But what I failed to understand was – why was he hiding porn from his wife? And what was wrong if he had included his wife in watching the CDs together?

It is true to some extent that women usually don’t enjoy porn, but then it not true completely. There choice of porn is different. Explicit content doesn’t give them a high – instead they like slow and steady stuff, which usually men don’t prefer. Instead of triple X CDs, they prefer double X where story is the base, and sexual content is shown in a more subtle way.

This is just an example of how Indian men hide their real self to their own wives.

I have instances where a husband prefers to have oral sex with her girl friend, but then refuses to do the same with wife. I asked him why? And he said – his wife might not respect him any more if he did the same with her! I found it a bit ridiculous – on one hand men get married for sex, and then refuse to indulge in it completely with wife – thus torturing himself, his wife and the whole relationship.

There are three important things you need to drop completely when you indulge in sex with anyone and they are – pride, ego and the thought of disgust. If you stick to any of these - your sexual life is ought to suffer.

There are many women who have lived, had children and died even without even knowing or understanding what sex really was and what orgasm really was. If men continue to have sex like having fast food, then many marriages are bound to break in future, as a wholesome sex is the fundamental base of any marital relationship.

Here are few tips to enhance your sexual life –

*see to it that your sexual act goes on at least for 1 hour right from foreplay to after play.
*include your wife/partner in drinks and watching porn stuff
*And share your wildest fantasies with your wife/partner – she will respect you more and understand you better

Posted by Kenni at 11:21 AM | Comments (0)

November 03, 2006

How to reach spiritual heights through ‘masturbation’ – part 2

Though I might sound a bit stupid and outdated today – but then I always was for the concept of child marriages. Just because one fly fell into a gallon of milk, throwing away whole of the milk wasn’t a good idea. Of course there were few factors, which needed immediate attention – like widow remarriages. But then Indian systems always had remarriages and it was few people midway - who screwed the system completely.

Whoever fought against Child Marriages - like Mahatma Gandhi - themselves were married very young. Gandhi got married when 14 I guess. And also when Gandhi’s father was on his deathbed, Gandhi was busy having sex with Kasturba Gandhi. Of course he realized his folly later, but then he was subjected to an environment to realize that sex wasn’t the ultimate goal of life.

The people who fought against child marriages were never subjected to the sexual desperation a man or a woman undergoes during his/her teens or puberty. So what was the end result? People started indulging more in masturbation, homosexuality, preteen & unsafe sex! What if you had provided an environment conducive for sex, when the nature wanted people to do? I think things would have been better. (Banning child marriages have led to other socio-economic problems, which I will discuss in some other blog….)

Now that we masturbate more number of times than having sex with a partner, we might as well use this particular opportunity to grow spiritually…..

Don’t masturbate in a jiffy

The first few things to remember are never masturbate it in a hurry and also never masturbate when you are depressed or worried. You spend 5 minutes in a bathroom (in home or office) and in that 2 minutes you allocate for sex! It isn’t advisable!

Plan & Act

Osho says a sexual orgasm gives man the first glimpses of nirvana or enlightenment, then why not celebrate the same - akele hi sahi (nothing wrong in celebrating alone). Plan some particular day, when your people are not at home or when you can get good privacy - astrologically Fridays are best for sex. Borrow good number (4-5) of porn CDs, get your drink, and see to it you are not disturbed for at least 4-5 hours.

Porn & God

I am sure these days most houses have comps, which can play CDs. When you are watching the movie – DO NOT FAST FORWARD! Just keep watching – you will find few things exciting, and few things boring – but then keep watching. Watch them one by one. You can take breaks in between – like after one movie, distract your mind by reading something or watching some music on TV. Or you can pray for a while or meditate. The best is to have a God’s image next to you, after one movie is over – stare at your favourite God’s image. Your lust will immediately get transformed. Then again watch another movie – see to it that for 3 hours or so, you have reached the heights of lust – but haven’t masturbated as yet.

Shag & Leave

After 3 hours or so, start shagging, and whenever you feel like coming stop. Distract your mind again by a God’s image. You will notice that, whenever you have images of porn or image of some girl or some fantasy running in your mind, you feel like coming and when you look at God’s image, you won’t feel like coming at all. It will stop completely. If you reach this stage, you will understand that sex is more related to mind and not to body. Keep repeating this for 30-45 mns.

Celibate & Celebrate

When you are about cum, think about all the people whom you always wanted to screw in life – it could be your schoolmate, your boss, your teacher, your co-worker or your neighbour. And once you are through – thank God for the wonderful experience, and also thank all the women (right from the porn star to your co-worker) to have given you a wonderful experience.

If you do this sincerely, the number of times you masturbate in a month will automatically get reduced. And you will be able to have one ball of a time once in a week, with yourself. You will become more independent, and not drool for any kind of women. Your relationship with many will become smooth, and you will notice women getting attracted to you more.

Later start taking small vows – that you will have sex once in a week, then once in a month et al. Slowly you will come to understand that, sex is of course good, but then not having sex is a better feeling. Once you reach this stage, reaching God becomes easy.

Practice this for a year, and get in touch with me for further steps….

Posted by Kenni at 07:24 AM | Comments (0)

November 02, 2006

How to reach spiritual heights through ‘masturbation’ – par1!

A friend of mine called me to say what an astrologer told him once. That you should not masturbate. Masturbation is an unhealthy practice and that it will lead to hair loss and low semen count. I started masturbating at the age of 13 and till 23 never missed a single day (at 23 I got married). Probably I missed 30 days between 13 & 23, and that was because I could not get enough privacy in my NCC camps. You can check out the hair part looking at my picture here, and also I have 2 healthy daughters from my marriage, and am all set for more kids. Osho Rajneesh & Thatvagyaani Vethathiri Maharishi are people who have supposed to have sublimed their sexual energies completely – but both of them are bald, and to my knowledge Osho never had kids! So what is the moral of the story? Masturbation isn’t a taboo or an unhealthy practise. Instead it is a good stress relieving exercise, which can be intelligently used for spiritual growth.

Sex is good, but at the same time, if someone wants to lift his/her souls, he/she should succeed in controlling the sexual urge. We have been told only about two genres – one who are complete celibates and others who are not. There is a 3rd category, which precisely is about practicing celibacy temporarily, and also indulging in sex in a different way.

The ultimate truth is that the craving for more sex is not a bodily requirement, but it is a mental phenomenon. Though we can understand this sentence very easily, it is a bit to realize the same. For instance, if you compare what exactly happens when you indulge in sex with a partner, and when you masturbate - you will find that the feeling remained more or less the same. The opposite person was just a tool and whatever happened was in yourself, which has nothing to do with the other person. Hence if you sleep with one woman or many or with many at once – the bodily feeling is going to remain the same, but then yes – there will be some difference in the mental gratification you get. And this mental gratification can never be fulfilled - the craving keeps increasing with age, with time and with better looking people…Hence it becomes a better idea to find a short cut to understand sex and to have control over it than to get controlled by it.

Not all get good sexual partners in life, and in my personal experience with clients most married couple have a very dull sexual life. They perform just to get kids, and once they are through, they stop. In the present IT world none to my knowledge uses sex for spiritual growth. Most don’t know the process, and others don’t have time. None can be blamed for it, and also there is no necessity to find another partner with similar interests. In this scenario self-help becomes the best help….

To be continued….

Will discuss these topics tomorrow…
*Don’t masturbate in a jiffy
*Plan & Act
*Porn & God
*Shag & leave
*Celibate & Celebrate

Posted by Kenni at 07:30 AM | Comments (0)

September 08, 2006

Dealing with your woman's manipulation

This article is not mine, this was written by Matthew Fitzgerald & I lifted it from Askmen.com (the main influence behind me naming my site Askenni.com) In fact I would have loved to write an article on similar lines….honestly it is an interesting read... go on….

Guys, take this mini-quiz. Do you:

*Agree to go to "chick flicks," the opera, plays, etc., even though you don't want to (and she never reciprocates by attending the events you enjoy)?

*Always pick up the tab for dating expenses, even though she has an excellent, high-paying job?

*Have sex only on her terms and only when she's "in the mood"?

*Suddenly find yourself changing your clothing, hairstyle, décor, and car according to her demands?

*Act as her door-to-door chauffeur, problem-solver, financier?

*Keep calling her (and making excuses for her behavior) when she doesn't return calls or is otherwise "unavailable"?

If you answered "yes" to any of these questions (or a hundred similar ones), then you're the victim of sexual manipulation. You are running scared -- afraid that if you stand up to her or don't succumb to her demands, she'll cut off the sex.

SEX = POWER

Whether or not men know it (or want to admit it), women are in complete control of the sexual arena. They know that a woman's physical appearance is an irresistible drug to men. They know that lust can temporarily stun a man's ability to reason. They know men want sex and will do anything -- even act contrary to their inherent masculine natures -- to get it.

They know they can turn even the most macho he-man into a begging puppy dog just by a secret, throaty whisper in the ear. They know they can manipulate a man into spending thousands of dollars on them with the bat of an eyelash or the tip of the tongue flitting out between the lips. They know that they can get away with behavior that society would never tolerate in men.

This is an awesome power, and women are experts at wielding it. Sex should be an intimate bond between two equal partners, but for women it is first and foremost a tool. They addict men to their sexuality and then withdraw it to keep them panting for more. They dangle sex in front of men like a carrot on a stick, knowing full well that they can get men to do anything they want them to do.

They are masters at sexual manipulation…

OLDEST TRICK IN THE BOOK

The tools of the female manipulative trade are seduction, flattery, deception, evasion, unavailability, and innuendo -- all cunning levers to bend men to their wills. Women shave, pluck, dye, paint, starve, tuck, enlarge, and de-wrinkle themselves for one reason -- to package themselves for sexual power over men.

A woman will never give herself emotionally to a man unless he has something she can exploit. Sexual manipulation is essentially dishonest, by its very nature designed to mislead and control men.

Unfortunately, in our society, women are permitted to abuse their sexual power. They are allowed to flaunt their sexuality, yet still claim to be victims. They are allowed to exploit and profit from men's natural drives in the adult entertainment industry. They are allowed to dress seductively in cleavage-baring tops and hip-hugging jeans without any fear of sexual consequences.

They are allowed to seduce men into handing over their wallets without any worry of judgment or criminal censure. They are allowed to flirt and seduce in the workplace, and then cry "sexual harassment" when a man responds according to his biological imperatives.

They are allowed to use sex to their advantage -- and withdraw it -- when it is convenient for them and then hide behind a self-serving version of feminism when it comes time to pay the price.

A MAN'S SEX DRIVE IS HONEST

At its very core, the male sex drive is honest, clean, open, and uninhibited. But at the hands of manipulating women, it becomes man's worst enemy -- it turns him into a senseless puppet dancing to a woman's tune. Driven blindly by testosterone, men sacrifice their male power on the altar of female sexploitation .

We pay for dinner, go shopping for clothes, tolerate moods, forsake our buddies, and cuddle up on the couch watching a DVD of Sleepless in Seattle , all in hopes of getting laid.

When a man in lust surrenders his male power to a woman, she calls him a "gentleman" -- translation: a sucker manipulated to do exactly what she wants.

It's not pretty. In fact, it's a disgrace.

TAKE BACK CONTROL

But there's a simple solution: stop letting her get away with it. Women are like spoiled brats -- you have to put your foot down and start setting limits.

Here are a few tips that'll help you put the brakes on female sexual manipulation.

1- Be true to yourself
If you want to go see Bloodsoak II instead of Endless Boundless Love, then say so. If she doesn't want to go, then go by yourself -- she'll get the point. Hopefully in the future you'll achieve a spirit of compromise.

2- Stop paying for her

Financing her social life only enables her abuse of her sexual power -- it keeps on proving to her that she can exploit you and get away with using her feminine guile.

3- Firmly set bedroom boundaries

Break the grip of her control of the sexual arena. Insist on complete partnership -- sex when you want it, too, not just when she feels like it.

4- Be prepared to lose

Risk losing sex. When you stand up to her manipulation, she will cut you off, scorn you, belittle you, scream at you -- and she may even leave you to find a more compliant sucker. But it's better to be rid of her than to spend any more time being a volunteer to her sexual manipulation.

5- Walk away

This is your ultimate defense. Refuse to be manipulated. Reclaim your male rights and get out of there. You'll find somebody better.

DECIDE WHAT WOMAN YOU WANT

It's up to you, guys. Dating should be about partnership, not a whore/john relationship, where a woman oozes up against you with one hand reaching for your wallet. It should be about honesty and equality, not about a woman taking advantage of your natural sex drive to get what she wants.

Ultimately, it should be about standing up for your rights as a man and no longer letting yourself be manipulated by feminine wiles.

Matthew Fitzgerald is the author of Sex-Ploytation. He has appeared on radio shows from coast-to-coast in the United States and in Canada, and has been featured on the Montel show and The Other Half.

Posted by Kenni at 09:52 AM | Comments (0)

November 24, 2005

The abstract concept called virginity – part 2!

The dictionary says that virgin is a person, immaterial of gender, who has not experienced sexual intercourse. Sex and sexual intercourse have similarities and differences too. Sex has various stages right from holding hands, rubbing skin, kissing, hugging, fondling, caressing, holding genitals, helping each other masturbate, oral pleasures, fingering and many other steps before the final sexual intercourse happens. Sexual intercourse essentially means the final penetration by man into a woman, which leads to orgasm for both. The question of virginity is at stake only at the last stage of sex i.e., during sexual intercourse and till then both men and women play a safe bet – logically!

I have had equal number of boy and girl friends. And out of the whole, immaterial of gender, about 90 per cent of them have had premarital sex. But then if you ask me whether they have had sexual intercourse, then most of them have not. They have gone till few steps in the order mentioned above, or in their own order, but have not had complete sex. Hence we cannot tell for sure from which step premarital sex becomes unacceptable.

Also there are various other factors that constraints the possibility of premarital sex in India. Blessed are those who get the right partner, the right place and the right opportunity to have complete sex with or without strings attached.

To have a complete sexual intercourse is not as easy as we think - the first constraint being unavailability of the right space/place. We have acres and acres of barren land to train military troops to fight wars, but not a single place where people can make love - undisturbed!

Couples meet up in beaches to fondle, in theatres to kiss, hug and caress, and visit most of the remote areas to find whether there is some place which can be used for sex. With our hypocritical attitude about sex, we have polluted India with so much population that we have at least 1 person per square feet.

At our home it is impossible, we have our neighBORES poking their nose right till our kitchen, at friends’ place one of the parents is at home all through the year, at hotels there is constant fear of police raids, and if at all you have enough guts to book a room in a hotel, you should have money, a proof of identity, and also a travel bag!! If all is set right, the last thing you can expect out of life is nonperformance due to anxiety!

The process of getting a person till laying him/her down takes at least 6 months of continuous hard effort. With so many problems attached to a 5 minute pleasure, both men & women so very tired that they decide to get married to each other or someone else to at least have sex with free minds.

I am surely not talking about the 1 or 2 per cent of men and women who due to some psychological problem get up one fine morning and decide that they are going to break their virginity today, just because his/her friend did it yesterday. I am referring to the people who form the core of the Indian society, and who belong to the major chunk.

Here are few counter arguments for few views that were expressed on various websites and blogs

Women who have premarital sex are prostitutes

There is nothing wrong in referring to women who have premarital sex as prostitutes. And mind it ‘prostitute’ is not a derogatory word. According to me sex workers are divine beings who can provide better sexual services than few wives do. Remember if you don’t like food at home, you prefer to eat at hotels.

Even men care about their virginity

Three of my friends went abroad recently. One of them was a Brahmin, one of them was a Muslim, and the 3rd one said he want his wife to be the first person he sleeps with. The first thing they did after arriving in the foreign land was they searched for a striptease club. The first 2 were already married. And this Muslim friend of mine always told me that according to Islam astrology is a sin. But I never knew that Kuran said blessed are those who go to watch a striptease! The third friend who spoke all about his wife being the first, landed up in a massage parlor where chicks give you a complete body massage, and at the end help you shag!

Men who claim that they are virgins are the ones have not got any offers from the opposite sex, till they are forced to marry by their parents. If someone has rejected a beautiful babe, just because he wanted to keep his virginity intact till he gets married – I would prostrate and take his blessings.

Women have more control on sex than men

In 90 per cent of the cases across the world, whenever a man has sex, a woman is involved too – whether it is premarital, marital or postmarital. The rest 10 per cent could be sex with same sex, or sex with animals, or forcible sex. Men don’t have sex with holograms to my knowledge.

Of course women don’t take the initiative most of the times, and men do it and that is how nature has created us. That doesn’t mean women have more control over sexuality.

For women sex is like getting into a bus, which is empty. With so many options open she takes time to decide where to sit. And for men sex is like getting into a bus, which has only one seat empty that too in the last row. He needs to rush to seek it before someone else sits there. Women have more choices to make, while men don’t. Men try to do the best in any available situation hence they are more desperate to have sex than women. That simply doesn’t mean that women don’t care about sex. The real sexuality of women could come to fore if some day all the men in the world decide not to have sex with women for the next 5 years!

Well that’s all for today. Will continue when am back from Tiruppur on Thursday.

Till then Happy Blogging!

Posted by Kenni at 06:18 PM | Comments (0)

November 23, 2005

The abstract concept called ‘virginity’ – part 1!

All of us form our opinions and thoughts based upon the people we meet in our lives, the books we read, the knowledge we gain from various sources, the personal experiences we have in our lives and the environment we are subjected to. As rightly said by one of the yet to be famous authors that opinions are like as****e, every one has got one. I too have something to share based upon the 200 friends I have made, few 1000 clients, and few 100 acquaintances. Thanks to the film star Khusboo to have brought up the issue, which has now become a national debate. After solving issues related to poverty successfully in India, the politicians have started to solve the premarital sex issue!

Personally I never liked Khusboo as an actress, but in this particular case I support her completely. Of course not because that she has said something right, but because she has all the right to express what she feels is right. Khushboo has been a field where people have to sleep with producers, directors, and actors to make their mark in the industry. If she had said, “most film stars have premarital sex”, then I am sure she would have never got into any controversy. Instead she said, “most Tamil women have premarital sex.” What Khushboo said is a general statement, and premarital sex is an individual decision.

Another story of Khusboo I have been told was (no evidence available to prove), she took a flat worth few crores from actor Sivaji Ganeshan to walk away from Prabhu’s life. Tomorrow she cannot say that, Tamil people take flats from the guy’s father to walk away from their son’s life. I have watched a hidden camera movie clip of Khusboo changing costume (have proof for the same), and again she cannot say that, Tamil people don’t mind being shot nude!

There were many blogs written on pre-marital sex, and the same topic was discussed on rediff.com too. And ironically most of them had confused premarital sex with loss of virginity, which is not the case MOST of the times!! I base my debate on people who I keep meeting in my life, and the people who have opened up their secret lives to me.

Before I get onto the topic tomorrow, here is the dictionary meaning of virgin and virginity

vir•gin ( P ) Pronunciation Key (vûrjn)
n.
A person who has not experienced sexual intercourse.
A chaste or unmarried woman; a maiden.
An unmarried woman who has taken religious vows of chastity.
Virgin The Virgin Mary.
Zoology. A female insect or other arthropod that produces fertile eggs without copulating.

vir•gin•i•ty ( P ) Pronunciation Key (vr-jn-t)
n. pl. vir•gin•i•ties
The quality or condition of being a virgin.
The state of being pure, unsullied, or untouched.

To be continued….

Posted by Kenni at 05:01 PM | Comments (0)

September 20, 2005

Sexual Favours – it ain’t about sex, it is about power!

Just a couple of days back, I was chatting to one of my friends/clients who is closely associated with the film industry. She is a mega serial producer today, and has acted in a couple of movies few years back. It was during that period when Tamil film director Thangarbacchan had to apologize for the controversial comment he passed about film actresses. I told my friend that, “I hear a lot about the film stars & their secret lives, but then I always doubt the credibility about the news.” And she very honestly reverted saying, “I hear a lot about astrologers & their phony tales, but then I always doubt the credibility about the news!” One tight slap I should say!

My head spun for a while and took few seconds to touch base with reality. She had her point strong - four people were sacked from ‘INFOSYS’ for sexual harassment. What do you say about that now? She asked. And I didn’t have an answer.

She elaborated giving me an example too. Suppose I were a big time movie producer, and that a good looking babe approached me for a chance in my movie, what would I do? My decision of taking her in my movie would make or break her life and would decide her future for the next 10 years of her life. And what do I get in the whole deal? And I am not into any kind of social service. Mmmmm I might ask her the favour for sure! She added, “it is not about sex, it is about power!” I agreed.

It all depends upon individuals about how far one goes in compromising on his/her life to make it big or to become successful & rich. Generalizing one particular segment or industry isn’t right – was the lesson I learnt that day.

I pondered over the topic, and I recollected few incidents that really had taken place around me. We had a maid who earlier was a daily labour working in house construction firm. She quit her work, because the mason would want her to sleep with him everyday for her daily wages. The mason holds the power here, and he would sleep with all the women who work under him. The daily wages was just Rs 75! For few 75 lakhs makes a difference, and for few Rs 75 makes a lot of difference.

It took place in one of the media company I worked a couple of years back. Both husband and wife were working in the same firm. Both of them were very close to the BIG BOSS – and the boss was always extra courteous to the couple – when it came to appraisal and salary hikes. One day it so happened that the wife and the boss were watching porn movie sitting inside boss’s cabin, and the hubby was busy editing the news outside -- not that the hubby didn’t know what was happening inside the cabin. The BIG BOSS ruled the roost here ;)

Very recently one of my friends (girl) had some problems with her senior in an IT firm. He would keep staring at her, and would send some nasty signals. Like a hero I had to get into the scene to solve the problem. Thankfully the problem is solved– she quit and got onto another company for a better pay and better post!

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December 02, 2004

It was ?AIDS? Day yesterday. So?

I somehow don?t understand why these kind of dumb special days are celebrated. Valentine?s day is a day to express your love hence we get gifts for our near and dear ones, Mother?s day - ok we thank out mother for her love, Father?s day ? accepted we thank our dads for the support. And now ?Aids? Day? What are we supposed to do on this particular day? Have wild sex? Or get in touch with any of our schoolmates, who is suffering from Aids & give him an Archies card? Or go to the nearest AIDS center and tell them that they are going to die soon? Or sit at home and Thank God that the lady we had sex last time wasn?t having AIDS!

Agreed that this kind of days are remembered to create awareness among people. But what kind of awareness could it create? What are we trying to convey to the people?

Don?t have multiple partners? It won?t happen till man & woman exist together.

Use a condom? Most sexual activities are mere accidents in India, and I am sure there is no roadside store to buy a pack of Moods when biological need overtakes civilization.

Don?t go to the prostitutes? If rich go to Singapore & Thailand where should the poor go?

Control your sexual urge? Even Maharishi Vishwamitra could not do that, and we expect poor lorry drivers to control his basic urge!

There are lot of social workers who love to sympathize for anything and everything. Looking at AIDS stricken person they feel he is going to die soon, as if the rest are permanent members here. Who knows, the person who sympathizes could die in a road accident much before the AIDS patient has even started showing symptoms.

Death is the funniest event, and you never know when it will strike you. It so happened that my Grandfather?s brother-in-law was suffering from spinal chord cancer. The doctors said he could die anytime. My grandpa didn?t have enough money for the expenses he might incur during the funeral. To remain on the safer side, my grandpa took some money from my mother and kept it ready. He kept waiting for him to die. 3 months, 6 months, 1 year, 2 years ? and his brother-in-law was not dying at all. One day it was quite stuffy, and my grandpa stood up on the cot to adjust the mosquito net. He fell from there, hit badly on his spinal chord and died in a year. His brother in law died 10 years later!

From the money used on creating plain AIDS awareness, which doesn?t bring any major change on the people?s attitude, few scientists can be recruited to find a vaccine for the same. Or an alternate lifestyle for AIDS patients can be created so that they continue to have fulfilling sex with similar people, without spreading the disease to the innocents and also without feeling dejected or isolated from the society.

Posted by Kenni at 02:43 PM | Comments (0)

September 22, 2004

Should prostitution be made legal?

A small stroll after our heavy lunch has become a daily habit. We discuss about most of the things under the sun to divert our attention from our busy work schedule, and yesterday?s hot topic was why shouldn?t prostitution be made legal? My new friend, Hemant Sharma, a hardcore journalist had some valid point to support his stand, while Suren, another friend of mine, thought prostitution was not part of Indian civilization. And as you have rightly guessed?I took Hemant?s stand.
Check what a ?Pakistani Girl? has to say about me!

A man?s acceptance level of opposite sex and their behaviour towards them completely depend on his desperation level. I personally have seen that people born and brought up in Mumbai are far more decent in handling relationships with women, because they know where they need to go if sex is their motive. Unlike Chennai, where men look for sex even in a crowded bus!

I am yet to see a person in Mumbai who rubs his flesh with woman in a crowd, or pinches her butt or spanks on it. On the other hand I have come across many men in Chennai who place their boneless nonsense in the butt creak and come in the bus itself!

Sex becomes an ugly affair if done in the wrong way in the wrong place. And the best way to find a permanent solution to this problem is setting up legal brothels in all the major cities and towns, and providing licenses for sex workers.

*A prostitute can print her own visiting card or could probably advertise about her services in newspapers. She can be clear about her areas of specialization, so that men don?t get disappointed after the payment is done.
*Customer satisfaction should be given top priority.
*A bill will be furnished after the service is rendered, and you can bring this bill along with you for a special discount the second time.
*A minimal luxury tax can be levied on both the customer and the service provider so that government also makes some decent money in the process. The government can use this money for rehabilitation of pre-teens who are forced into prostitution

Making prostitution legal will also put an end to the police atrocities on them, and also crime on women which otherwise are foolishly termed as eve teasing.

Not that this market isn?t active today. Incidentally I came to know of a 60-year old person - owner of one of the leading silk emporiums in Chennai going for at least 3-4 young girls every week in one of the leading hotels. Wah Taj Boliye!

Posted by Kenni at 10:42 AM | Comments (0)

September 14, 2004

Way to great sex!

Sexual relationship isn�t like having a quick burger at the McDonald�s. Of course it is exciting to indulge in a quicky once in a while, but then that should not happen your daily habit. Anything fast becomes junk, and anything junk is bad for health. It is a debatable topic about why people marry. Do people marry just for sex, or sex is just part of a married life? The reason depends upon individual perception, but in any case if you need to have a happy married life or a healthy relationship for the people who shy away from commitments, then don�t hold yourself back in exploring the wildest possibility of human body!

India has been THE land of erotica in the past. Improper literacy and too much of hypocrisy has led to a society that has tagged sexual activities as a taboo. And it is high time we shook ourselves (not literally) and started accepting our sexuality.

Most men in India love to use women just as an inflated doll, and are least bothered about satisfying them. Sex should not be done for selfish pleasure � it is more about giving than getting!
And the three important things you need to take off your mind while having fun are � your ego, your shamefulness & your feeling of disgust. Get as dirty as possible � and you will enjoy every moment of it.

Steps to make your sexual day/night/morning memorable..

Creating the ambience

Total darkness is an absurd phenomenon - you never know with whom you are sleeping with. Dim yellow lights are perfect for creating a romantic atmosphere. They also helps in reducing the flaws a woman or man would have.
Get a bottle of wine or champagne, and share it with your partners. Don�t drink the way you drink at an office party. The aim here is not get drunk and puke. Drink as minimum as possible � liquor in fact helps people to come out of their inhibitions. You would be awestruck seeing your partner being ready for different position after a peg or so.
There is nothing like a romantic music at the background or a soft porn movie on your TV.

Share your fantasies

Most men love to indulge in a 3-some, when 2 women fight for the manhood. But then in real life it isn�t possible for all. Try sharing your wildest fantasy with your partner, and also ask her about hers. Who knows, her fantasy would be to strip in a bachelor�s party! The motto here is not to hurt each other by confessing your possibility of infidelity. You just need to excite your partner, and give her a high. Stop at once, if any of you find it difficult to digest.

Teasing

Dress sexy, wear a wonderful perfume, and get her a see through lingerie. Few things are more erotic when hidden � a bare butt is less sexy than one with a thong. Wink and whistle at your partner � they are signs that show you are interested in them. Try spanking or giving a pinch, when she bends over.

Erotic Chats

Dirty talks drive few people crazy. A man loves to be called a hunk or a stud, while women love to be called a bitch - sometimes. Explain orally about what exactly you are planning to do with her, and this surely will help you with bonus points when the real action starts.

Foreplay

The erotic spots of women differ from person to person. Few like to be kissed, few like to be caressed, others like to be fondled, and many like to be massaged. Explore all the possibility fast, and try to understand what she likes the most - and just concentrate on that. You can know her interest levels, by looking at her eyes once in a while. Don�t force anything on her - just kindle her interest levels using your intelligence.

Real Action

Go as slow as possible, and there is no hurry. Make sure you have already given her the necessary elevation with your tongue and finger play. Help your tongue to reach the most forbidden parts, and she will surely return the favour. Do all that you would love to be done upon you.

Climax

Don�t snore once you are done. Remember to give her an orgasm before you collapse. Ideally the whole lovemaking episode should last for a minimum of 1 hour and maximum of 3 hours.

Hug, cuddle, and whisper sweet nothings before your fall asleep!

Posted by Kenni at 04:54 AM | Comments (0)

September 03, 2004

Internal orgasm ? the way to go/come!

By God?s grace, I am in touch with an interesting woman nowadays. She is damn active, sexually, and indeed ready to do anything and everything with men for men. In fact I should say she is the only woman who has given me a complex about the knowledge I possessed about sex. We went for a coffee recently, and I wanted to take the topic forward ? but to my dismay I ended up talking about astrology, religion and spirituality!

Sex and spiritual energies are two ends of an oscillating pendulum. The more you think or indulge in sex in your early ages, faster is the possibility of you getting dragged into spiritual activities. And the same way, if you tend to be more into spirituality when young, you will get into sexual scandals in the later ages.

Sexual relationship is more of a hormonal thing and is completely related to mind, until you use it for your spiritual growth. There is an interesting story in one of Osho?s books?

Osho and his friend were once sitting at the banks of river Ganges, and his friend saw a beautiful lady with long hair showing her naked back. She seemed to have an amazing butt too. He got very interested in getting a full view of the lady and asked Osho to wait for a while, till he returns. The friend came back disappointed. Osho asked what is the problem? And he replied it wasn?t a lady it was a saint!

Sexual energy in man is in the form of coal, and with enough practice and patience it can be converted into diamonds. And the final stage of spirituality is to get orgasm without leaking a single drop of semen ? also called internal orgasm, and it isn?t easy!

It is a slow process and here are some tips to enhance your orgasmic pleasure, the first few steps towards internal orgasm..

TIP 1

*While having sex, when you are coming close to orgasm just stop! Close your eyes and take few deep breathes, and try focusing on something that can distract you completely - an image of God is ideal for distraction. Once your thoughts are completely out of sex, start off again. Repeat the process for 4-5 times, and come only after that.

TIP 2

*Ashwini Mudra is a good old Indian technique to increase your ejaculation span. It is a simple technique where you pull your anal muscle in and release it slowly. Do it 108 times everyday in the morning. And you will be able to impress your partner with your performance on bed.

TIP 3

*Give your partner an orgasm, and walk off to your prayer room without ejaculation. Start chanting your favourite mantra and you will find your sexual energy working on your body. It will start moving upwards.

TIP 4

*Stop having sex for couple of weeks, and meditate aggressively. Meditate at least for 4-6 hours everyday, and you will find your kundalini rising. By faith and practice, you will be able to have an orgasm, without even thinking about sex?and that again is just a glimpse.

Honestly, I am yet to come out of the feeling of internal orgasm that I had this morning!

Posted by Kenni at 05:42 AM | Comments (0)

August 26, 2004

Come out of your home, there is more to sEXPLORE!

Rajan suggested me a fantastic topic to try my luck at askmen.com . The possible places where people can have SEX! I found it quite interesting and wrote everything that came to my mind, and Rajan gave the final touches. Do let me know if you find it interesting enough to be accepted by askmen. Can askenni make it to askmen? It is your chance to predict!

Like anything else, even sex leads to boredom if you fail to diversify. You need to discover and invent new places and positions, keep experimenting on sexual acts and in the process keep life exciting and fulfilling. This dullness, besides affecting the regular players also creeps into marital bliss.

Here are a few kinky, yet safe ideas on how you can enhance your sexual experiences - by changing places, not necessarily partners!

With in four walls�.with doors and windows open!

Don�t restrict your activities to the bedroom or the bathroom. Tread new territories like your kitchen and perform a quicky and surprise your partner. Or take her to the terrace and explore under the open sky. Before you embark on this adventure, ensure that it is pitch dark and you don�t have elderly neighbours. They might end up repenting their non-confrontational attitude, when young.

Keep the doors and windows open when indulging in sex. Stand near the window nude and imagine someone watching you perform. Don�t you love being on the stage? It will give you a kick, not to mention the rush of hormones for the spectator.

Fun on wheels

Cars could be a great place but a bit uncomfortable. Various positions would not be possible, but who is complaining. When you go on a long drive, ask your partner to sit nude. Or ask her to give you a head even as you enjoy the nature outside. You can even keep her busy in heavy traffic, provided your windows are tinted.

Get into wilderly zones

Head for the woods. Find out the off seasons from tour operators and get in when it is not crowdy. Get into one of those safe jungles, look out for a lake or a falls, get nude and spend the day like Adam and Eve. Just ensure that you don�t stop your partner from eating the apple or anything else hanging that she finds interesting.

At sea shores

Buy a Digicam or invest on a handycam. Book a cottage in one of those seashore resorts, and take your partner along. Again, get a not-so-crowded place. Pay and ask the security guys to stay off even as you indulge in a nude photography session. Or better still, make movie clippings on your lovely partner. Multiple the fun by sipping a beer, while lying on the golden sands�feeling the waves hit you at the right places.

In Movie Theatres

Not every place is safe for experimentation. But one sure-shot place for loads of fun is a theatre. You can build up tempo, and then rush home to finish it off. Book tickets for a movie that�s not doing well at the box-office. If possible, get the last row tickets and have fun while the rest of the World is watching the movie. Wear comfortable clothes - easy to wear, remove, and wear again. She can come in a mini skirt, and you can be in tracksuits. Avoid jeans as it could lead to a penile-fracture if someone walks in at the wrong time.

Start with fingering and kisses. If the theatre is empty, you can bring your wildest fantasy to life - having sex when Tom Cruise is watching you from the silver screen.

In Shopping Malls

Select a shopping mall away from your house. Ask your partner to wear a mini skirt, so that she flashes enough when she bends. Don�t forget to take your digicam to take erotic snaps for future. Better still, find a unmanned trial room or a uni- sex loo.

You can multiply your fun by ensuring that she doesn�t wear a panty either at the shopping mall or at the theatre.

Think beyond the four walls and get your wildest fantasies full-filled. Let your imagination go wild and who knows you could be having a gang-bang at the edge of a CLIFF someday!

Posted by Kenni at 10:35 AM | Comments (0)

August 23, 2004

Why people shy away from sexual diseases/disorders?

I am glad that people are starting to like my blogs. And the good news is they comer forward to suggest me topics, someone suggested me to write about his aunt who died of breast cancer leaving behind 2 kids, and another friend of mine suggested me to blog about the difference between intuition and illusion. The first one was a bit important than the other hence thought would write on it.

How much ever we are educated, we tend to hatch shyness towards our sexuality and our own body. This shyness starts from the day a kid is laughed at or given a pinch when he/she starts exploring its private parts.

I had been to a marriage, and outside the hall a dog and a bitch were having fun. I dunno what went wrong with one of the persons who had come. He took a stone and hit them hard, and says, ?bacche dekhenge to bigad jaayenga (if kids see them they will get spoiled).? I got damn irritated, and wanted to blast him saying, ?the dogs are exactly doing what you did with your wife in a closed room to have that kid. Give your house to these dogs, if you don?t want them to make love on road.? Though I could not tell him that?because he had another stone in his hand, which he had not dropped as yet.

Sexual suppression leads to a lot of social crimes too. Parent?s first responsibility should be to make their kids comfortable with the concept of sex. Not that you make them see porn movies, but you can always deal with situations that doesn?t embarrass them.

I started shagging off when I was 13, and I thought it was only me in the whole world who does it. It took 8 years for me to understand that 99 per cent of men shag, while only 1 per cent don?t accept it. Men of course don?t stop helping themselves after marriage. Once started?there is no end. Research say 60 per cent women do the same dunno how many don?t accept it though.

This is about sexuality. People even tend to hide things that relates to their health. Most death due to breast cancer or vaginal cancer happens because women don?t open up to the doctors. Why? God knows! You aren?t blessed with a silver breasts or a golden penis. The flesh is the same for all...just that few have bigger protrusions and few have smaller, rest remains the same.

And the last is sexual dissatisfaction. Love, understanding, family, money, character, sense of humour? all sounds perfect, till you have a good relationship with each other on bed. If that goes for a toss rest comes down tumbling. 90 per cent of the divorces, infidelity, adultery and extra marital affairs happen due to discontentment in sexual relationship. Most people hate to talk about it to their partners or to the doctors, thinking they should not be giving much importance to sex ? and the end result frustration and disappointment.

I have started a yahoo group called http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mischievousmanifestations for women and couple who would like to share their views about sex, sexual activities and sexual problems. STAGS NOT ALLOWED THOUGH.

Mail me at kennedig@yahoo.com to get an invitation to join this club.

BE BOLD BECOME A MEMBER TODAY! And also if you want me to suggest a topic for my blog, please do.

Posted by Kenni at 10:48 AM | Comments (0)

August 12, 2004

There is more to life & sex

All I knew was plain Vanilla one on one action, until one of my friends asked me to go to Persian Kitty in 1997. Till then I thought I knew everything about the most sorted desire. Once my exploration started the journey never stopped. Newer things started POPPING up one by one, and I could not hold my curiosity back. I could sense the vastness of the subject and realized that one lifetime isn?t enough to know everything about it.

Yeah I am referring to the subject, which we love the most but refuse to accept the same ? SEX.

Recently controversial author Salman Rushdie said that Pornography should become legal and should be treated as literature, as it helps most people to break few moulds and come out as better people - emotionally. And also it is a scientific truth that 90 per cent of psychological disorders are due to suppression of sexual energy. Hence thought would give you guys some gyaan about all that I know about this forbidden topic.

A word exists, because the concept exists. A concept exists, because thought exists. And a thought exists because it is natural. Here is a list of few terms related to Sex and their meanings ?thanks to the World Wide Web for all the knowledge bestowed upon me.

Straight Sex ? One man one woman doing it in a closed room, as shown in most Hindi movies
3-some ? Bringing a third person to join the fun. The third person could be a guy, a girl or a bi
4-some ? Bringing another couple to join the fun
Orgy ? A group event. Lots of people doing it together
Bestiality ? Animalistic pleasure ? literally. It could be a dog, a pig, a snake, a horse or a donkey!
Voyeurism ? Watching without anybody knowledge
Public ? Making love when others are watching, or in a public place
Lesbianism ? When 2 women have fun (this could again lead to 3-some and orgies)
Gays ? When 2 men have fun (this could again lead to 3-some and orgies)
Oral ? Putting lips and tongue to the best use at the BEST places
Deep throat ? The best way a woman can impress a man
Swallow/Spit ? Loves me/ loves me not
BDSM ? male dominion, female dominion, leather-wears, bondage, blindfolding, whipping
Role Playing? You be a doctor I will be the nurse, you be my boss I will be your subordinate
Face Sitting ? best place to sit with your undergarment down, and your partners? tongue sticking out for a cleaning job
Snow bowling ? swapping the white fluid between mouths without a single drop falling down
Flash ? Shocking strangers by showing forbidden parts
Anal ? Coming in from the backdoor
Double Penetration ? Woman sandwiched between 2 men with both her holes filled
Same Room Sex ? Couple having fun under a single roof, but no exchange of partners
Swapping ? Exchanging partners
Swingers ? Single & couples having fun under a single roof, exchange of partners allowed
Web Cam Fun ? Stripping, fondling and having fun when someone is watching it on his webcam in some far away place
Masturbation ? Self-help ? an act which 99 per cent of men do, and 1 per cent don?t accept doing it. Comes in handy at times of desperation
Blow Job ? A trick by which a woman can keep the man for herself forever
Dirty Talks ? Abusive talks that could excite partner and facilitate orgasm
Cyber Sex ? Chatting about sex, which indeed excites a lot of people
Vibrator ? A battery operated massager that could easily replace men in the coming days
Dildo ? A penis without a piece of skin attached to it ? the Man
Anal Bead ? A chain for anal stimulation
Lubricants ? gel to facilitate all the processes

There is much more to be added in the list?will keep adding them in the coming days. User contributions will be rewarded!

Posted by Kenni at 06:03 AM | Comments (0)

July 26, 2004

The live ONS I watched in Dadar-Chennai Express!

I was 22 and she was 19. I met her during my sister�s marriage, and in fact she was my brother in law�s sister. She instantly liked me, God know for what reasons. We met in June 1998 and decided to marry in August 1998. We didn�t wanted to understand each other before getting married, rather preferred to get married and then take time to understand each other.

I was with the Indian Express, Mumbai, and she was in Chennai. She called me up one day, and said we will get married this weekend. I agreed, but the only problem now was the train ticket. I tried in the journalist quota, but didn�t succeed in getting a reserved ticket. The train was full, and I had to get into the unreserved compartment and I didn�t have any other choice.

I put my bag on the top, and decided to stand through out the journey. It is some 24-hour journey from Mumbai to Chennai. I could not compromise on my ego and sit on the pathway with those slum dwellers. They wore dirty clothes, and they stunk like hell. I was happy standing at the door. My pride could not help my leg from getting numb in 2 hours time. It was paining, and the only choice I had was to slip my butt in a small gap that was available - and I did it. I felt far better. The stink didn�t bother me much now. Ego and pride make absolute sense when you are left with options, if there is only one � human mind starts compromising - that is what happened to me.

Just in front of me, there was a lady clad in a red saree � I wasn�t sure whether she was traveling alone. The train was full, and seizing the opportunity an educated drunk bastard started rubbing his penis under her shoulder. She warned him twice and it made no difference to him. He was on the verge of a complete orgasm, I suppose. Another guy - I thought was related to this young lady - who was noticing the incident got damn wild and warned him too. The drunkard didn�t move. The guy called up the police, and chucked the drunkard out of the bogie. I realized that this guy wasn�t related to that lady, and he was just being good - a real hero I should say.

I was getting accustomed to people sleeping on my shoulder, few on my lap, the chai wala�s slippers, and the hot dripping milk from the urn. Huh�none bothered about who I was � a sub-editor from Indian Express, where I worked � Express Towers � the 2nd tallest building in Mumbai. Here I was just another human being who was traveling.

I noticed a twist in the kahani now. The hero who saved that lady turned into a Romeo in 4 hours. There were few eye contacts happening between these two people, and it was really making me hot. I didn�t know where it was leading.

The time was 10 pm, and people started dozing off. I could not sleep initially but then I had to try hard � 20 more hours of journey was left, hence rest was a must.

Some one stamped me in the wrong place at 11.30 pm, and I had to get up just to find myself in utter shock! The guy who saved the lady was sitting close to her, holding her hand. He was also kissing her on the back, and she was enjoying it. Of course I didn�t open my eyes completely. I was just spying. I was zapped at the live soft porn movie running just in front of my eyes. I was too tired to continue to watch this live thing, hence had to sleep again.

It was 2 am now, and the train stopped, this wasn�t a station but probably the way where there wasn�t any signal. I opened my eyes � and this couple was missing! Did they pulled the chain and get down to find a better place to make love? Or did they hide themselves in the loo � yuck � I think the loo could be the last place to have sex!

I had to check whether my suitcase was safe, and when I raised my head � there they were. Sleeping together!! I could not believe my eyes. Met at 2 pm IST and slept at 10 pm IST!!! The guy was having a great time, though I did not see the real thing in action. They were hugging each other, kissing each other and having a great time. I am not sure what happened between 11.30 pm and 2 am when I was in deep sleep. I wasn�t much worried about this couple, all I bothered about was the 3 guys who were sitting on the berth � they were missing too?!

It was very hard to believe. I tried lying to myself that they could be a newly married couple, or people who knew each other for a while, or old friends � but no lie could convince me. They were strangers and I was damn sure about it.

The next day morning everything was peaceful. None in the compartment knew about the action that happened last night. This couple looked content. No attachments and no regrets! And it was time to part ways. The guy had to get down, he took a piece of paper, wrote his address and phone number, handed over it to the lady and got down with a smile. God knows whether they will ever meet again.

I sincerely pray for her husband and his wife to have a good married life! God bless all!

ONS - One Night Stand!

Posted by Kenni at 04:00 AM | Comments (0)

July 07, 2004

Missionary position – missing in Kama Sutra!

Indians have been the most intelligent people who have ever lived on the planet. They were able to crack all the secret codes of existentialism, which helped people in living their lives to the fullest. They have meditated on all the possible permutations and combinations that a human mind would think about a specific subject. Whether it is about building a new house or it is about wooing your neighBORE’s wife - it is all there written and documented.

Vaastu Shastra talks completely about the art of building temples, monuments and houses. For instance it says the footsteps built for a temple or a house should be more than a feet so that when you climb you use your heel and not the toe. Scientifically it is proven that using toe to walk or to climb stairs adversely affects the spinal chord.

Artha Shastra is all about politics. Read, learn and apply and you won’t need Shiv Khera, Sri Sri Ravi Shankar or Maharishi to grow fast in a Corporate culture. For astrology the Bible remains Brihat Parashura Hora, if you mug it up, you become a professional astrologer. And when it comes to sex nothing can beat our own Kama Sutra!

Sex was always given a divine consideration in India. Hence you find most temples with erotic sculptures, which implies that sex and religion are interlinked and that none can reach God without understanding sex.

It is said Khajuraho, the sex temple of India was once a meditation centre! Disciples were made to concentrate on those erotic sculptures for days together so that they lose interest in most human fantasies ultimately leading them to the inner God. In fact Khajuraho has a Lord Ganesha’s idol inside the temple, which signify that once you get over with all your sexual acts, deeds and fantasies the inner God is available for you. (You can do the same meditation using your computer too. Open a nude pic of your favourite star and keep looking at it. You will tend to lose interest, as time progresses.)

Interestingly, both in Kama Sutra and the sculptures of Khajuraho one vital thing seems to be missing - the MISSIONARY position. It is one sexual position that dominates most Indian movies, households and beliefs. By nature, even if woman succeeds in becoming a cop or a military officer, a man tends to be stronger compared to woman and him lying all over the woman, who is much delicate, of course sounds illogical. And hence it was not included in our scriptures. Then who introduced the missionary position?

Osho in one of the books says that the missionary position was introduced by the Christian Missionary just to subdue women, and also the word MISSIONARY was extracted from them.

This blog might seem to end abruptly like Ram Gopal Varma's 'Bhoot', but the message is to make you try other positions to have more FUN.

Meanwhile read blog of a prostitute, whom I am trying to befriend!

Posted by Kenni at 06:07 AM | Comments (0)

July 06, 2004

First Time – not as easy as you think!

The customs might differ, but the purpose remains the same. In South, the boy waits for the girl, while in the North the girl waits for the boy. Few laughter and giggle fill the air, and the couple is pushed into a decorated room. The man gulps a glass of milk, if possible shares it with the bride, they come close, the lights are put off, and it is pitch dark - none knows what happens next.

The camera zooms on an early morning sunrise, and newly wed girl is shown blushing as if everything went on perfectly. Wish real life were as simple as what they show on the silver screen.

In fact, first nights are a bit nightmarish for most men. Not because it involves sex with a person, but due to the number of attempts that takes for a man to make it happen.

For a first timer, it at least takes 2-3 attempts to find the exact place where the deep gully is located. And another 2-3 attempts to keep the erection intact with so much of confusion. And yet another 2-3 attempts to fill in the blank perfectly. (These attempts can go on for few days, weeks and months too)

It isn’t as easy as it is shown in XXX movies. The gliding and sliding seems easy for the professionals, but can create havoc for an amateur. It is an art that has to be perfected with time, and the more you practice the better you are positioned.

Men get a bit disappointed about their nonperformance in meeting the most basic necessity of life, but then don’t worry 99 per cent men fail miserably. And I wonder why these failures are kept undercover - may be men shy away to share their first night debacle.

Thankfully both men and women open up to me about their sexual experiments and experiences. Nevertheless one of my clients called me over the phone to ask whether he can visit a brothel today!!!

My Advice for the First Night (only if it is the FIRST TIME for both the persons involved)

*Use a hell lot of lubrication (visit a medical store and get a Johnson & Johnson’s KY jelly)
*Stop immediately when it pains for any of the partner
*Don’t get dejected when attempts fail, it happens to all
*Patience & perseverance are the keys to a Happy Married Life!
*Don’t push too much
*And don’t try any of the KS positions

NOTE FOR WOMEN – If you find your man doing it perfectly the first time, then you can be sure that it isn’t his FIRST TIME!

NOTE FOR MEN – If you have done it perfectly the very first time, leave me a comment saying ‘I did’. Or else I have to ensure that most men who visit my blog failed in their first attempt.

This situation might not hold true if the woman involved is a prostitute!

Posted by Kenni at 04:59 AM | Comments (0)

June 23, 2004

Gay & lesbian trends - a psychological disorder!

It has become a fad to be referred as a gay or a lesbian. And straights have started accepting the concept thinking they are too broad minded. Few argue that it is just their sexual preference and they have their own choices to make – whether they want same sex partner or the opposite. If gay & lesbian traits are sexual preferences, then why are pedophiles, rapists, masochist, sadists, necrophilics and nudists sidelined? They could argue it is their sexual preference, which others need not accept!

Sex isn’t just rubbing your slits or filling your holes. It has higher meanings, which ultimately leads to the CREATION of life. Of course scientists say that same sex attraction is seen in animals too, but then I think we are far more evolved.

There are many reasons why normal human beings get diseased by this idea of finding a same sex partner with flesh to rub his/her genitals. But here are the most important ones –

1) Fear
2) Dejection
3) Desperation

Fear – Sigmund Freud says a girl child could get a phobia towards man’s penis if she accidentally sees one in her young age. This creates a fear, which starts hibernating in the personality and end of the day they get frightened by the very look of a man. They start preferring their own sex whom they find more gracious, unlike men.

Dejection – There are many who think they aren’t good looking or think they will not be good performers on the bed. This leads to a feeling of dejection, and they start seeking sexual and sensual pleasures from their own friends – majority of whom are of their own gender.

Desperation – Most same sex incidents are reported from places like prisons, hostels and military camps. They get indulged just because they don’t find any person who belongs to the other gender and just out of desperation start enjoying themselves.

(If you are gay or lesbian - ask yourself which one of the disorders you suffer from)

Sex is meeting of two different & opposite energies, which should take human consciousness beyond the lust factor. Hence after Eastern countries like India and China reached their peak in civilization they coined two very important belief systems - Shiva & Parvathi and Ying and Yang, respectively. They symbolized meeting of two opposite energies - man & woman, which will balance the world’s energy.

“Spiritually too, a straight guy can reach God faster than a gay or a lesbian, since two opposite halves have to meet before a person grows sexually”, and this is not my line but it was told by Osho Rajneesh.

And finally there is nothing wrong in being a gay or a lesbian. It is just a psychological disorder (just like phobias), which surely has a cure.

Posted by Kenni at 04:40 AM | Comments (0)

May 13, 2004

Multiple orgasms in women - a myth!

My sexual exploration started from the age of 3 ? when I took my LKG classmate (Kalpana) under the table to see what she had inside her panty! God knows why I did that, when I didn’t even had any intention or purpose at that tender age. Of course when I grew up the same act had many purposes, which would be termed explicit if discussed here.

I came across a fantastic book on sex when I was in my 8th grade “the modern techniques of sex”, which I read as religiously as possible. I should say that was the only book that I read more than any other books in life, which included physics, chemistry and zoology.

The book kept talking about everything about sex, sexual techniques, tips for safe sex etc, and the topic that interested me most was Orgasm in Women. It excited me because that was the heading I could not discuss with anyone and also could not experiment with. (Don’t tell me I should have experimented with Kalpana – it wasn’t possible because we had already shifted our house and also the school I studied in).

From books I graduated to porn movies. First X, then XX then XXX. The growth was gradual, and thankfully my journey stopped at movies unlike my other friends who moved a step ahead of visiting Chamiya Bars and having paid sex. I knew for sure I cannot sleep with a woman I don’t know neither could I sleep with a women who lies there as a rock expecting the man to complete the act. Any act or relationship, according to me, should be symbiotic.

I was already 21, and I still was searching for the answer. Do women really have multiple orgasms? And God answered my prayers. From the age of 22 – 26 five women entered my life who helped me to experiment and experience about whether women really are blessed more than men. And I got my answer.

In my experience, I can surely can say that women DON’T have multiple orgasms and the whole concept is a myth framed by few men who never bothered about women during the act of sex. Women have only 1 orgasm as any man do but it takes a lot of time. On an average a woman at least takes 20 – 45 minutes to get orgasm and by then the man is already through snoring beside her!

There are instances where women have delivered babies, lived their lives and died without even knowing what orgasm was all about. Delivering babies is like putting a switch ON. You need not know the fundamentals of electricity (orgasm) to put a light ON.

So guys stop being selfish when it comes to sexual game. Give as much as possible rather expecting too much, and also help her reach the plane, which she had been missing for lives now.

Please feel free to post your comments if you think I am wrong in my conclusion!

PS - Ever wondered why women are not shown to have gotten orgasm in any of the porn movies?

Posted by Kenni at 03:45 AM | Comments (0)

Why women wear lipsticks?

I have been blogging for 4 weeks now, and have got varied feedback from friends and other bloggers. Just 2 days back my friend Rajan (http://ouchmytoe.rediffblogs.com) commented that my blog on CONDOMS (scroll down to read) wasn’t good compared to other blogs. He said it wasn’t well researched! And yesterday my brother in law told me that my style of writing is good, and I should take up writing as my career or at least make money out of it.

Honestly I never thought I am a good writer, I just write my thoughts down. Isn’t it visible from the way I have started this blog on ‘why women wear lipstick’ with some crappy intro?!!
Now about the 3-inch red think women like to hold and rub on their lips, but hate to swallow!

Lipsticks were invented in the US decades back and were mostly used by sex workers (formerly known as prostitutes). When introduced, lipsticks were available only in red/pink colour, and when applied on the lips it was meant to denote some OTHER inner lips, which turns RED when a woman is erotically aroused. I am not going any deeper.

Sex workers primarily used lipsticks to attract men and let them know that they are ready to be taken. Later it was used by filmstars and celebrities - again to attract men this time on the subconscious level. Once it became predominant in movies, it became a fashion!

The Indian version of lipstick was betel leaves. Even today if you notice, in most Indian movies a wicked woman or a mistress who owns a brothel is shown chewing betel leaves to keep her lips RED.

It was much later that lipsticks started coming into the market in various colours – brown, black, violet et al but even today red lipsticks are the most selling ones.

Now, if you have been thinking that women wear lipstick to nourish their lips…think again. Why should any nourishing agent be RED in colour, and why not colourless like Vaseline!

Hey, Rajan is this well researched? ;) Your comments are welcome!

Posted by Kenni at 03:43 AM | Comments (0)

Why do people shy away from Condoms?

My friend Nopin (24) in Mumbai, name changed for security reasons, had an affair with a married woman (35) with 2 kids. No, the hubby wasn’t dead nor he was in Dubai or Saudi. He was very much alive in flesh and blood staying with her. But nothing could stop my friend, who had a dazzling personality with excellent communication skill, from pataoing the woman.

He never felt awkward about the relationship he was having with a married woman, nor he was reluctant about advertising about it to his friends, the only thing he was shy about was to buy a condom before he had a physical relationship with her. And to be honest he always used me for the same. Right from buying xxx cassettes to buying condoms I was always used by my friends since 13 years old. Not because I looked elder, but I never bothered about asking them.

This shyness isn’t true with Nopin alone. Most educated nuts and illiterate intellect hate to come out of this shackle of timidity to buy their own condom. If this mentality sustains, no amount of awareness could stop Indians from becoming positive in life… I mean HIV positive!

Pulli raja vuku AIDS varuma, the AIDS campaign in Tamil Nadu, and some Balbir Patsha ko…. something somethng in Mumbai can only make us aware about the advertisement and the creativity gone behind it. The real message is lost completely.

I would say condoms should be made compulsory, for Indians don’t take things seriously until and unless it is made mandatory.

*A person from the age of 12 and above should carry at least 2 condoms in his wallet - one for protection and another for double protection. No subsidy will be given for senior citizens.
*Condoms will be readily available in school/college canteens, and all the bookstores across the nation ‘cause most people start their sexual journey from their school days.
*All the corporate offices should give their employees at least 50 condoms a month for FREE.
*Condoms should be readily available in corporate offices - you never know what happens during the night shifts or in the lifts!
*The traffic police should check for condoms in the wallet along with driving license, insurance and RC book. An accident can kill only a few, but AIDS can kill many.
*Condoms should also be distributed with movie tickets in theatres, so that all are safe when the movie is boring.
*Make condoms available in these areas compulsorily - hotels, motels, beaches, buses, trains, flights, apartments, swimming pools, resorts, restaurants and all those places where the possibility of a man and a woman reaching is high and as well as minimal.

Men failing to adhere to the above given rules will be tied with their hands up for at least 15 days.

Guys remember the government can only warn you about AIDS, it could not send sniffer dogs behind you to check what you do in your hostel during weekends or what you do behind Jhun Jhunwala college in Ghatkopar!

Don’t take unnecessary risks take life in YOUR HANDS!

Posted by Kenni at 03:40 AM | Comments (0)

Lack of contraceptives led to the concept of marriage!

I pity those women who show a lackadaisical attitude in getting married, thinking it is a life-long bondage that could impinge their freedom of existence. It could undoubtedly be said that the concept of MARRIAGE was introduce by the men, who readily restraint themselves from their selfish desires, to save the women from the burdens of life.

FLASHBACK

Human beings lived in community, and free-sex was the only religion they followed. Any man could lay any woman, sometimes with their consent and sometimes without their consent (rape wasn’t illegal then, but was claimed to be one of the ways of having sex).

Lack of contraceptives lead to easy conceptions and a single lady could be seen with many children without knowing the right father. Osho Rajneesh’s in one of his books beautifully argues how the word ‘uncle’ came into existence much before the word ‘father’. All the men in the community were called as uncles (no the exact word though), as none knew their real father. Even today any stranger is called an uncle, which instantly brings in a relationship without many thoughts.

Later in the community it was seen that men had their fun screwing away every women they met, and women were the ultimate sufferers to take care of their children. No man shared their responsibilities, as he was unsure about his progeny.

So someone in the community raised his voice. He said, enough of screwing around. Men should restraint themselves now, and should share woman’s responsibilities. This lead to a major brain storming sessions of intellectuals and following were the minutes of the meeting…

*One man should screw only one woman.
*If he gets attracted to other women, he should marry them too (this led to polygamy)
*The marriage will be a BIG public ceremony where in all the people of the community will be called, so that all men now know that the woman is married. This was also a warning message to other men to keep their eyes off the married lady.
*Married man and woman will stay together and raise their children, and this will be called a family.
*Man will work outdoors and bring food, while woman will raise the children. (This lead to economy)

Thus came the concept of marriage. But there was another problem, which people faced later. As the community started growing, all could not be called for the marriage. And the men who didn’t attended the marriage never knew that a particular woman was married. They still went of their prey. It was high time the intellectuals got together for their 2nd round of meeting. The following were decided in the meeting..

*A man will tie a thread around woman’s neck so that other could know that she is married (this is the mangal sutra)
*A woman will put sindoor/bindi on her forehead (I will discuss the importance of bindi in my next article)
*She will also wear rings on her feet, if men fail to see the mangal sutra

PRESENT

Even today married women stick to these things to prove that they are married, while a man is as free as ever - until and unless he opens his mouth and confesses. So girls, if you still think marriage is a bondage and that you don’ want to get married, do let us know. Let us time travel and live in our flashbacks!

Posted by Kenni at 03:39 AM | Comments (0)

Why women wear heels!

I might lay down women anytime, but would think twice before I put them down. I respect them, I adore them, I admire them, and at times I look at them as sex objects too. For me sex plays a major role in anybody’s life. I would not exist if my parents thought sex was sick, and you would not be reading my blog if your parents thought the same!

For me, sex plays an important role in the lives of living organisms and the whole world revolves around it. And most of the time, I have noticed that women are the first to instigate sexual feelings in men. No wonder Vishwamitra had to get up from his meditation half way to acknowledge Menaka’s sexuality.

After my insight into ‘why women wear BRAssieres,’ here is the logical reasoning behind why women wear heels!

If you think women wear heels to look taller – ask yourself why isn’t the footwear uniformly thick? And why is it thick at the heel area alone?

Here it goes…

Normally when a woman stands on her flat feet - the body and the spinal chord remain straight. But when she wears the heels, the upper part of the body above the hip area bends in front. This position pushes the butt behind, making it look bigger. Also it is very difficult to walk wearing heels, and when they struggle to walk their flesh wobbles. And show me one man who doesn’t like to watch a swinging butt?

Posted by Kenni at 03:37 AM | Comments (0)

Tips for Tantrik Sex - From Sex to Super Consciousness!

There are various ways to get enlightened and Tantrik Sex is one of them rarely used today. Most saints are aware of this technique, but refuse to talk about it as the moment they talk about SEX they are termed as fake.

It is believed that when Eastern countries like India and China had reached their peak of civilization, Western countries still had people living in the caves. We are far ahead of our times and it is pathetic to see our people falling in the trap of Western influence without even taking an attempt to understand what Indian values really meant!

India attributed anything and everything to the God/Divine. Right from sex workers to the first night, everything was made divine. The most beautiful woman of the society was made Deva Dasi (servant of God), and prostitution was made divine. Same way, the first sexual intercourse between a man and a woman was made divine by calling it Shanti Muhurta. Even today, the first-night room is decorated with flowers, incense sticks, and all that is used in puja in a temple. Ever wondered what job coconut, sandal and kumkum had to do in a room where a newly wed couple is having sex?

Pre-requisite before you start experimenting with Tantrik Sex!

*Both the partners should be equally ready for the act.
*Both the partners should be believers of God, and should spend a lot of time in meditation together. This will help you in equating your body energy level.
*No amount of cheating or lies is allowed.
*Both the partners should be free from any kind of sexually transmitted diseases.
*Remember you are going to communicate on the soul level, hence better to avoid strangers as partners.
*Both partners should not have any kind of inhibition for sex, sexual position and sexual fantasy.
*Have patience don’t hurry. It is a very slow and steady process, any kind of urgency might even lead to insanity.

Three Important Steps of Tantrik Sex!

Linga Puja

In Sanskrit Linga means penis, and am sure you understand what Shiva Linga means now. In fact, Shiva and Parvati invented the whole of Kama Sutra positions over a period of time, which helped them reach the highest level of consciousness.

Linga puja involves praying to God, and then performing puja to man’s penis. The man should be clean to the core, and the woman should not have any feeling of disgust in her mind. The whole exercise could sound funny for few lower souls, but this content is unavailable on the net, and the scribe has referred some rarely found books and spoken to few spiritual Gurus to compile the content!

Yoni Puja

Yoni in Sanskrit means woman’s genitals, and the man should do a similar puja to Yoni as done during the Linga puja. The puja should involve all that rituals that is done in a real puja in any temple. In fact the human genitals should be treated as deity, and the puja should be performed with immense respect and devotion.

The Final Communion

The final communion can happen after initial foreplay. Remember the whole act should at least last for 3 hours! Try to imagine your favourite God in your mind, and if possible keep chanting your favourite mantra it could be Om Namo Shivaya or Om Namo Narayanaya.

Keep prolonging your ejaculation, and whenever you feel you are going to ejaculate – you can stop, and then start again.

Nirvana

These are few baby steps you take to reach the highest level of consciousness. The day when you will have orgasm without ejaculation, and the day when your semen will move upwards is when you will be having an orgasm on the soul level…and that is the destination you have to reach!

All the best! Keep me posted.

Posted by Kenni at 03:35 AM | Comments (0)

Why India will never become Kamyaab!

I really doubt that EK din will ever come! The one who realizes that India will never become kamyaab becomes a NRI, and the people who cannot make it abroad become politicians! Politicians? I am not just talking about the 400 and odd members sitting in the parliament, I am also referring to those politicians in WHITE collar whose soul purpose of existence is bringing down talents!

I remember a song we used to sing in our school days - Hum honge kaamyaab EK din…..man mein hai vishwas…pura hai vishwas hum honge kamyaab ek din…..

India has everything - right from manpower to money and talent. The only thing India and Indians lack is ORIGINALITY and ATTITUDE! In my experience as an Indian, I have found most Indians a hypocrite. They never talk the walk, nor walk the talk. They will be the first to condemn SEX, but will be the first to be in the theatre queue to watch soft-porn movies like Jism and Fire. I remember women holding placards for screening of Deepa Mehta’s experience on screen and also remember women running to hold and feel Bill Clinton when he was in India, even after Monika Lewinsky’s issue which was BLOWN out of proportion!

Sex is still considered a taboo in India, but when Outlook (magazine) comes out with an issue which reads ‘69 per cent Indian women satisfied sexually’ on the cover page, none fails to empty the rack! Visit any household, and check the channel list, I am 100 per cent sure that FTV is one of the first to come in the list.

We really need to grow up! And remember guys - Don’t CONDEMN sex, CONDOM it!

Posted by Kenni at 03:33 AM | Comments (0)

Sex stories in the (un)holy Bible - a revelation?!

You are here out of your choice, and not by force! You can read on and leave your comment, or press the back button and read some BORING BLOG about the day-to-day activity of Kaidi Kannayiram or Prof Popatlal!

It is my thought space ANYWAYS!

I am not here to put down the Holy Bible by putting up the SEX stories in them. I am here to tell that it is all about the WAY YOU LOOK AT IT!

It is my thought space ANYWAYS!

I am not here to put down the Holy Bible by putting up the SEX stories in them. I am here to tell that it is all about the WAY YOU LOOK AT IT!

Story 1

Lot's Family Affair - Genesis 19:31-38
[31] And the firstborn said unto the younger, Our father is old, and there is not a man in the earth to come in unto us after the manner of all the earth:
[32] Come, let us make our father drink wine, and we will lie with him, that we may preserve seed of our father.
[33] And they made their father drink wine that night: and the firstborn went in, and lay with her father; and he perceived not when she lay down, nor when she arose.
[34] And it came to pass on the morrow, that the firstborn said unto the younger, Behold, I lay yesternight with my father: let us make him drink wine this night also; and go thou in, and lie with him, that we may preserve seed of our Father.
[35] And they made their father drink wine that night also: and the younger arose, and lay with him; and he perceived not when she lay down, nor when she arose.
[36] Thus were both the daughters of Lot with child by their father.
[37] And the firstborn bare a son, and called his name Moab: the same is the father of the Moabites unto this day.
[38] And the younger, she also bare a son, and called his name Benammi: the same is the father of the children of Ammon unto this day.

Story 2

Abraham Visits the Maid - Genesis 16:1-5
[1] Now Sarai Abram's wife bare him no children: and she had an handmaid, an Egyptian, whose name was Hagar.
[2] And Sarai said unto Abram, Behold now, the LORD hath restrained me from bearing: I pray thee, go in unto my maid; it may be that I may obtain children by her. And Abram hearkened to the voice of Sarai.
[3] And Sarai Abram's wife took Hagar her maid the Egyptian, after Abram had dwelt ten years in the land of Canaan, and gave her to her husband Abram to be his wife.
[4] And he went in unto Hagar, and she conceived: and when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress was despised in her eyes.
[5] And Sarai said unto Abram, My wrong be upon thee: I have given my maid into thy bosom; and when she saw that she had conceived, I was despised in her eyes: the LORD judge between me and thee.

Story 3
Onan Spills His Seed - Genesis 38:7-10
[7] And Er, Judah's firstborn, was wicked in the sight of the LORD; and the LORD slew him.
[8] And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother's wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother.
[9] And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
[10] And the thing which he did displeased the LORD: wherefore he slew him also.

Story 4
David and Jonathan Undressed - 1 Samuel 18:1-4
[1] And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.
[2] And Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father's house.
[3] Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul.
[4] And Jonathan stripped himself of the robe that was upon him, and gave it to David, and his garments, even to his sword, and to his bow, and to his girdle.

Story 5
David's Virgin Bedwarmer - 1 Kings 1:1-4
[1] Now king David was old and stricken in years; and they covered him with clothes, but he gat no heat.
[2] Wherefore his servants said unto him, Let there be sought for my lord the king a young virgin: and let her stand before the king, and let her cherish him, and let her lie in thy bosom, that my lord the king may get heat.
[3] So they sought for a fair damsel throughout all the coasts of Israel, and found Abishag a Shunammite, and brought her to the king.
[4] And the damsel was very fair, and cherished the king, and ministered to him: but the king knew her not.

Posted by Kenni at 03:31 AM | Comments (0)

An insight into BRAssieres!

Women’s breasts have two important purposes one to attract the men and another feeding the child. If noticed carefully most Indian temples have sculptures of women with erect and pointed breasts, which is non-existent in nature except for people like Pamela Anderson who have filled their flesh with silicon.

WARNING!

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Erect breasts infuse sexual desires in a man and God never wanted that to be the primary use of woman’s breasts. He created woman with sloppy breasts, which has a beautiful purpose. It is logically impossible to feed a baby with an erect breast, while feeding becomes easy with a sloppy one. The breast is designed so well that it doesn’t suffocate the baby while feeding, and also a newborn baby has a wonderful ability to breath and swallow at the same time.

The purpose of woman’s breast took a paradigm shift after the invention of brassieres. The main purpose of breasts shifted to eroticism rather than considering them as an organ of feeding. If you are under the impression that brassieres are worn to just to support the breasts, then you need to do your homework right. Brassieres were invented and are used today to give breasts a lift, and make it look erect and pointed, which invariably attracts men. It could undoubtedly said that women are one to instill sexuality first, and if men acknowledge it my staring at their breasts, am sure you will be termed immediately as a desperate bas****!

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Posted by Kenni at 03:27 AM | Comments (0)

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Why women wear lipsticks?

Why do people shy away from Condoms?

Lack of contraceptives led to the concept of marriage!

Why women wear heels!

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Why India will never become Kamyaab!

Sex stories in the (un)holy Bible - a revelation?!

An insight into BRAssieres!