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December 03, 2009

Top 10 cruel things women do to men - revealed

Washington, Nov 30 (ANI): Despite being known as the fairer sex, women can be downright nasty and often do cruel things to men. Now, Fox News has compiled a list of top 10 cruel things that women do to men and how they play with the guy's emotions or ego.

10. They don't pick up the phone

While men feel good as they manage to take the girls' phone number, the girls often give them a fake number or don't pick up the call.

9. Use men for free drinks

Some women go out never planning to spend any of their own money on drinks at the bar or club. Instead, they count on their feminine wiles to convince guys to shell out for their libations. While some of them might begin to get to know him, the cruel and heartless ones will take that drink, flirt a little and move on.

8. Use men as placeholders

If she is a decent person, she'll just get it over with and dump the boy, but if she's cruel, she'll hold on to him for a while until somebody new comes along. These girls don't like to be alone and without a relationship, so instead of putting you out of your misery and ending it, she'll string you along until she meets someone to replace you.

7. Emotionally manipulate men

Men don't like to see women cry and some cruel women take advantage of the fact and use it to get what they want. A few tears would make men do anything to get it to stop.

6. Use physical violence

While men hitting girls are often termed nasty, some cruel women feel it's perfectly acceptable to hit their boyfriends, as he would never hit her back. This type of woman feels like she can inflict any kind physical pain on him without fear of repercussion.

5. Criticize their men in public

Cruel women criticize and humiliate their men in public places. They often poke fun at her man or even soundly debase him.

4. They don't disclose their relationship status

It's certainly not the worst thing a woman could do to a man, but it is annoying when she's already in a relationship and lets you assume that she's available so that she can enjoy the man's flirtation and flattery.

3. They withhold sex

This is a time-tested, and frequently used, cruel thing for women to do to men. For most men, sex is as important as breathing, so withholding it in order to get something she wants or simply to punish her man for his transgressions is a pretty awful thing to do, even if it is effective.

2. They test their men

You're all ready to go for a night out with your friends, when your girlfriend calls and asks you to change your plans to be with her instead. She doesn't have any particular reason; she just wants to see you. She knows that you had plans to meet up with the guys, but if you really loved her, you'd come over to her place instead. If her request comes with an "if you really loved me," then it's a test. If you choose anything other than immediately rushing to her side, you're going to fail. This kind of testing in a relationship is indeed cruel and petty.

1. They flirt to inspire jealousy

Maybe she's feeling under-appreciated, maybe you've just had a big fight or maybe she just enjoys the tortured look on your face. For whatever reason, girls who flirt obviously with other guys in front of their boyfriends are immature and manipulative. (ANI)

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September 06, 2009

Get your ‘Saturn Transit’ prediction!

I don’t want to bombard you with astrological jargons. Just close your eyes for a moment and rewind your life. You will notice one stark truth that – many ‘MAJOR’ changes took place in your life between August 2007 and September 2009. Few changed jobs, few lost jobs, few got a new girlfriend, few god married, few changed their house, few invested in house, few lost in stocks, few gained in stocks, few delivered children, few started their own business, few traveled abroad and few came back to India! And these events indeed were the effect of Saturn transit on your personal life!

‘Saturn transit’ impacts every human being in two simple ways – one good way and the other - bad way. From the end of September 2009, the planet Saturn will move into Kanya (Virgo), and will stay there till November 2011. So if you want to know what exactly Saturn transit will do to your life, get your customized prediction now! Click here and scroll down to see something called ‘Transit Prediction’. You can pay me online through paypal or you can mail me at kennedig@yahoo.com if you aren’t comfortable making the payment online.

Please note – I won’t be sending any sample reports to anyone, as the report will be different for different people.

And also ‘NO’ remedies will be suggested – as I personally don’t believe in them. Because when God has already decided to fuck you - the best bet is to lie down and enjoy!

God Bless All

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August 27, 2009

Take care of your children!

Child abuse isn’t a new phenomenon. It was always there since human civilization. Just that these days the media tries to create a lot of noise when such event occurs. Of course people’s awareness towards the subject has increased, but the main reasons for it to occur on the first place are the parents themselves! I have noticed ‘nonsensical’ moms buying cloths for their children, just because the dress looks cute! This includes mini skirts, and see through which these moms probably were not allowed to wear when they were kids! The first rule is – when the kids grow let their dress grow too. And ‘moms’ – please try to see the world from a man’s eyes too before it is too late.

I met a female client recently, who had total aversion towards sexual life. She is married, but she could not understand why she carried this particular aversion. And the truth - she was molested when she was a child. I will deliberately explain the event as explicitly as possible, so that at least one person who reads this particular blog understands the seriousness and remains on the guard with respect to their children.

It isn’t true that only men get into sexual abuse and that only men are sexually deprived. Women are equally abusive and are equally deprived. The society is so lenient towards women in the name of equality with men that many a crime the women commit goes unseen forever. I watched an eye-opening documentary recently, which says – 33 per cent of the lesbian sexual acts are mere rapes - a point to be pondered upon for sure.

My client was just 4 years old when this event really took place. She used to be left alone at one of their ‘close’ relatives place to play in the evening. And this was a routine thing. The couple was childless, and my client now thinks they had sexually incompatibility too. The relative lady was 30 years old then. She would call the child in the kitchen, and undress completely, and cook completely nude. The child would just keep playing with the toys.

And one day the lady just walked close to the child and started rubbing her genitals on the child’s genitals. She kept doing it, and the child never understood what was going on. And she even asked the child to kiss her genitals! For the child it was yucky, and she refused.

I personally was a lot shocked to hear this from the client. And the only question I could ask my client was – why didn’t you tell your parents about this? And she said – I didn’t understand what was happening, and didn’t know what to tell them! True – how can a 4-year-old child interpret such an event? Just because your child doesn’t tell you things doesn’t mean ALL is well.

I have read stuff where it says – most child abuse happens in the family, and this kind of abuse can do a permanent damange to the kid's mind. It is not that you always have to remain paranoid, but then don’t take things easily either.

I am sure all need money, and all are in a hurry to prosper. But end of the day everyone knowingly or unknowingly are in the rat race to give a better life for their children. And if tomorrow we are held responsible for child’s unhappiness, then the whole rat race becomes a mere waste of time and effort.

When my children were born, we i.e., - my wife and me - had decided that wherever the kids go, one of us will always accompany them. And we try to stick to this rule. And secondly what they wear is decided by me and not by their mom.

I ran over a goat recently and the goat died instantly. I asked few questions to myself. Was I drunk? The answer was NO. Was I over-speeding? The answer was NO. Did my brakes fail? The answer was NO. Was I on the wrong lane or route? The answer was NO. Hence the death of the goat is not my headache. Jo hona hai so hoyega, which is true - but then see to it that your irresponsibility didn’t lead to such an event!

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August 12, 2009

Swine Flu!

Kindly don’t apply any scientific logic. Just burn karpur (karpuram) and dhoop (sambrani) at home twice a day – morning and evening. If your children are allergic to smoke – even then don’t worry – wheezing can be cured anyways.

Some more sent to me by my friends...

Certain Home remedies recommended by Medical Practitioners - Preventive measures to develop the immune in your body to fight against H1NI flu

1) Inhale Clove Oil for one second everyday

2) Chew 1 Clove daily in the morning

3) Eat Raw Garlic, Onion, Ginger (1 to 5 gm) daily

4) Drink Hot Milk with 2 gm of Turmeric in the night to gain antibodies in your system

5) Consume Plenty of Vitamin C fruits - Lemon, Orange, Amla etc

6) Gargle every morning with hotwater mixed with salt

7) H1N1 flu can also be kept away by using common herbs states Vaidya Pravin Hirpara. One can boost immunity by making a decoction (ukala) of basil (tulsi) leaves, jaggery (gur) and dried ginger (sunth). Tulsi has anti-viral properties and improves body's resistance to diseases.

8) NIV has advised putting few drops of Eucalyptus Oil (Nilgiri Oil) on your handkerchief or mask as an effective preventive measure against Swine Flu

9) Yog Guru Baba Ramdev has claimed that Swine Flu can be cured through ancient practice - Yoga. The Yog guru has stated that doing "Pranayam" regularly will make the heart strong that can prevent the virus from entering the body. He has also stated that there is a plant named "Gilloi" which can be both, a preventive measure as well as cure for Swine Flu as it makes the respiratory and immune system strong.

10) Dr. BN Singh, director of Homeopathy, UP says, "Swine flu is an influenza like illness, where primary symptoms are very much similar to those of influenza. Thus one can take Influnenzium 200 as a preventive medicine. Three doses each after 10 minutes within 24 hours can develop an immunity against H1N1 virus".

God Bless All

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November 13, 2008

My gaming experience!

I think I started living my real life only after I quit my 9 to 9 job. Till then probably I swam in the opposite direction to succeed in life. And when I tried to surrender to the almighty, I did one simple thing – I turned back. I turned back to flow with the divine, and I am totally amazed at what God had to offer. Well I got my first payment check from Google Ads this month, and I got a Play Station 2 for my nephew with the money!

Just a couple of weeks back a student from MCC, for whom I had taken a lecture on Internet a couple of months back, started to chat with me. Through him (just 18 years now) I came to know how big the gaming industry is. In life I have always walked with a conviction that – you should not close yourself from anyone as far as information or knowledge is concerned. You never who will enlighten you when? And this guy enlightened me on the gaming industry.

I met another cousin of mine, who is 23 now, to learn how to play. And he helped me thoroughly taking me through many games he already has played and won – for few he took 2 months to reveal the secrets it seems.

I got a Play Station 2 at an affordable price, and have started playing. And to be honest - the experience is MIND BOGGLING! I have read news reports about how these games can affect your health, and how addictive they are. I dunno about the health part, but then they are of course addictive. And not that they are only for kids, even adults can enjoy it completely. And also it isn’t easy as it sounds - you need to have a lot of logical thinking and analysis to open secrets and move on to the next levels.

I strongly feel that if a child grows up ‘without’ a Game Console then he surely can be considered as a deprived child!

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October 24, 2008

When will it rain?

It was raining heavily in Chennai for couple of days, and people were clueless about when it will stop. In fact it is very easy to guess it. Whenever the meteorological department asks the government to announce holidays for schools, it simply means that it won’t rain that day. And the next 2 days will be full of scorching heat. Day before yesterday, the government announced holidays for schools, and the rain stopped. And since yesterday sun is shining as bright as it can.

I simply don’t understand why millions of money is wasted in sending satellites, which hardly send relevant data. The head of the meteorological department comes into limelight only when there is rain, and the moment he says it will rain heavily, the rain stops! And I have been noticing this for couple of years.

Tsunami was unexpected, and no satellite could send pre warning. And the next 2 times when scientist said, there are chances of tsunami - fishermen died in stampede!

In fact there is a book called Brihat Samita (2 volumes) written by Indian saints, which talks about how human beings and nature are well connected. It also talks about how by taking into consideration few natural signs few important events can be predicted. You should read the book completely to gather guts to deny the facts.

Here is a small sign you can experiment yourself. If you find red colour dragonflies flying in plenty at human heights or a bit above – there will be heavy rains in 48 hours. Don’t apply logic, just experiment!

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October 16, 2008

Seventymm.com!

When things don’t go the way you want them to, then it is always better to change yourself. I am a movie freak, and when things didn’t go the way I wanted them to – I decided NOT to visit multiplexes. I somehow hate being checked by the security guys. Of course they are doing it for our own safety, but then terrorists never think the usual way. Another thing I always hated was to buy something that is sold for more than MRP. For the same reason I stopped going to Mayajaal, and I also stopped going to Inox. And then God send me a blessing – http://www.seventymm.com!

I had gone to an exhibition a couple of months back, and there was a stall put by seventymm.com. They waived the registration charges for me, took a refundable deposit of Rs 200, and a monthly charge of Rs 300. And what I get in return is – high quality DVDs everyday at my doorstep. Yes – picked and dropped right in my house every single day!

I love the system they use and follow. They have huge collection of movies in their database. You need to login into their site, and queue some 30 or more movies of your liking, and they will deliver them one by one everyday.

So on the economy front I spend just Rs 10 per movie, and Rs 300 for 30 movies is an amazing deal - otherwise I used to spend some Rs 500 on a single movie in a multiplex. All the DVDs are crystal clear with clear sub titles.

Of course movies are made for big screens, but then at home – I don’t have any fucking stranger sitting next to me fiddling with his sick mobile phone all through the movie. And also I don’t have to tolerate any drunk educated bastards sitting their commenting on the movie.

Well my decision helps the government in a way too. I use less petrol, and keep more liquid cash on hand. And what am I going to do with the money saved? Might invest in a high definition home theatre soon.

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September 16, 2008

Donate wisely!

There is a general perception - if you donate you are a nice human being, and if you don’t you aren’t. I have never donated anything to Kargil funds, I have never donated a single paisa to Tsunami affected people, I have never sponsored CRY child, and I never will donate anything to Bihar floods. Of course I believe in donation and also helping people, but I also am bothered about the funds being used correctly.

Why I didn’t donate for Kargil funds?

To be honest I don’t hate Pakistanis at all. If I were the Prime Minister, the first thing I probably would do is re-unite India and Pakistan. Hence I never wanted to put my money in killing someone who wasn’t a direct threat to me. I surely would sponsor any terrorist group if they promise to eradicate corruption in Indian politics.

Cross border firing was never new, but Kargil issue was deliberately blown out of proportion by A B Vajpayee to divert people’s attention and to save his otherwise shaky government. Thanks to Kargil - A B Vajpayee could complete his 5 years tenure without any problems.

These days I have few Pakistani clients – who really are good human beings. They don’t hate Indians as much as we think they do. Politicians always want this hatred to persist among people so that they can enjoy power and meet their selfish desires. Thank God I didn’t donate for Kargil.

And there is another news report, which says that the number of army men who die by committing suicide in India are much more than army men who die in wars!

Why I didn’t donate for Tsunami Relief?

Tsunami was one of the most unexpected natural calamities to hit human beings and human psyche. None could have predicted that seawater can cross its border and affect us so much. We always thought we could reclaim any amount of land, build houses, sell them at high rates (suiting our own greed), and fool the nature. We never thought when nature hits back, it hits back real hard.

The government has provided houses for the fishermen at a safe distance from the shore. But these fishermen rent that place to someone else, and live in huts very close to the sea, where they don’t pay any rent! In fact most people who died in Tsunami were people who lived in these huts. The buildings remained unaffected. And all blamed the nature for the catastrophe.

‘Old’ clothes, funds, money, ration all flew to help the affected people. After accepting enough clothes, the people refused to accept any more. Hence tons and tons of clothes sent were wasted on the way. Every affected family had 3 stoves, 6 blankets, and couple of sleeping bags sent from Europe. These people never knew what a sleeping bag was. They all took them to T Nagar and sold them at decent prices. After a couple of days of limelight, they refused to accept anything but cash. They were clear, if you want to help just give us cash.

NGOs would collect funds, handover it to the people, take a photograph, and leave. And the one who got the money would rush to the nearest wine shop and booze like there is no tomorrow. Hence there was substantial increase in liquor sale during Tsunami days.
I am not saying don’t help, but help wisely. You cannot donate few lakhs to a fisherman for he wouldn’t know what to do with it.

To be continued….

Why I keep myself away from CRY?
And why I won’t donate for Bihar floods!

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August 22, 2008

People whom we don’t want to emulate!

This happened when I wasn’t a professional astrologer. Being the channel manager of Sify Astrology I knew many good astrologers with whom I interacted on a daily basis. And if any of my friends or colleagues needed some professional help, I would recommend some good astrologers to them. In the process I always refused to ask for any special discounts from the astrologers, fearing that it might put them in an embarrassing situation.

One of my seniors, who was doing really well on his career front, and also making good amount of money – any day beyond his capabilities and potential, asked me if I can put him to any of the astrologers I knew. I said perfectly fine. And as a normal Indian he wanted to bargain. I told him, “it is not that if we bargain, the astrologers wouldn’t agree. They will. But then it would be better for us to maintain a professional relationship, and try not to put them in a circumstance where they cannot refuse to oblige.”

I spoke to the astrologer and I had the appointment fixed for my colleague. I mentioned about the fees to my colleague, and he agreed.

The next day when I reached my office, my colleague came my desk. He said how good the consultation went on, and how much it helped him in clearing his confusions about life. He thanked me for putting him across a good astrologer. I felt very good and was proud to know that - if not capable of helping people directly, you at least can be mediator.

After a while I called upon the astrologer, with whom I shared a special relationship. I asked him about the session, and he said it was good, and thanked me for spreading his good work. I still had a question on back of my mind making me feel a bit uncomfortable, and finally I asked him, “hope you got your fees correctly.” He decently said, “forget about it, money isn’t everything.” I said. “I know money isn’t everything, but please tell me if the person paid you your fees.” And he said NO. The astrologer’s fee was Rs 1000 and my colleague paid him only Rs 200, that too without asking how much he charged for a single consultation! And this happened in spite of me making him understand about the astrologer’s professional charges with a special request asking him not to bargain!

It isn’t just about money. It is about trust, and it is about using someone else’s help to meet your selfish end. For me it was an interesting episode to understand how intelligently a person can manipulate others to save few bucks, and how cheap a person can behave thinking he can outsmart others.

Many a times I have wondered, if life is about learning good things, then why do people like my colleague exist? And after many years I got an answer to my query. Of course life is about learning and getting influenced by others, but it also is about ‘NOT’ learning and ‘NOT’ getting influenced by few people!

May righteousness prevail!

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August 15, 2008

Happy Independence Day!

I always had this doubt in my mind. At your prime age - say between 30 and 50, if you are given an option to settle in the US or in India. What would you choose?

If by chance or by mistake you choose India – then you surely are a true Indian and have all the liberty to celebrate Indian Independence Day!

God Bless All!

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June 05, 2008

My salute to the West!

I have a friend turned client, and thankfully most of my predictions for him have been on the dot – with month range I should say. While in India, he would call me, fix an appointment and never turn up. Many a times I have cancelled all my other commitments just for him, and he never had the courtesy to call me and say that he won’t be coming. With time, whenever he called me - I would give him a date, and then carry on with my work – going out for a movie for instance- for I knew he would never come. And my guesses were always right!

He went to the US a couple of months back, and visited India for a couple of days recently. He called me from India, and said he wanted to meet me. This time I cancelled all my other commitments for I knew I would surely come. The appointment was at 11 am, and he called me at 11.10 am saying he was on his way. A marked improvement I should say. I am sure if he spends few more months in the US he will reach my home on time the next time. So what brought the change?

In India we have been tuned to “sab kuch chalta hai” attitude. We don’t bother about other person’s time. And we have forgotten courtesy long back. This plight of a country, which was at his peak of civilization when the Americans were living in the caves, is shameful by all sense. We aren’t Indians anymore, and we have lost all our Indianess but we still want to bask in its glorious past. We have lost in the race of development, and we have stopped getting civilized too.

As on date we need to visit the US to understand the basics disciplines of life. We need to visit the US to learn that – we should not spit in public places. We need to learn from the West that we should throw litter only in the dustbin, and we need to watch Hollywood movies to understand what lane disciplines actually are.

I met my ex-neighbour - an activist - in Chennai recently, and I happened to meet him at Chennai railway station. And the railway tracks of the IT hubs we Indians boast about were flooded with human shit. The place stunk like hell, and the guy said – if this place stopped stinking, we would fail to recognize the place! They have more or less become synonyms today. “There is so much to learn from the West,” he said. “And one of the first is – cleanliness!”

We usually laugh at the Westerners saying they don’t wash their butts with water - they use toilet papers to wipe it off instead. I think we have been trained only to wash our butts properly – rest everything we have started to take it for granted.

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May 02, 2008

Am I bad tempered?

I think I am a bit bad tempered. I guess all knew it long back, but then I realized it very recently. In normal conditions – I love peace, I like humor and I always try to greet and smile first. I love to have a wholesome laughter too. But then there are few things that trigger the animal in me instantaneously, and I try to behave nasty. I don’t hate people at all. But then I hate few attitudes they carry. I stick to what Jesus Christ beautifully said in this context – Hate the sin and not the sinner!

Just today, I had a fight with one of clients. She consulted me few months ago, and I had predicted a ‘job’ for her between March 2008 and June 2008. For couple of months she has been coming online on yahoo messenger. She would send me loads of messages, and also type all her life’s problems in spite of me saying (BRB) ‘be right back.’ She in fact wasn’t concerned whether I am listening or not – she just needed a psychological pillow where in she can throw all her mental garbage!

June 2008 isn’t over as yet hence my prediction has more time to come true. I cannot do anything, if the client hurries for the prediction to manifest faster. I am not God. Even God takes time to give you what you need. He doesn’t make you run, when you are born. And he doesn’t give you a baby the next day after your marriage.

I always kept replying to her, as I never wanted to make her feel bad. And also I don’t charge extra money for my time like most other astrologers do. I am always good to sincere seekers, but would hate if someone wants to act smart or take me for granted.

Suddenly today, she asked me to check her bhukti and antaras once again so that she might have luck to get a job earlier. On top that she said – she knows astrology, and she just wanted a second opinion from me.

Who am I to hate people who know astrology? And who am I to feel bad if someone else knows astrology? But my concern is simple – if you know astrology, then don’t try to teach other astrologer about what you know. Astrological discussion is healthy. I agree. But it is different from astrological consultation. You pay and seek other astrologer’s help, because you are unable to decipher your problem – so better to consult him with a blank mind and mouth shut. In fact the astrologer is least interested to know or understand about what you have gained after reading few books on astrology available at the railway station, which you bought just before catching the train.

The result of this incident - I blocked her on Yahoo messenger, and thought about putting up some rules you can follow when you want to consult me.

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April 27, 2008

IPL – Indian ‘porkhel’ League

Due to limited time the match overs were reduced to 5. The toss was put. They didn’t have a coin, and hence the ‘in or out’ method was used. (I never knew this particular system still existed after nearly 2 decades I stopped playing cricket. We would place a small stone in our hand, close it and whirl the hand and either keep the stone inside or let it go. The other team should say whether the stone is in or out). They won the toss, and like any other team elected to bat first. There were 4 members in one team, and 4 on the opposite already and I happened to be the 9th person. So the boys decided to make me play double sided – meaning I will bowl, bat and field from both the sides!

The first team scored 30 runs in 5 overs, out of which I had hit a six. And the second team got out scoring just 10 runs, leaving me as the last man. The rules were the same – no runs behind the stumps, you are out if the ball goes into others’ compound wall, you can hit 4 & 6 only straight, and there was no ‘current’ run outs. I hit 1 six and 3 fours, and got bowled when the score was 28, hence we lost the match by 2 runs. The boys were happy with my performance, and at end of the match they said, “ellarum sendu uncle ku oru ‘O’ podunge. (Meaning three cheers to uncle).

Well this match happened just yesterday. Out of the guys only I was 33 years old, and rest of the boys were less than 15 or just 15 years old!

This match reminded me of a thought-provoking lesson we had in our Marathi syllabus during our school days. The name of the lesson was ‘Porkhel’ - which means (por) Kid’s (Khel) Play. It was a beautiful lesson where the author while coming back from office, instead of going home directly, stops to watch a street cricket match. He gets so engrossed in the match that he is left clueless about who spat chewed pan on his shirt! He feels a lot confused, and starts thinking whether what he did was right or wrong. He explains how important ‘porkhel’ is in human life sighting few interesting examples too.

We are so busy in our jobs that we hardly have the time to play. We have become stern, tight and lifeless. We work all through the week to rest at home on weekends. We take huge home loans – and never stay there. We have credit cards, and half the times worry about repayments. We have investments in insurance plans – which comes back only to pay our hospital bills in oldage.

The rich are members of elite clubs and play all through the day, as they have others who work for them. The poor have their own way of enjoying life. The sufferers are the poor middleclass who aspire to become rich – someday, and in the process MISS the life completely!

When young I had energy, people and place to play – but never had the money to buy cricket accessories. Today I have the energy, place to place and also the money for accessories – but there are no people around to play. And tomorrow – I will have people around to play, I will have the money for accessories, I might have place to play also – but no energy to play!

So let us team up, and at least play on weekends to start with!

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April 26, 2008

Thinking of committing suicide? Ask me how to!

The year was 2000 AD. One of my friends was about to be ditched by his girl friend. He said he wants to commit suicide. I said perfectly fine. I knew another friend of mine whose mother was a psychiatric patient. She used to have a particular medicine in the nights to sleep the whole night without any breaks. It is a simple logic. She had just one teaspoon of it and it you have the whole bottle – you surely will sleep for whole of your life. My friend agreed, but then he never gave me the money to buy it. The friend is still alive, and will get married this year probably.

There is this particular organization called Snehaindia.org, which thinks they help people against committing suicides. Once we had organized a live chat with one of the representatives of ‘Sneha’ at Sify. Neither the person was a smart-looking movie celebrity nor was a skimpily dressed movie heroine. Hence I was made to co-ordinate with him. The chat was on, and questions started pouring like rains in Chennai.

*I don’t have a proper job - I want to commit suicide
*I don’t look good – I want to commit suicide
*My wife isn’t supportive – I want to commit suicide
*There is a dark permanent mark on my elbow – I want to commit suicide

And the poor guy kept repeating the same sentence - just talk to people, friends and relatives around you, and you will feel better. If nothing helps, reach our office for some counseling. After a while he stopped dictating, and I kept typing.

The thought of committing suicide comes to each and every one of us. But who has the guts to do it is a different story altogether. Rajini Kanth wanted to commit suicide once, and even I was hovering around with a strip of sleeping tablets in my pocket when I was 21. I had a good lunch, felt better, and threw the strip – and I am still alive.

I have noticed a strange phenomenon that people who ‘think’ about ending their lives never commit suicide. Suicide happens in a ‘thoughtless’ state of mind, when you indeed are running a very bad period astrologically. It isn’t true that only cowards commit suicides, or depressed people commit suicide – I have seen people with impressive confidence levels ending their lives in spur of a moment.

One of my aunts was a very dominating, aggressive and a confident person. People would have agreed if they she had killed someone, but they could not digest that she ended her life instead. She never had any plans to commit suicide. And there was no reason either. Another aunt of mine had delivered a child just that particular day, and this aunt visited her in the hospital, and came back home with a promise that she will come with the lunch. She went home, had a small fight with her husband, and got herself charred through self-immolation.

In another incident my mother in law (MIL) and her neighbour had planned to go for a movie once. She collected the money from my MIL and went to the theatre to get the tickets. It was getting late, and that lady never came back. My MIL went to her house to check, and she was hanging under the fan with tickets in her hands! My MIL was carrying then, and had a miscarriage at her 6th month of pregnancy.

There is another cadre where in people just try to make someone understand that they are capable of committing suicide, while they really don’t want to. And sometimes they just want to try committing suicide for the heck of it. These are the people who are the dangerous lot, where in they escape few attempts accidentally, and die when they really don’t want to. They get saved when they are running a good time, and their effort backfires mostly the 3rd time, when they least expect it.

So can you save someone from committing suicide? Not really. Statistics say – every 5 minutes, someone, somewhere in India attempts suicide, making suicide, the third major cause of death. And nothing can be done about it.

And the people who torture you with their depression, problems, and their idea of putting an end to their lives – allow them. Don’t waste your time in making them understand the futility of death, instead help them with the best possible way to commit suicide. Take my word – they will never take a step forward. And never ever think that you can save someone from dying. People won’t die when the time hasn’t come, and none can save them when the time has come. It is all in the divine plan!

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April 25, 2008

Will the recession affect ‘you’ astrologically?

Faced with a challenging business environment in the wake of the *US sub-prime crisis –

*Software major Oracle has pared down annual salary hikes.
*IBM – cuts down employee perks, and withdraws fringe benefits offered to its middle management - which included free-housing facility.
*Wipro – likely to go for an 8-10 % hike this year against 12-13 % in 2007-2008.
*Infosys – offshore employees will get an 11-13 % wage hike this year, compared to 12-15 % last year. (Source – The Economic Times, dated 25th, April, 2008)

Well that was anyone’s guess, and it is a rule of life too. What grows too fast comes down faster. This funda remains the same for all industries - right from agriculture to dot com to IT. And this time the universal rule has hit the IT industry. So will things move from bad to worse – then the answer is a direct ‘yes’ – astrologically.

Now the million-dollar question is - will American recession affect ‘YOU’ personally? And the million-dollar answer is - it completely depends upon your individual horoscope. Might sound funny, but it is true….

Well here is an example. Tiruppur, the place I was born, grew as the largest exporter of knitted garments 2 decades ago. Few people worked towards it and made it big. And when their success stories spread all around, all the rich people in and around Tiruppur pounced into the business. It resulted in 5 companies every single street. Producing garment became a cottage industry, and even housewives were seen contributing immensely to the industry.

It grew very fast, and the recession followed. Many companies were shut down, and people thought it was all over - but ‘no.’ Tiruppur even today is an international hub for knitted garment. What is the reason? Why didn’t recession put an end to all the companies? The answer is - in times of economic troubles – people running bad times are wiped off automatically, and people running a good time astrologically keep doing well in spite of dreadful external factors!

So if you want to know whether you are running a good time or a bad time, whether you will lose your job or prosper, or you will come back to India or fly abroad – consult a good astrologer.

The star in the first line of the blog isn’t ‘Conditions Apply’ but….

*I mentioned that particular term deliberately for people who still think that India is developing. It is simple logic that no country would develop, whose natural resources aren’t strong, and whose export revenue isn’t bigger than import revenues. And no country will ever develop whose salary structure depends upon other country’s economy.

PS – while writing this particular blog, I got a call from one of my clients (an ex-Expressite), who mentioned that The Indian Express Group (South Edition) does a horoscope reading of the probable candidate before recruiting them. They have a panel of astrologers who would say whether the candidate would bring good luck to the company or not. Dear readers – please keep it a secret!

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April 22, 2008

Bottled Water – A Fashion Statement!

Without asking me when the hotel servers place bottles of mineral water on my table thinking I would not refuse to accept it - I ask them to take it off immediately and make them bring me ‘saadaa’ (plain) water to drink. I know he might feel that I don’t belong to the elite upwardly moving rich people as yet - but then I don’t care. I think it is a duty of any eatery or hotels to first provide clean drinking water free – even without asking. And if they insist us to buy bottled water for hygiene purpose – then it surely means that there own water isn’t clean enough. If water isn’t clean, how could we expect their food to be clean?

These days in many hotels and restaurants I notice that they don’t provide plain water, and / or deliberately delay serving plain water. They just want you to buy chilled bottled water even if you don’t want to. In fact they serve bottled water much faster.

A couple of decades back it was supposed to be a good joke. People would sarcastically comment about a stingy businessman that – he wouldn’t even mind to sell water! But today it is a reality. Now I will tell you a joke – you will have to buy fresh air to breath in near future!

I think Indian government, which shamelessly collects hefty water tax from every household should assure each and every individual that their water is pure enough to drink - so that people stop suspecting the purity of it, and avoid investing in costly water purifiers. If the government isn’t in a position to provide clean drinking water in spite of charging us the tax – then it is high time we fucked the government itself.

My conviction for non-usage of bottled drinking water became stronger after reading this particular interview of Shekhar Kapur published on few Internet sites. After reading this thought provoking interview I have decided today – that I won’t buy bottled drinking water ever in my life!

I want to rekindle the anger through my films: Shekhar Kapur

Mumbai, April 1 (IANS): After winning over the West with his two Elizabethan sagas, Shekhar Kapur is back in India to 'rekindle the anger' over what's happening in the world.

His next film, 'Paani', is set in 2025 in a city polarised by water scarcity, a world divided into the haves and have-nots - those who have water and those who don't.

'The reason I came back to India is to walk the streets of Mumbai and rekindle the anger that I feel about what's happening to the world,' Kapur, who refuses to drink bottled water, told IANS in an interview.

' 'Paani' is not just about water shortage. It's about the callousness of a world where about three percent of the populace are haves; the rest are have-nots. And what a wonderful way to speak of that disparity through the one resource that we're most squandering away,' said Kapur.

Kapur felt that he got more freedom while making movies in India than the West.

During the making of 'The Four Feathers', 'they (the West) muzzled me. That's one of the reasons why I fled the West. In 'Masoom', 'Mr India' and 'Bandit Queen', which I made in India, I had the freedom to say what I wanted'.

Excerpts from the interview:

Q. What made you return to Mumbai?

A. My life is about yearning for the impossible. It's time to ...create the intellectual property in India. Microsoft has held the copyrights for all intellectual property in Seattle. In Asia we must learn to hold on to our intellectual property. That's one of my big dreams for India.

The comic books based on Indian mythical characters that I've started in the West are all sourced back to India. It's created and implemented by Indians. Until we hold the intellectual property in Asia, we won't prosper. And to those who say Shekhar Kapur has come back home to make a million dollars, I say, I don't want a single cent. I just want to be the conduit of my dreams.

Q. Is your next directorial venture going to be from Mumbai?

A. Yes, I'm finalising the script. I've been desperate to make that film for a long time. The reason I came back to India is to walk the streets of Mumbai and rekindle the anger that I feel about what's happening to the world.

'Paani' is not just about the water shortage. It's about the callousness of a world where about three percent of the populace are haves; the rest are have-nots. And what a wonderful way to speak of that disparity through the one resource that we're most squandering away.

My first story was about this runaway kid who sees this big van of water and is asked to pay for it. It struck me then that the first thing about city life is you've to pay for the water.

Q. Sounds extremely socialistic.

A. Once Devi Lal said something about the way the privileged squander money. 'The rich flush down more water in their toilets than farmers get for a whole day of irrigation.'

Then one day I went to a producer-friend's place on the 13th floor and I was told he was bathing. Go down to the ground floor and you pass through the Dharavi slums and you see hordes of women and children queuing up for a bucket of water. I realised the poor are paying 2,000 times more money for their water than the guy who was in the shower for half an hour.

Q. Is that where 'Paani' was born?

A. Yes, to me water is the basic resource, the next thing to air. Water is already being bottled and sold. Nobody has the right to pollute our water resources. Imagine mineral water being sold at Rs.90! Water as a fashion statement!

I refuse to drink bottled water. I know it's the beginning of the process to privatise water. The ecological cost of bottled water is immense. A story developed in my mind. I had to make a film. My film deals with a city of 20 million people polarised by water scarcity.

Q. Mumbai?

A. I'll shoot it in Mumbai. But it could be any major metro - from Bangkok to New Mexico. The city would be divided into two - below and above the flyovers. The one above would be the cosmopolitan city. That's what's going to happen in the future.

And that upper city takes over the water resources in 'Paani'. They control the water that filters down to the ghettos.

I'm going to make the film contemporary and trendy. I want it to appeal to youngsters.
It's about the exploitation by the first world. And the place where the first world meets the third world is paradise. You get any kind of sexuality and thrills there. I'm setting it in 2025. That isn't so far away.

Q. Who will pay for this dream?

A. The issues involved are so against what the studio style of filmmaking (of the West) represents that I don't want to make 'Paani' with their money. They'll ask for cuts. It happened during 'The Four Feathers'. They muzzled me. That's one of the reasons why I fled the West. In 'Masoom', 'Mr India' and 'Bandit Queen', which I made in India, I had the freedom to say what I wanted.

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April 19, 2008

Konjam adjust pannunge!

It has been my life pattern so far. I would always move to a house away from the city (which doesn’t have any facilities), the moment I go there the area would start developing faster than ever, and then the rents will skyrocket and I would be made to vacate. In the year 2000, people at office would laugh at me when I said I am commuting from Thoraipakkam (Old Mahabalipuram Road - OMR) to Mount Road for job. OMR developed so fast that my servant maid is a lakhpathi today. She sold her land for 40 lakhs, and I think I need to become her servant now!

Check this pic…

In 2004 I moved to Velacharry, when very few would prefer a house there. Between 2004 and 2007 – the area developed so much so that someone told me that it is a prime area now. I had to vacate, and thanks to my landlady. I of course don’t blame her, but who doesn’t need MORE money. And now I have moved farther from Velacharry, and the developments signs have already started!

Roads are being put, new transformers are getting fixed, and I am sure it will become a hot spot in another 2 years, and the result would be as you have already guessed – I will be made to move further down! So if you have invested in land somewhere, where the value isn’t going up – then you surely can use me.

When writing this particular blog, my 3 ½-year-old-daughter rushed to my computer and said these people have put the mud outside our house – how can we go out now? And I didn’t have an answer. Agreed that they are putting the roads for our benefit, but this is the first time I am seeing the process of putting roads being executed in this particular way. They have put heaps of mud right in the middle of road, which we use, and there are no other roads we can use to come out. I just wonder how could this department not understand what my 3 ½ year-old-daughter can understand.

There are some 20 houses, and mostly all of them have cars. They all go to work. There were no notices given to us to park our vehicles somewhere else. And the people who had gone out in the morning, cannot park their vehicles at home when they reach home in the evening. And there is no place to park either.

I asked the guy, why don’t you put the mud in the corner of the roads – he says – it will be difficult to spread them then. I asked him, when would you spread them, he said Monday (today is Saturday). And my next question was, what should we do if we have to go to work or have any emergency in these 2 days – he said coolly, konjam adjust pannunge (please adjust)!

I think this concept of adjusting has gone a bit too much down our system. We adjust with the dirty bathrooms all around, we adjust with red tapism, we adjust with corrupt politicians, we adjust with dumb bosses, we adjust with frequent power cuts, we adjust with bad roads, and we also adjust with my favourite – the sick Chennai Auto Guys! I think it is high time we stopped adjusting, and start creating rebellion!

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April 12, 2008

How far can you reach in life?

Track 1

I think it was Amitabh’s 60th birthday, and he said to one of the reporters that he is indeed clueless about why people still like him. Indeed a point to ponder. And when all know that Kamal is a far better and superior actor than Rajni Kanth, still Rajini has more fan followings in TN than the former. What gives people like Amitabh or Rajini or Sachin Tendulkar that extra edge, when there surely could be better performers than them in the industry!

Track 2

God is the funniest and at the same time the sickest person or concept in the world. He makes people with different talents and talent levels, and make them think they are all equals. He gives few things for someone without asking, and for some he makes to struggle for the same. He sometimes ignores people who love him, and love people who ignore Him.

How much God has blessed you or how much God likes you can be known by a simple test. If you are given more luxuries in life even without asking – God likes you more, and if you are given less luxury - in spite of many struggles - than he doesn’t like you much. There is a catch here though. For generations people have been saying that the God exists with the poor and this point gets exaggerated in most movies too. It is ‘ALL’ crap. The movie producer is rich, the movie director is rich, the actors are rich but the people who pay for the tickets and watch the movie become poorer by buying the tickets for the movie. May be they are happy taking home a massive lie that - God is with them, and they are happy to spend rest of their life struggling!

In India it is said, you will have to leave all the luxuries of life to understand God or to see God in flesh and blood. It is very true. But that necessarily doesn’t mean that you will see God only when you are poor. The temples, the meditation centers, or any other religious place - where the poor saints meditate or do puja for money – are after all constructed by the rich. And in a way it is the riches of the world, which has helped religion to exist for generations together.

Now on what basis does God decide about whom to give how much luxury (fame, money, power) in this life or lives to come? It simply depends upon - how good a human being you are. It clearly depends upon - whether you respect fellow beings, whether you respect others’ talent, whether you love others, and whether your life supports other’s life too.

Climax

Of course people like Amitabh or Rajini or Sachin are highly talented, but they are what they are today not just because of their talents but also because they are good human beings. If you aren’t a good human being and think you are one holy talented soul, while others are mere choots, then God has his own way to punish. He will give you immense talents – but never give you an opportunity to explore! And you won’t have any option but to die a mediocre - unsung!

God Bless All!

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April 05, 2008

The ‘time’ to Dream!

This commercial is one of the most thought provoking ads I have ever seen in my life. If you are blessed with a good broadband connection watch it at a stretch. And if you are cursed with a fraud band connection, which promises high speed and delivers nothing, then wait for the video to buffer completely before you watch it!

Continue reading only after you have watched the whole video…

M Night Shyamalan is one of my favourite moviemakers. I am NOT proud about he having an Indian origin. Good that he was blessed with opportunity, freedom and money to explore his creativity in Hollywood to carve a name at his prime age. Had he been in India I am sure both his creativity and talent would have died running behind the trees and skimpy dresses shooting duets and item numbers respectively.

Well that isn’t the topic of this particular blog. It is about the last but one sentence mentioned in the ad, which says – ‘My Job is to find time to Dream!’

I have noticed that most successful people are those who have dreamt it big, and on top of that they are people who had the ‘time’ to dream. In life, if most of your time is spent in worrying about the next month’s house rent, the pending EMIs, the credit card payments, and the school fees - take my word you will die a mediocre.

So where do you find the ‘time’ to dream? The moment you start talking and exploring life on your own, you are put into play schools. And the journey of memorizing crappy outdated syllabus starts and ends at the age of 22, where the next big thing is life becomes finding a job. Wife walks in (walks out sometimes), children come out (and walk out eventually), you are shuttled (between relationships and companies), the corrupt government changes (every 5 years sometimes), and in the process your life is all over without even you realizing that you had the ability to dream!

By staying home women were blessed with opportunities to do nothing but to dream, while men took all the responsibilities to take care of them. But the government neither wanted the families to be happy, nor was interested in providing the kids an atmosphere to dream. They introduced subsidy in education for women, provided them reservation, and made them strive, struggle and work for money. So what happened in the process? The government enjoys collecting double the tax from the same household. So in a family 2 people work for the government for 7 days in a month so that some corrupt politician can have a steady growth in his Swiss bank account! If the government really cared about your kid – it should have eradicated dead syllabus, and given free education for children, whose parents (both) are working and paying tax honestly!

This disability to dream is no wonder the prime reason that India has not invented anything in the last 50 years or so. We don’t make it to the Oscars, we never win Gold medals, and still find pride in being called a developing country for the last 60 years. We launch few missiles once in a while, and do few nuclear tests in a couple of decades – and think we are developing. We forget that we aren’t developing because we have stopped being original, and because we have stopped dreaming!

Long long ago - Indians were the best dreamers. And we had given a different name to it – we called it insights. We allocated special time frame (between 3 am and 7 am) just to be silent, just to watch our minds, and just to dream – and we called it meditation. We implemented our dreams and came out with works that fascinates mankind till date – the Bhagwad Geeta, the Upanishads, Astrology, Ayurveda, Kama Sutra, and the list goes on….

So what has stopped us from dreaming? I think it is the present education system of memorizing things and running behind marks and numbers, which has put an end to our ability to dream or to think differently. I think I have done my job by providing enough time for my children to find time to dream. And what have you done? It isn’t a debate – you could win me through your logic and debating skills - it is a question you need to ask yourself! What have you done to make your children dream!

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March 19, 2008

What irritates me the most!

The new age guru Paramahansa Nithyananda had a beautiful thing to say once. He said the most difficult thing to be sold in India is religion and spirituality. The reason is simple. Like asses (donkeys to be precise) which eat the movie posters stuck on walls all over, we all tend to read books and gain information from all possible sources and think we ourselves are Gurus. We behave as if we are the ‘know all’ and that we are already enlightened. Try talking about spirituality to anyone in India – and they will give you the best insights, which even the enlightened masters cannot give. And ask about their personal spiritual experiences – they will stare like an owl!

In India we have this major problem. We refuse to accept that there could be anything under the sky we cannot do. We think we know to repair the footwear, we think we know to fix a fan, we think we know to cut our hair, we think we know to fix a fuse, we think we know to cook, we think we are the best photographers, and we think we are masters in spiritual subjects. If we all know everything – then why do professional exist? They can just masturbate and die in solitude!

There ought to be a difference between an amateur and a professional. And the difference is subtle - an amateur has not done enough mistakes, which a professional has already committed. And that is what experience is all about.

We all know to drive a car, but all who know to drive a car cannot drive on the racetrack. All who know to operate a camera cannot be a photographer. And all who have read books on astrology or or Numerology or Vaastu Shastra of Feng Shui or Palmistry cannot be astrologers.

I face this funny situation sometimes. Few clients suddenly in middle of the consultation start talking about astrological jargons – just to show off that they aren’t illiterate. I simply tell them – if you know, you need not ask me. And if you ask me then you better keep your mouth shut. I know it is arrogant, but it important too. No wonder when we visit a doctor, he makes us close our mouth by placing a thermometer! I need to invent a similar tool I guess.

It is good that people try to understand new subjects. But when you seek help, it simply means you haven’t found the answer yourself. And when you haven’t found the answer, it is better to listen to someone who knows the answer than to argue about what you already know.

So the next time when you meet a professional – it could be a cobbler, a painter, a mechanic, an IT professional, or an electrician just allow him to do his work. You of course can watch what he is doing, but avoid poking your nose – it really irritates anybody even me!

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December 20, 2007

Ignore Taslima Nasreen!

Only two things can make a writer or a journalist famous – one is controversy and another is lathi charge. And the author Taslima Nasreen belongs to the former cadre. In fact money, fame and success comes to authors who are bold and experiment with existing philosophies. Whether they believe in the philosophies they pen down doesn’t really matter – provided their books sell and bring both the publishers and author some good money in return. Even you can write a book on how group sex with 10 blondes on a open beach in Hawaii can give you darshan of Lord Shiva – but whether you have done this before or believe in it doesn’t matter, provided your books sell like hot cakes.

I neither had heard about Taslima, nor had I heard about her book Lajja. But the controversies it gave rise to – made me buy the book and read it. And to be honest – it was one of the most boring books I ever read in my life. I could not complete the book and I think I donated it to someone free of cost. More than the content of the book, I think it is the controversies that made the book sell more.

As I have stopped reading her books for sanity reasons. And I don’t know what exactly do her new books contain, which sell like crazy in many countries. Through a magazine I came to know that she referred to Prophet Mohammed as a pervert because he married a 40-year-old woman when he was 20, and also because he had 11 wives. (will write another blog about why Muslim men are better than Hindu men later).

With my experience with religions – I personally feel that Islam is the best religion that exists today for spiritual growth for the society as a whole. Given a chance I will convert India into an Islamic country. That doesn’t necessarily mean that I will circumcise all BJP, RSS and VHP believers forcibly like Sanjay Gandhi did vasectomy on poor Indians. And it also doesn’t necessarily mean that I will make all the women wear burkhas.

Wearing burkha or roaming with a bikini on a nude beach is a personal decision. It depends on what you give more importance to – character or libido. Now don’t flash your panty in front of a crowd and call yourself a Muslim lady. You cannot be a Muslim if you don’t follow its rules. You cease to be a Muslim even if you don’t pray 5 times a day. Just being born in a Muslim family doesn’t make you a Muslim. It holds true for Hindu Brahmins too – cross thread loses its significance if you don’t practice Sandhya Vandanam 3 times a day!

Take this example – if a bitch (female dog) enters a church and barks at the Holy Cross – what difference does it make to Jesus Christ or Christians a whole? The bitch will die in another 10 years, but Jesus is here to stay forever, and so is Christianity.

Women in general have lesser brains, and how can we expect them to interpret religion and spirituality in the correct sense, which requires masculine intellectual expertise? Her opinions about Islam could be correct for her, and she has all the rights to express it. But the point is if Taslima has thrown filth on the great Prophet Mohamed and Islam with her retarded vision and miniscule interpreting capabilities – what difference does it make to this great religion? Just ignore her – and her sale of books will drop.

Any comment of existing belief system doesn’t make the minutest difference for a believer. Taslima will be no more in another 3-4 decades, but Prophet Mohamed is immortal and Islam will survive forever! I am sure if Prophet Mohamed learnt about what Taslima said about Koran – he surely would have had a mighty laugh, for you don’t punish a toddler for peeing in its pants.

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November 15, 2007

The criminal ME!

I always wonder why people who play the game of chess quite well think they are more intelligent than others? Of course most games need minimum amount of intelligence but it is also true that chess is yet another game, with which good amount of practice can be perfected. People generally confuse among intelligence, knowledge and information. An ant or a bee is more intelligent than a human being. And carrying useless information and knowledge in your otherwise empty head doesn’t necessarily mean you are intelligent.

I had a friend who was/is an avid quizzer and also a good chess player. The problem was not he being good at them, the problem was the ego he used to carry about the same, and the way he used to put down others if they didn’t know answers to questions like - what is the name of Uttaranchal’s governor. Who cares? But he cared a lot. I also heard that after getting married, when he was coming back to Chennai, he gave a quiz book to his wife and made her ask the questions, and he would sit there and answer! Man – he was least interested in understanding what would interest others.

I noticed that he had a great ego about his chess playing capability, and I wanted to break it high time. Once we were discussing about the game of chess, and I asked him why don’t we play a game of chess? He readily agreed. He was already smiling and celebrating about his probable victory.

We were at office, and we decided to play chess on Yahoo Messenger chat window. Thankfully I had installed Chess software in my machine just a couple of days back, and that was the main reason I called him to play outright.

The game started and I asked him to make the first move. He did, and I made the same move on my alternate chess software window. The software would make a move, and I would make the same move on the chat window. To play it safe, I would take a good amount of time to make the software generated move. He lost many, and I was left out with few. And he said – “I think the game is moving towards draw.” For which I replied, “let us play till the end” - for I had great confidence in the SOFTWARE.

Ultimately he was check mated and that was the last day he ever spoke about chess at office. He could not accept defeat at my hands - who never showed off his chess playing capability, and also who refuses to carry pseudo knowledge and useless information on head.

If a crime can bring a positive change – do it!

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November 14, 2007

What to pray and what not!

He was a staunch believer of Lord Ganesha. He neither would booze nor would he eat non-vegetarian food on Tuesdays. We never had any argument about the existence of God then. But today we argue everyday about the presence of God. I say He exists, and he asks me if He exists then show Him to me. My friend - then a staunch believer is an atheist now. But then reason for the transformation isn’t impressive. He prayed to God that he should get married to the person he fell in love with – the bitch ditched him, and he ditched God!

I was in my 8th standard when I used to adore a girl. She was slim, cute, and had hair like that of Dimple Kapadia – reason enough for me to fall for her. The irony was - she never knew I existed. I was just watching her everyday while going to the school, and I am not sure whether she ever gave me a look. The same year my father took us to Tirupathi Balaji shrine, and my only prayer to the lord was – I should get married to this particular girl. I never had any other worries in my life I guess.

Time passed by, and I moved to my 9th standard. And one day after a long gap I spotted the same girl. And to my astonishment, she had grown much taller than me – at least by a foot! I think when I saw her first she never had attained her puberty, and when she did she grew like a lamppost. She was slimmer and looked ugly. I thanked God for not answering my prayers!

Most of us think that God is sitting there jobless to answer all our prayers. If he doesn’t, we start questioning His presence. Try giving a list of requests to your CEO, and see how many he accepts and how many he rejects. When a mortal bugger like a CEO can reject your requests, and understand what is best for you and what not, how can God – the creator of the universe - doesn’t know what you should get and when?!

So instead of disturbing God by praying for too many things, just thank God for whatever he has already provided – for He knows perfectly what you deserve and when it should be provided!

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November 07, 2007

Happy Deepavali to one and ALL!

Don’t think too much about environmental pollution, and don’t think too much about child labour at Sivakasi - just be generous and burst as much crackers as possible this Diwali. Askenni wishes one and all a very Happy and Safe Deepavali!

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October 19, 2007

Stock market is falling down…..!

I don’t have enough evidence to prove my point here. And my friend and myself have kept the history button on Yahoo Messenger unhighlighted. So any evidence of the chat we had on the day Stock Market reached 19000 is unattainable. He was chatting about how India has developed so fast and how it was visible looking at the points Sensex had touched - 19000! I said don’t worry it will fall soon, and when it will fall it will be horror – to the extent that people will start committing suicides! (Well that was a strong statement, but then very much possible!) And the very next day the market fell 200 points, and is still falling!

My sister is quite good in understanding the Sensex trend, and she has been following the market since it was 6000 points 2 years back. It was that time when P Chidambaram had said – if the market touches 8000 points – it will be a matter of concern! And it touched 19000 in 2 years, and there was no intervention.

She had a casual meeting with one of the leading stockbrokers of Chennai the same morning the Sensex fell. She could see a panic on his face, and she asked what is wrong, and he said the market would fall today drastically. And it did. He had some very valid points to add –

Q1) Why is there a major growth in the stock market?

His Answer - Because previously only experienced people got into stock, these days all who have money and don’t know what to do with it invest in the stock market. Also previously it was 80 per cent genuine money and 20 per cent non-genuine. And today 80 per cent is non-genuine money.

Q2) Why don’t the concerned people get involved to clear the confusion?

His Answer – everyone has a price, and everyone is buyable. So the concerned people are bought to keep their mouth shut

Q3) Why do people on media keep saying that it will keep going up?

His Answer – if they say otherwise, he will be tagged an unconfident person. So whoever talks to the media always gives a positive trend about the market, which need not be true in reality

On top of that another astrologer friend of mine called me a month back saying the Stock market will fall drastically towards the end of October 2007.

So what is my take on the topic? Anything that grows very fast comes down at the same speed – that is the rule of life - and any growth should always be gradual. The DOT COM industry came down, because it grew too fast in too little time. Now it is stabilized. Same way Sensex touching 19000 is too fast in 2 years, and it will come down drastically and stabilize at 10000 to 12000 points.

A special advise for people who love to make easy money.

*Money that comes through hard efforts remains longer than that which comes easy

*Never make stock market the only source of income, except if you are a stockbroker

*Putting money in stock market is gambling, though people will argue it is an investment. So gamble to lose. If you win, you are lucky

*And as Thiruvalluvar says – Winning at gambling is like a fish getting caught in the hook thinking it has got the worm

*If you put a mental calculation about how much you invested and how much got in return through stock market in life – you will see that more or less the profit and loss gets equaled

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October 18, 2007

Relationships are about symbiosis!

I am not mentioning about the Symbiosis University located in Pune here. I am talking about the biological term where in the involved partners are equally benefited through an association. And I strongly feel any human relationship should always be a symbiotic relationship. Enlightened people have been telling about unconditional love, and that you should always be giving without expecting anything in return out of any relationship. But the irony is most people who were enlightened either stayed single all through their lives, or left their families to get enlightened. And most messiahs never had friends, bosses, superiors, and girl friends – they only had disciples.

Any realization comes from personal experience. And I too realized this truth with hard-hitting incidents, and one of them is discussed here. I never understood the difference between friends, colleagues, and peers in a corporate scenario. I thought everyone who talked good to you is your friend, which need not be - at least in the corporate world.

We were some 10 to 12 people who used to have lunch together and we used to have rollicking time everyday. Once I had conducted an Astro show at my last office, and I invited all of them to attend. I specially invited these friends of mine– not in an attempt to make them a believer of astrology, but then just for my moral support. To my dismay only 1 turned up, and rest were ready with their silly reasons the next day. It was a severe blow to me. And I stopped having lunch with them.

Many days of retrospection gave me an insight into human relationships. The first question you need to ask yourself is - are you getting equal returns from a particular relationship? Secondly whether a particular relationship is worth your time and effort? And it could be any relationship for that matter – between you and your friends, between you and your girlfriend, between you and your sibling, and between you and your boss.

If you need good friends, be one they say. So start any relationship with only giving, without expecting anything in return. Later once the relationship has developed to a good extent, wait for a while, and take some time to analyze the relationship.

You picked her up, you dropped her at home, you sponsored her movie tickets, you sponsored her food, you acted as a counselor, and you gave her all the moral support. Now ask yourself - what have you got in return? If it was only the smell of the strong perfume or the strong deodorant she wore, then take my word you can expect her marriage invitation soon.

If at any point you feel that you aren’t getting enough out of a relationship – you either make it clear to the other person involved, or it is always better to cut him/her off completely and exist in solitude. This solitude will help you to evolve and will take you to a different realm of life – where your happiness won’t continue to depend on external factors.

Total detachment is for evolved souls, and for normal souls like us it is all about being a bit selfish every time. Any relationship is a business deal, where in you want to make equal profits – in sadness as well as in happiness. If the deal is not a 50-50 per cent share, it is bound to be doomed sooner or later with a bad note.

So the mantra for a long and strong relationship is - give as much as you can, but don’t stop expecting. Take time to analyze, and if you don’t get anything in return, move out with a good note!

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October 12, 2007

Getting up at 4 am!

I was told when young that getting up early is a good habit. The climate is cold, the air is pure, and according to Hinduism it falls under Brahma Muhurta when most saints across the world are meditating. So whatever you do getting up early would have good results on your body, mind and soul. But then I never could get up early when in school or in college. The last thing I would want was to get up early and study organic chemistry or calculus for that matter. I of course have tried it. I would get up, wash my face, take a book, take a bed sheet and then doze off. The simple reason was - I wasn’t interested in studies!

The change had to come. After I met my spiritual teacher in the year 2002 and started to learn astrology from him, I have been getting up at 4 am most of the days. My Astro class used to start at 6 am, and it was 1-hour bike journey from my place. I used to get up at 4 am, get ready at 5 am, and reach my teacher’s place at 6 am. So getting up at 4 am is not a problem for any of us, but then why do you want to get up so early is what matters!

In college days more than those boring Chemistry classes, I loved the NCC parades on Saturdays. And more than watching movies, I used to love my karate classes. These things made me get up early and made me be there on time always because these things interested me a lot.

Famous self-help writers have been telling that getting up early is about conquering mind, and that it is all about mind over matter, and people who don’t get up are lazy. This creates guilt in someone who wants to get up early, and is unable to do so. In the process, people pay up heavily and join gyms. They work out for couple of days, and then stop going to the gym. It is simple - when you aren’t interested in exercising how will you be able to get up early?

End of the day - it is something that interests you pushes you to get up early, and it has nothing to do with mind over matter or conquering your mind.

Given a choice most people would love to get up at 10, but then what if there is a final cricket match between India and Pakistan at 3 am? I am sure most Indians would get up early. It is simple because cricket interests us.

So you need not get up at 4 to meditate, you need not get up to jog or to squeeze yourself at the modern gym. Just take some time to think what interests you the most? It could be sports, it could be books, it could be gardening, it could be cooking, it could be taking pets for a walk, or it could be watching porn or having sex with your partner. Whatever it is – chalk it out, and go to the bed accordingly. You automatically will get up at 4 am. If you don’t find anything that interests you so much so to make you wake up early – just cuddle yourself in the bed, and sleep. There is no hurry or there is no need to worry – your getting up early won’t make any difference to the world. Just drop the guilt and have some sweet dreams.

All the best!

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September 11, 2007

It is all about being ‘Original!’

It is an old story again. Long long ago when I was working with Sify Astrology I had a major problem, which when I look back looks so menial and unnecessary. I don’t know about what others felt about me, but then I had put a lot of efforts and original ideas into making it a revenue generating vortal. Of course all the eyes were on it, and whichever channel - let it be Sify Hindi, or Sify Tamil or Sify Telugu, all wanted to start their Astro channel to show revenues to save their asses at job.

It so happened that one of the regional site managers copied ALL the ideas, which I had put into Sify Astrology. Of course any inputs given to the company becomes its own copyright, but then still copying without acknowledging irritated me a lot. I could not do any thing. I wasn’t jealous but then pissed off completely.

I take advice from only selected few, and looking at my irritated face one of my ‘REAL’ friends asked me what was wrong. And I explained him about the incident that drove me crazy. And my friend narrated to me a beautiful real life episode, which brought back the confidence I had lost temporarily.

The episode goes this way -

In the early 80s Rajini Kanth was at the peak of his career. He was so busy that producers couldn’t get his call sheets for 5-10 years. And most of the movies that Rajini did were super duper hits. The producers were pissed off completely, and wanted to chalk out an idea. They sat and did a quick analysis. They asked themselves – what made Rajini a phenomenon? Was it his looks? Was it his style? Or was it his funny Tamil accent? They thought it was all. Hence they searched for lookalikes of Rajini Kanth, and they named them Surya Kanth, Chandra Kanth and Nalini Kanth.

These 3 jokers looked like Rajini, could talk like Rajini, and they also imitated Rajini’s style that which came so naturally to the original Rajini. The producers made movies using these Kanths, and all of them were major flops. And with time all the Kanths vanished from the film industry in no time.

Today Rajini is in his late 50s now, and he still is ruling the roost. So what is so special about Rajini Kanth now – it is his originality.

Kennedi - you are like Rajini Kanth, and these managers are like Surya Kanth, Chandra Kanth and Nalini Kanth – they will vanish with time, said my friend. It indeed happened that way. Sify Astrology made the highest revenue, while other sites struggled to survive with time.

The moral of the story is – time makes originality survive, and all those copycats vanish with time. So try to be original! And also only do that comes easily to you, than trying to imitate others.

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June 11, 2007

The limited resource called – MONEY! – Part 1!

Money is a weird concept, and economics is even worse. We are the ones who have created money, and we are ones to crave for it. And the whole of life– one or the other way - we work towards making more money. Some would say money doesn’t interest them but they would stick to a high paying job, some would say they love money but get into a lot of philanthropist activity, and some would say better not be greedy about money but will possess acres of land!

There are only two worlds – the spiritual and the materialistic. If spirituality attracts you leave everything behind and walk to the woods - you can fast to death there. Or else you are left out with only one option - the materialistic world.

Now living in a materialistic world you cannot say money isn’t important for you. Your neighbourhood Spencer’s store would not provide you the monthly groceries for free if you give them lecture on the uselessness of money. Yeah of course by showing a disinterest towards money you surely can gain some bonus points and more respect from people – who otherwise themselves are behind money!

So the first lesson in life is to accept that money is important to you, and there is nothing wrong in accepting that fact. You might not need money for your own expenses – well and good. But then money might be useful for the people who are associated with you – your parents, your children, your siblings, your society or your wife / girl friend (preferably in the given order).

In the materialistic world (I keep stretching materialistic world because money loses its value in the spiritual world) money would get you – respect, fame, and happiness. None in the world will respect you if you are not making money – this includes your wife / girl friend, the society, your parents, your children, and your siblings (preferably in the given order). If you want to confirm this part – resign your job and sit at home for 1 – 2 years.

To be continued….

*There is no difference between the rich and the poor
*What’s the difference among earning, saving, generating and multiplying money

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May 28, 2007

Important tip to pass ANY exam with ease!

It was Hindi exam on that particular day, and I prepared myself well for the same. I reached the exam hall only to get the shock of my life - that it wasn’t Hindi exam, but maths!! I had done some error in seeing the Time Table. I am completely clueless about what to do. I am sure I will fail this time, will have a bad time with my father and never would get my degree in my life!

I am completely drenched in sweat only to find myself getting up from my sleep a decade later. In real life I have never faced such instances, but even today I get those dreams where in I reach the exam hall unprepared or without a hall ticket. And it is an orgasmic feeling to go back to sleep confirming that you already have got MA Mass Comm degree without a single arrear.

Someone called me the other day asking me whether he will pass out an arrear he has now. I said he will, and I also gave him a simple advise – try taking chits, but don’t get caught! You see – I preach, only what I practice or practiced.

My father gifted me a fountain pen for my 10th board exams. And he bundled 2 important advise with it. He said – never get caught when you copy and secondly if you are unsure about spellings just scribble. I followed his advice religiously till I passed out my Masters Degree.

I was too naïve to copy in my 10th and 12th board exams but then became a master in it while doing my degree. It was literally impossible for me to mug up those derivation and integration formulas Maths had and chemical reactions Organic Chemistry had, and I was expected to pass out without a single arrear to be allowed to stay in the hostel. Well taking chits proved to be a good idea.

Chits kept my confidence level high, and I could easily refer to them when in need. Not that I depended completely on them, but I would have short cuts written in papers just few inches in size, which can be kept hidden in the palm! Or I would get into the exam hall and note down all that was on my mind in the answer paper they give, and later refer to them - legally it was considered wrong! Thank God I never got caught by any of the supervisors then. Masters’ degree was much easier, and there was no need to take any chits. As my professor once said – it would be really tough to fail in those exams!

I dunno what phobia is that – but fear of exams scare me more than death - even today.

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May 01, 2007

White rats – my new pets!

Behind every successful man, there is a woman. That is one crappy statement people have been using for centuries now. I am yet to see a beggar getting married to a woman, and then becoming a multimillionaire just because he got married to the woman. The statement can be altered a bit. Instead of ‘behind’ we can put ‘after’. And the right statement could be ‘After every successful man, there is a woman or there are many women’.

There is another notion where in people try to find someone who matches their interest to get married. But the truth is otherwise. You will always get married to someone with whom you don’t match, and with whom your interests vary completely. That is the irony of life or we can call it the funny side of life.

I watched the Will Smith starring movie ‘Pursuit of Happyness’ recently. One thing good about foreign movies are they always try to show the truth. Had it been an Indian movie, I am sure – his wife leaving Christopher Gardner just because he doesn’t have a good paying job part would have been edited. Instead they would have shown a very naïve and supporting wife giving him all her ornaments to try something else. End of the day the truth about life is – if as a husband you continue to earn less money, your marital life will get screwed big time.

What has this blog to do with White Mice?

Very few people know that White Mice make excellent pets, and that they are available very easily in any pet shop. People have major mind blocks towards rats thinking they might lead to rat fever or they might lead to plague. In fact white rats are very clean animals, and need very less attention.

I love animals, and if given a chance I would not mind even domesticating a Tiger. I want my children to be sensitive towards animals, and I have heard many people saying children become more responsible amidst pets. In fact I would suggest that every family should have at least 2 or 3 children, 1 tree and 1 pet compulsorily.

I decided to buy white mice from Moore Market, Chennai and as usual my wife said a clear ‘no.’ She rebelled and stopped talking to me for a day, and told me she won’t look after the mice at all. She knows perfectly that I travel a lot, and looking after the mice will be a bit difficult for me when I travel. Not that she hates animals, just that she hates to take responsibilities.

I usually don’t listen to others. And if someone says a ‘no’, I deliberately go ahead and do it just for the heck of it. That is exactly what I did. I wanted to buy one mouse, and as my wife rebelled I bought 2 mice.

My children are having great fun with them these days, and the joy I see on their faces is priceless! I pat on my back everyday saying – good I didn’t listen to my wife.

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December 21, 2006

From whom should you take advice – part 2!

Don’ t confuse among thoughts, action & profession

My wildest desire is to have a group sex with 10 blondes on the Hawai beach. And I don’t become a sinner by carrying that thought on my mind. I have all the free will to nurture that yearning, but then if the event would really happen depends upon God’s prerogative, and none else. There is when destiny comes into play. Any person’s thoughts could be different, actions could be different and profession could be different – always use your discretion about what to take and what to leave.

A person with an attitude of an open marriage would be tied to one wife, a Christian evangelist who preaches celibacy could get caught in child molestation case, a saint preaching universal brotherhood could be the most sex craving person, a porn star could be the best philanthropist, and an astrologer who talks about sex on the blog could be practicing celibacy – you never know!

The Australian cricketer Shane Warne was recently caught having a 3 some with 2 blondes. He isn’t a porn star, he is a cricketer and we should bother only about how he plays on the field and how he behaves on the field. What he thinks, what is sexual life is all about, should not come in the way of his cricketing career because sex & sexual life isn’t a criteria to judge a person’s character.

Tamil poet Kannadasan had written the best songs for yesteryear super star MGR, which helped him to become the Chief Minister of Tamil Nadu later. Those songs are still considered to be the best philosophical songs ever written in Tamil. But for the words to flow, Kannadasan needed booze and a new girl everyday till he died!

That way if we try to rewind the lives of ALL the successful people in the world, you will find only ‘stink’ and nothing else!

So my job starts at analyzing your horoscope, confirming your chart by talking about your past, understanding your present, and predicting about your future after taking a nominal fee. So better treat me as a normal human being because I don’t need any respect or reputation to be created which eventually will block me from being myself!

Whom do I take advice from

Not that I don’t take advice in life at all. I do. I take advice only from the experts.

One of my friends is an expert in automobiles, and whenever I have a doubt about cars or bikes or any other vehicle. I consult him. I keep my mouth shut when he is talking about vehicles, because I know it is his expertise. But when he consults me for astrology, I expect him to keep his mouth shut – because it is my expertise!

I don’t take spiritual advice from a Java Programmer. But I will keep my mouth shut if I need Java help from the same person.

And when it comes to astrology, I take advice only from my teacher and one Dr Praja Rao – whom I consider the best in this particular industry as of today. Hence I don’t discuss astrology with anyone else.

So what is the moral of the story?

*Never advice others until and unless asked for
*Don’t think that the other person is a fool, and you are the only holy soul
*Treat all with equality for all are equally spiritual – whether you sleep with one woman or 100 doesn’t really matter (even a prostitute prays God everyday so that she can get a good client that particular day)
*The best could come from the worst people & vice versa
*Always take advice ‘ONLY’ from the expert in that particular field
*And keep your mouth shut when you deal with experts

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December 20, 2006

From whom should you take advice – part 1!

A humble unseen & unmet chat acquaintance of mine kept buzzing me yesterday. I replied what was the issue, and he asked me whether I had few minutes for him. I said, “of course tell me, what can I do for you.” He replied it was about your blog, which said “your experience sleeping with your friend’s mom”. I asked what about it? He kindly said – he agrees with me, and that he also wouldn’t mind sleeping. But then he cautioned me not to put up these kinds of articles on my blog. I asked him, why? And he replied – he has sent my URL to many of his friends (girls) and they read my blogs regularly. And this kind of articles from my end would affect the respect & reputation I have gained!

To be honest the last thing I would do in my life is to tailor cut my content or thoughts just because some friends of an unseen acquaintance might lose respect they have on me!

On one hand this guy was thinking too much about what women might think about me, while on the other hand I got messages from other friends (girls) saying my blog was good & I am lucky to have had an interesting life!

This is not the first time this happens. My friend likes my blog, his friend reads my blog regularly, but then they are always concerned about what others might think about me! End of the day none thinks anything about me I guess….my blogs are just for your understanding alone. Hence be careless about what others might or would or could think about me….

In fact the guy underestimated the prowess of the modern women. May be he is completely unaware about the fact that today’s women are different than the one whom men knew few centuries back. These days women demand freedom, they are more rebellious, they are more educated, they are more ambitious, and they are more experimenting when it comes to sex too. And I think men wrongly presume that women still exist as sati savitris.

On the other hand…

I wonder why sex is still a criteria to judge a person’s niceness, religiousness, spiritual growth & profession?!

Is there a law written that astrologers should not think about sex or should not have sex or should not write about sex in their lives? Or is there a law that saints should not have sex or think about sex? The only rule is these people should try to have a balanced sex!

You will go to the US, and end up in a strip club the very next day, and will lose respect for Sri Sri Ravi Shankar if he had a similar interest?!!

You will wear a cross thread, eat chicken 65, have beer, have sex in a crowded bus, but will lose respect for Jayandra Saraswathi if he had sex with one woman?!!

People will wear Crosses on their neck, act in porn movies, watch porn movies, and when someone says with authority that Jesus was married to Mary Magdaline and he had impregnated her – the whole Christian community will come to roads to demonstrate against it?!!

What kind of hypocrisy is this? We would have all the fun & do all the nasty things, but expect saints, religious Gurus, astrologers & Gods to practice celibacy in their lives?

To be continued…..

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December 15, 2006

Things will change….

An Indian from the US sounded very sad over Yahoo Messenger chat. I asked her what happened? And she said she had a fight with her husband, and they both are not in talking terms for the last 10 days. Listening to her I was a bit relieved. I told her, “don’t worry things will be alright even my wife is not in talking terms with me for the last 3 days!” It happens….

When electricity goes off at our homes, before lighting the candles we rush to our balconies to see if others are facing the same problem. If yes, then we come back happily to light the candle. Looking at others problems, we become happy automatically thinking we are better off than the others or at least that we are on the same boat. No wonder spiritual people, Gurus, and saints are always glowing with confidence – because they know their problems are meager when compared their disciples’.

Kindly don’t consider this particular blog as my individual complaint against my loving wife, but try to read between the lines….

When married in 1998 I was working on night shifts. I hardly got time with my wife. I would hardly spend only 2-3 hours with her, and as a housewife she used to get damn bored at home staying alone. Her only complaint was – I was not spending enough time with her, rest everything was fine – I would say don’t worry things will change..

In 2000 I moved to Chennai, I was making good amount of money, there were no night shifts, and I used to reach home on time. But this time my wife was not happy with my relationship with a girl colleague of mine. She would always say – don’t talk to her, don’t get close to her, and don’t give her lifts on bike….I would say things will change….

The girl colleague of mine got married in 2002, I quit my 9-5 job, and started of as a full time astrologer from home since 2004. I started being at home all the time, there were no night shifts, there were no girl friends, but this time my wife was not happy with cash inflow…I would say things will change…

After 2 years now, money flow is good, work is good, there are no girl friends, there are no night shifts, but my wife complains – I don’t spend enough time with her!!! I still say things will change…

Last week was indeed the most peaceful one. For 7 days neither did we speak to each other, nor did we see each other’s face living in the same house. Communication happened through children. And honestly I completely lost tract about the cause of the problem.

Marital problems are normal in any marriage, and there are no perfect couples. They have verbal fights, they have physical fights, and the next day they are found together on the bed having wild sex. Hence the first rule of life is not to get panicky, when things go wrong.

When you love someone, you should be ready for hatred too. If you loved your beloved talking sweet nothings to you for hours together, then you should be ready to accept her irritating silence. Always remember that whenever you have relationship problems start to see the pattern, and you will see a common pattern in every fight you had with your spouse…. Learn the lessons and walk ahead…

Married men face a lot of problems in fixing the priority list, which makes them lose control many a times…Here is a ready made list of priority you should stick to have a good marriage …

Give preference in this order –

For Men

1) God
2) Your Parents
3) Career
4) Children
5) Friends
6) Wife

If your parents don’t want you to become a sanyasi, don’t listen to them. If your work wants you to go away from your parents, don’t take up the job. If your children ask you to stay at home, tell them you will buy chocolates while coming from work. If your friends call you when you are playing with your children, don’t pick up the phone. And if your wife doesn’t want you go for a drink at your friend’s place, ignore her….

For Women the preference should be in this way…

1) Husband
2) Children
3) Her parents
4) Your parents
5) God
6) Career
7) Friends

I know there would be 1000s of others permutations combinations for a better marital life. But this is what I strictly try to follow to lead a happy married life.

And today morning when I was meditating about this particular blog and came outside my prayer room my wife was smiling at me. Things were resolved, and we patched up after 7 days of silence…and deep down I know this is not permanent ….things will change…..

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December 13, 2006

The difference between being good & trying to be good!

A young, smart, good looking, and a shy guy joined the last organization I was working for. He was an awesome web designer, and he used to sit next to me. Remaining silent was a beauty or I should say an asset he used to carry with him. And impressive designs used to flow through him without any blocks. His silence in fact kindled curiosity in many around him, which prompted others to befriend him. He was indeed a man of few words I should say. But in 6 months time he screwed himself….

For about 6 months he neither wished anyone a good morning nor did he say a good bye while leaving the office. His physical presence was hardly noticed, but his work was appreciated among peers and seniors.

One fine morning he came to my desk, patted me on the back and said Good Morning Kennedi. I was a bit taken aback. I was wondering why is this person behaving abnormal today? Then another person entered the office – and he said Good Morning Rajan. And the 3rd person entered the office – and he said Good Morning Rekha. I was able to gauge artificiality in his otherwise honest smile that day. And as usual my mind started pondering about what could be the possible reason for his put up transformation. And my hunch helped me this time too…

I went close to him, and whispered in his ears– are you reading Dale Carnegie’s “How to win friends and influence people” book. He asked how on earth did you know? And I said your ugly put on face shows it all!

Optimism is not about trying to do what others have done to be successful in their lives, but it is about knowing your own limitations, and using your inborn talents to serve the purpose you are born for.

I personally am bad at marketing – I cannot open my mouth in front of a stranger to sell anything. Hence I never wanted to get into marketing, and struggle there to succeed in life. I am bad at sports, I cannot run fast for God’s sake, I cannot climb trees, and I cannot climb ropes – hence I always saw to it that I made myself absent to school on sports day. I am bad at corporate office politics – hence I decided to quit and do astrology, which kind of comes easy to me by God’s grace.

There are many training programmes that are organized by motivating people about how to enhance your personality, how to stop worrying & start living, how to perform better at work, how to manage your time, how to create harmony at office so on and so forth. To be honest the fire of any training programme remains in human minds just for a couple of days, and people are back to square one sooner or later. And there is another training programme hatching already. I don’t know whether the people who attend benefit by it at all - but then the people who organize them benefit a lot! They succeed in making thousands in the process.

Many of my friends attended The Art of Living course. And all said it is awesome. After 6 months I asked them how ‘IS’ Art of Living, and they say it ‘WAS’ awesome.

There is a term called Svabhav – an intrinsic quality any individual is born with, and this cannot be changed at all with any amount of training, meditation or prayers. That is what YOU are, that is what YOU are born with, and that is what that will come with YOU till you reach your graveyard. Once you touch base with that YOU in you, you start accepting yourself completely and become more natural in behaviour. Your presence is accepted even without any efforts of yours, and you are loved without taking any attempt of yours. With time you stop imitating others, you stop reading self-help books, and you stop applying or experimenting what you have read in the book on others for your own personal selfish motives and growth.

Yeah, the friend I was talking about lives happily in the US with his wife and a kid. And when I think about him today a smile comes to my face, and all those good memories flies to my mind in microseconds - and I am glad that he is not saying a ‘hi’ or a ‘bye’ to me these days, which was so unnatural of him.

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December 02, 2006

I am feeling a ‘bit’ guilty – part 3 – The End!

Seeing the plight of Mr H, I had already learnt three important lessons of life –

*never open up completely to your boy friend or girl friend or spouse or anybody for that matter

*always inculcate a habit of erasing your SMS after reading it and

*never forget to carry a condom in your wallet, ‘cause you never know when you are given a chance to have sex. It so then see to it that you don’t leave your semen trace back. Even Presidents get caught!

Ms P and Ms K decide to screw up Mr H – not literally though!

Both the girls were damn furious about what happened in their personal lives, and their only argument was Mr H cheated on both of them (which I personally don’t think so). From one side Ms P said she will call up Mr H’s parents and tell them everything, and on the other side Ms K started blackmailing Mr H that she will come to his office and tell everybody about the real Mr H. Mr H was at the brink of going insane, before he called me…

From my angle I thought that all the 3 people (Mr H, Ms P and Ms K) involved in this particular mess need some time for retrospection and introspection before they decide who should marry whom and when. Marriage cannot happen when someone is holding a gun at your neck.

I told Mr H to stop communicating with Ms P for a while, then pack off Ms K to Mumbai, and then take time to decide – whether he wants to marry Ms K or Ms P or he wants to become a sanyasi after all this confusion. He agreed. I spoke to Ms K asking her to leave Mr H alone for a while – so that he has some breathing space. She agreed. And Ms P had already stopped talking to me.

Was spirit haunting Ms K?

It was evening already, and Ms K had agreed to leave the next day afternoon. All was set. And I went to sleep peacefully. The next day morning at 7 am I get a call from Mr H with a unique problem Ms K was having. He said he thinks some spirit is haunting Ms K. I asked him what makes him say so. And he replied – Ms K talks like Ms K for a while, and suddenly she talks like Ms P! Dual personality? I got goose bubbles hearing this.

She would agree to leave and would say, I am sorry, and the very next moment she would say, do you think I am a fool to leave you? A new problem started for Mr H. I asked him to hand over the phone to Ms K, and she refused to take it. Later after 5 minutes she replied the phone saying – someone is trying to force words through her mouth, which she is not having any control on. I went to my prayer room, and the first thing I did was I wore my rudraksha mala – the last thing I would want in my life was to be haunted by a female spirit!

I asked Mr H to take her to a Lord Shiva temple, do an archana on her name, and make her wear a rudraksha mala. He tried, and tried…but could not take her inside the temple at all.

Mr H was already at the brink of going insane completely – and never in life would he have thought that screwing 2 women at the same time would screw his happiness forever.

Spirit haunts Ms K, and destiny haunts Mr H

They both reached the railway station, and Mr H booked a ticket for Ms K. They both stood in the line, and suddenly Ms K vanished from the scene. The train was at 2.45 pm and it was already 2.30 pm. Ms K started the same drama of dual personality once again, and Mr H became a laughing stock among people who were watching them. When she was in her Ms K form he rushed her to the platform, where the train was scheduled to come. At 3 pm I got a call again. I asked, so did you finally put her in the train, and he said NO. I asked why? And he said they were waiting at platform number 2, while the train came and went from platform number 4! I asked when is the next train, he said at 10 pm!

They spent the day at the station, and he made her board the night train and had a sigh of relief after 2 days of mental torture.

Mr H was entangled in a karmic web of problems. And my intuition said – until and unless he is brought out of it he cannot have peace. Hence I wanted him to break all kinds of connections or communications from both the women at least for the next 3 months.

Also I had a strong hunch that Ms K will get down somewhere in between, and come back to Delhi again.

Situation goes from Bad to Worse

Immediately after Ms K boarded the train, I asked Mr H to switch of his mobile, and to change his phone number. He agreed. And he switched off his mobile.

The next day morning I got a call at 6 am from Mr H. I asked what happened? And he said, Ms K had some health problem in the train (minor heart problem, which she had previously too) and she had to get down at Jhansi (4 hour journey from Delhi) and she has been admitted in a hospital. I asked how did you know about this? And he said, his brother switched his mobile ON in the morning!

In fact he had given few thousands to Ms K when leaving Delhi, and she said someone stole that money when she got down from the train. She was penniless, and the hospital doctors had called Mr H’s office at least 10-15 times the whole night to ask his whereabouts!

The situation went from bad to worse. He borrowed money from friends, cleared the hospital bill, and asked the doctors to book her a ticket to Mumbai. And the docs said – her condition is not good enough to go to Mumbai from here hence we will send her back to Delhi!!

Ms K returns Delhi within 24 hours

Mr H picked up Ms K from the station, and this time rushed to the airport instead. He had borrowed enough money to send her by flight! He packed off Ms K, and had to keep his fingers crossed this time.

What about the baby Ms K was carrying

Till now I thought it was Mr H’s bad karma that put him in so much of trouble. Gautam Buddha took 12 years to get transformed, and the transformation of Mr H happened in just 2 days. I asked him what is the moral of the story – and he said – Never Have Sex With Women!!

Ms K after reaching Mumbai gave me a call, and I had to convince her about the ongoing situation. She was feeling ok now. But she insisted that Mr H has to come down to Mumbai when she plans to abort the child, because the hospital would need it.

Whose Bad Karma was it anyway?

I was convinced that Mr H had to face so much of hardship because of his bad karma, but my perception changed when I got another call from Mr H after a couple of weeks – which carried a tragic news!

Ms K met with an accident in Mumbai. A car hit her very badly, and she was hospitalized. She had a miscarriage and also the doctors had to remove her uterus to save her life!!

What made me write this particular blog?

Three days back I got a call from Ms K saying that the doctors are asking her to undergo a by pass surgery for her heart is very weak (she had had a heart attack a year back or so). And she wanted to know whether she would survive this surgery.

Astrologically she is running a bad period hence I asked her to be very careful. I asked her to consult at least 4-5 doctors before going in for the surgery, because these days we know – doctors go to any extent to make some extra money. In fact doctors had given 50 per cent chance for her survival due to surgery.

Mr H called me 2 days back, saying the doctors have failed in their operation and that Ms K might die anytime!

She is alive when I am writing this blog, but her life is like a cat on the wall!

Looking at the situation from all the angles – I indeed felt guilty about many things we do in our life with close and dear ones, when the real hard truth of life is death and that we won’t exist in a couple of years from now!

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December 01, 2006

I am feeling a ‘bit’ guilty – part 2!

There was silence for few months….till I got a phone call from Mr H saying he is in love Ms P, and he wants to marry her…

When SMS screws up life for Mr H

Mr H met Ms P in their office. They became good friends, fell in love, and decided to get married. Their families agreed, and astrologically their charts matched. Things were fine, till Ms P accidentally read one of the lovey-dovey messages sent to Mr H by Ms K from Mumbai.

She got furious, and called up Ms K to understand the whole scene, and Ms K opened up completely. Ms P insisted that Mr H should also tell her everything before she decides to marry him, and our man opened up completely without leaving a single secret.

Ms P could not digest what was told to her, and asked Ms K to come down to Delhi so that they all can discuss the future course of action.

Ms P took up a weird vow that she will make Mr H marry Ms K, come what may – in spite of knowing that Ms K was elder to Mr H by 5 years, taller than Mr H by 1 foot, had a 8-year-old daughter, and that she was a divorcee.

Heated argument between me and Ms P

Mr H was totally shattered and confused with whatever has happened so far. He never thought life could be so cruel to him.

Though he liked Ms K, they had made no commitments as far as marriage is concerned, and he was in love with Ms P whom he wanted to get married to very badly - and now there was a fear of losing Ms K or Ms P or both forever. The next thing he did was - he called me…

I asked him to make Ms P talk to me. When Ms P called me she was fuming over the phone. She was blasting Mr H left, right and center. She abused him of not having the guts to marry someone he slept with, and she took a vow saying she will make him marry her come what may.

Neither Mr H told me about the sexual relationship he had had with Ms K, nor did I tell him that I came to know about the same through Ms K. I thought only I knew this part, and very innocently asked Ms P what makes her so sure that Mr H slept with Ms K – and she replied “Mr H told her.” I asked her to hand over the phone to Mr H. I asked him, why the hell did he tell about his sexual relationship with Ms K, and he replied - he had to open up completely for honesty sake.

The phone was passed on to Ms P now. I asked her, just because he slept with another woman, does that mean he has to marry her? That way many men under the planet will be married to someone else and not their wives. She said not because he slept with her but because she is pregnant! My God – that was news to me. I asked her to hand over the phone to Mr H again….

I asked him, when did that happen, and he said 10 days back Ms K was in Delhi, and she had insisted to have sex with him. I asked him didn’t you have the brain to use a condom? He said he never expected sex that night. And till date he was not sure whether he leaked inside her or outside. (In fact it was later I came to know that Ms K was impregnated before too – and they both had decided to abort the child)

My voice obviously had toned down a lot, and my new argument with Ms P was – just because Mr H had slept with Ms K and just because Ms K is pregnant – does that mean he has to marry her when there was no committed from both the end? And she plainly said, YES. He has to be responsible for the kid. I could say nothing but divert the conversation to a new topic.

I asked Ms P now that Mr H and YOU have also had sex already, does that mean he has to marry you too? She was shocked for a while, and started stammering. She had the slightest idea that Mr H would have told me this secret about their relationship. I asked her just because you were not impregnated does that mean you can walk away from the relationship unscathed – when there was a committed of marriage between you both? She didn’t have many words to coin….

I said your vow of getting Mr H married to Ms K is perfectly fine, but then what about you? You will remain unmarried? She said, no. She will marry someone else whom her parents select for her. In that case I asked her – will you tell your ‘would be’ that you have already slept with another man before marriage? She said it depends. I said that is exactly what Mr H did now. He slept with Ms K and didn’t tell you, you slept with Mr H and are not going to tell to someone whom you are going to marry in future. So where is the difference?

For the sake of argument, she said that she will tell everything beforehand to the guy she is going to get married in future. And I ended up the conversation saying – I will leave my profession as an astrologer if someone in India marries you in spite of you telling him that you slept with some else before marriage!

To be continued….

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November 30, 2006

I am feeling a ‘bit’ guilty – part 1!

Just sitting in the commentary box, and giving gyaan about the on going match doesn’t help all the time. Sometimes for special person and on special occasion you need to pad up yourself and go down to take the role of a night watchman to handle the innings before it is too late. That is exactly what I did when I was subjected to the most tricky and complicated problem relating to human relationship a couple of months back….

This episode revolves around four individuals, whose name I would keep it as a secret. ‘H’ is the man, ‘K’ is the woman, ‘P’ is another woman and Me is the astrologer as usual!

Who is ‘H’?

I met him in my previous organization. He was a cool headed, young and a very dynamic individual, very hardworking, and a good companion to hang around with. He had consulted me for a job change, and thankfully he was able to join an organization of his liking very soon. He had good regards for astrology, and it worked perfectly for him through me. Once he said, he has a friend who wants to consult me. I said bring him and we will do the reading, and he said it is a she and not he.

I was introduced to Ms ‘K’

I checked K’s horoscope and it had major affliction astrologically. She was 5 years elder to Mr H, she had one 8-year-old daughter, and she was divorced and separated from her husband. All through she had a tragic life. Her husband used to abuse & beat her, and her father once tried to sell her to a pimp, and her brother would bug her for money.

When she met me she was bothered only about a good career, and a good life for her daughter. God’s grace, she got a job exactly in the date range I had told her astrologically.

When Mr H met Ms K

H and K used to work together in an organization, and existed as mere acquaintances till K was admitted in a hospital for a health problem. There was none who could take care of Ms K, and also she didn’t have enough money for the medical bills. Mr H out of goodwill took loans from his friends, and helped Ms K at the right moment. When H met K, she was already separated from her husband and her father and brother continued to torture her. Our man got into the scene, and made sure that her father and brother don’t come into the picture at all. And he succeeded. For extra security – Mr H and Ms K – decided to live together as friends in a single apartment.

When I asked Mr H - whether he had sex with Ms K?

Astrologically I saw a weird life pattern in Ms K’s horoscope. The interpretation was - in life she will always have problems through men, and also men will have problems through her. Hence on a friendly note – I told Mr H that, he has to be very careful about the relationship he has got into now. I asked him – whether he has had sex with her, and he refused openly. He said, it was just good friendship. This particular relationship was a serious jolt to my conviction that no man and woman can have a 100 per cent platonic relationship. I was invited for a dinner to their house once, and they both had come to my house for a dinner too. Things looked very rosy….

When Ms K confined to me - that they had sex!

H got a new assignment in Delhi and he had to move out – both from house and the relationship. Also K got a new assignment in Mumbai, and she moved out too. After a month or so, Ms K called me to ask – whether she can get married to Mr H astrologically. The first question I asked her was – did you guys have sex? And she said - yes, many a times. May be Mr H was too shy to agree when I asked him - my conviction about non-existence of platonic relationship became stronger. I said you have very less chance of getting married to Mr H. She was a bit disappointed, but she said – she wants Mr H to be happy wherever he is.

There was silence for few months….till I got a phone call from Mr H saying he is in love Ms P, and he wants to marry her…

To be continued.....

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November 21, 2006

Small things that affects you a lot!

This particular blog might sound a bit cheap to many, but for few it might make immense sense…

An Italian massager based in Chennai, a very good friend of mine, buzzed me on Yahoo Messenger yesterday. She sounded a bit confused, and wanted to clarify something important with me. I thought she had some astrological queries on her mind but it was something else altogether. In fact a good friend of her’s (an Indian) complained about a back pain, and booked an appointment with her for a massage. She readily accepted and took an hour off from her daughter and completed a one-hour massage. After the massage was over, the friend thanked her, sat for a while, and pushed off saying a clean Good Night! Our lady was completely confused - what about the payment?

She was a bit uncomfortable asking him right on the face because she thought he might pay on his own. Also she didn’t ask because she thought he would have forgotten and will pay later. The next day morning she sent a SMS to him saying – you forgot to pay, and since then there is no communication from his side! This is when she buzzed me to ask – is this normal in India? What else can I do – I just laughed!

Not only with her, this kind of incident happens with all who take up service as their career – like doctors, teachers, massagers, spiritual teachers and astrologers, where in there is no physical product involved. People tend to take the value of ‘TIME’ for granted, and there are many who feel that they are doing a favour by consulting these professionals!

It is true that there are many arts that should not be done for money alone. But then the world will be a beautiful place, if these service providers are given free homes to live, free monthly groceries, and free vehicles to travel. If that was true – free consultation will always be on the top priority for these professionals. The house owner never considers your profession on the 30th, the grocery store guy never gives you a packet of biscuit for free, and a delayed bill is never exempted of fine just because you are a doctor!

I remember an incident when a multi millionaire would visit my teacher every 2nd Saturday. He will come in a good high-end car, consult my teacher for an hour or so, and then while leaving would say – So Gopal, last month I had to give you Rs 1000 add Rs 200 to it. My teacher would coolly say ‘fine’ without a sign of irritation on his face. I got damn pissed off once – I asked my teacher - “how could you let him go? Does he think you have no other work in life but to counsel him?” And my teacher said, “he thinks he fooled me, but there is someone called God who will fool him.”

In my initial period of career as an astrologer, I never used to charge anyone because I used to enjoy doing the reading it is another story that none bothered to pay me. Then I thought I would never have a specified fees for consultation rather I will let the people to decide - and I got Rs 11 as my first consultation fees in 2004. I saw when given a choice – not many pay more than Rs 100 per chart per consultation per hour! It was then I fixed Rs 500 per chart per consultation per hour – which people don’t mind either!

There was another confusion, which persisted for long. Should I charge my friends & how much? Should I charge my relatives & how much? Should I charge strangers & how much? Or Should I charge acquaintances & how much? And should I do free readings also? There were two things I learnt as time progressed – that expectation is the mother of all fuck ups, and that I can sell myself for cheap but I will never sell astrology for cheap!

It was then I charted a model for myself, which might be useful for someone who takes up service as his/her new career in future –

The things I decided -

*I will not expect anything from GOOD/CLOSE friends, if they pay – it is just a bonus – because I value friendship more than anything else

*I will leave the choice to them (they can pay whatever they feel right) if they are acquaintances, or client turned friends, or referral sent by my friends

*I will be very particular about fees with complete strangers (who might eventually turn into acquaintances or close friends later)

*I will do free readings only for those who cannot afford me, who are jobless, and who are in a bad shape financially (this again depends – if they come in a car and then say they are financially down this rule doesn’t apply). And I will do free readings only for those whom I feel I should - and this depends on various factors like – his/her behavior with the astrologer & his amount of belief in astrology & God.

*And with relatives – I will do a reading and ask them to donate some amount to temples. This way neither I get embarrassed taking the fees nor do I do it for free!

I told my massager friend that I am going to blog about this topic today, and she said please do so that she can SMS the URL to her friend!

Moral of the story – Time is precious – literally!

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October 19, 2006

Wish you a very Happy Diwali!

Askenni.com wishes all its readers, believers, non-believers, critics and haters a very Happy & Safe Diwali. Spend more time with people than with computers this year & burst as much crackers as possible!

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October 15, 2006

Extra Marital Affair – part 2!

I admire Lakshmana more than Lord Ram. He left his wife for his brother (a real sign of sacrifice), he never even saw Sita’s face (may be he thought he might get attracted to her being without sex for long in the jungle), and even when he got an opportunity to have sex from the opposite (Shurpanakha asking for a quickie) he refused and cut off her nose! Lakshamana also had a siddhi (miraculous ability) which most people never had till BPOs came into being. He could stay awake all through nights and go sleepless for days together!
Well that is not the topic of discussion it was about extra marital affairs…

Extra marital affairs happen in both the genders equally though the society always blames the men. I know equal number of men and women who have extra marital affairs. The only problem is men are dumb and get caught easily, while women are very intelligent and escape unscathed.

It is not that one fine morning people (both men and women) decide to get a bit gutsy and start having an affair or relationship outside marriage. It just happens. Someone walks into our lives; create ripples and walks out after creating enough problems. We don’t have much control over it. You can blame it on bad karma or good karma or you can blame it on the planets. But if caught – it is considered to be a complete breach of trust! May be Jesus Christ forgot to add a line to one of his commandments – love thy neighbour, but never get caught!

Breach of trust happens in all the relationships, but people don’t get separated or start hating someone for it. We never told our parents when we sipped our first beer, we never told our parents when we saw our first blue film, we never told our parents when we bunked lectures & went for a movie, we never told our parents when we fell in love, we never told our siblings when we had our first sex – they are all breach of trust. Even if we were caught – I am sure we would have got a good hitting, but then the relationship would have never broken. You cannot say this is different and that is different. Like Anniyan (Aparichit) says you steal Paise 5 or 5 crores – theft remains a theft.

Basically all human beings hide many things and expose only few things to many people in slots. It is better that way. There is no necessity for anyone to remain open like a book to everyone – it can only create problems.

When I met Shiva Shankar Baba (Kelambakam, Chennai) for the first time I asked him, “what do you feel about people having multiple partners?”. And he said beautifully, “there is nothing wrong. But see to it you don’t hurt any soul in the process”. Makes absolute sense. We don’t open up many a times – because we don’t want to hurt the other person in the process. If someone looks like a monkey, we don’t walk across to tell him he looks like one, just because we want to be considered honest, frank or upfront.

Not all are prone to extra marital affairs. But few of course are. The people who never had an extra marital affair are not the people – who got attracted to someone sometime, the other person also reciprocated encouragingly, and our man/woman avoided just because he wanted to remain honest to his partner. He/she is just one who never had an opportunity - that’s all.

I know men would agree but women would not agree to this – show me one married woman who finds her husband more attractive or handsome than Shahrukh Khan, Surya, Hrithik Roshan or any of the celebrities. I am not saying women are in love with them, and given a choice they will leave their husbands and walk out with their favourite stars. But what if these celebrities live in your neighbourhood, with ample amount of time for communication and conversation – there of course is a chance of an intimate relationship!

Just because you have a low semen count, a bad sexual appetite, and an erectile dysfunction – you cannot argue that you have more control over sex and women. If that reasons were taken into consideration then eunuchs and impotent men would get enlightened faster than us.

Living in Chennai I should not take pride in my sexual control because I never been to have a sandwich massage. I didn’t go, because there are no places out here. If I were in Bangkok without a partner, had a good hard on, had enough money on hand, found a massage parlour near by with pics of hot chicks showcased, and if I still avoided going just because I don’t want to violate the trust my partner has on me. Then probably I am a saint in the truest sense, or else a normal human being.

I had a friend (who follows Islam). He always used to talk about Islam, Mohammed, sin & virtues, till he was India. He went abroad, the first place he landed was a strip club! He hardly talks about Islam these days.

Might be continued…..

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October 13, 2006

Extra marital affair – part 1!

Lord Ram should have had a very bad horoscope astrologically. Here are few astrological jargons and the effect of them on him.

His 4th house/lord of mother would have been afflicted (bad planetary placement) hence he had problems through his mother (Step mother Kaiki, who asked her husband Dashrath to send him to exile).

He would have had affliction for 9th house/lord for father – hence bad luck through father (Dashrath sent him to 14 years exile).

His 2nd house/lord of wealth would have been afflicted – hence was not a King in spite of having all the necessary qualities.

His 3rd house/lord of siblings would have been afflicted – hence had problems through siblings. (Bharat took away his slippers to make him barefooted, while Lakshman cut off Shoorpanakha’s nose, which started troubles for Lord Ram).

His 7th house/lord of marriage would have been afflicted – hence Sita didn’t listen to him. She forced Ram to take her with him. Secondly Sita didn’t listen to her brother in law, crossed the Lakshman rekha, and was kidnapped by Ravana. If Sita had listened to his husband and stayed at home, there would have not been an epic called Ramayana. Also after returning from the 14 years exile, Sita was put through Agni Pariksha and again sent to exile. So Ram hardly lived with Sita, there was always physical separation between them.

Ram should have also had his 5th house/lord of children also afflicted. His children were born away from him, and finally he had to wage a war with his sons Luv & Kush.

9th lord/house and 5th lord/house also stand for punyas you do and lineage you set before you die. That way Lord Ram has set a bad lineage, which is being carried over by BJP & RSS in the name of Ram Janm bhoomi Babri Masjid issue. Problem for others even after death…..

Lord Ram is revered because he was the best example of an ideal man and also because he was considered to be ek patni vratha (a man of one woman). May be on the same basis – the Hindu marriage act or law was formulated – one man should have only one wife. An experiment to make all the men Rams.

According to physics ideal gas doesn’t exist in reality. They were formulated just to derive few conclusions or used as a subject to relate. In the same way I strongly feel ideal men or women don’t exist. They are just illusions we create around ourselves. If someone puts me in a jungle for 14 years with one woman, I am sure even I would be a man of one woman as there are no other options left.

To be continued……

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August 17, 2006

You better don’t waste your money buying yantras!

Before I get into this interesting subject about yantras Click Here to see some deadly pictures of me.
Astrologically yantras are gadgets that help reduce your bad karma, and help you attain all that you desire for – both on the material & spiritual plain. The most common yantras available in the markets are – gems, copper/silver/gold plates, and rudrakshas. Whoever deals with it or sells it – will always say what he sells is genuine and what others sell is fake ones. With the boom in the Internet industry, most of the websites related to astrology & spirituality have also started selling Yantras like FMCG products. I really wish - if my past life bad karma gets vanished by investing in a Lux soap!

I don’t say that these yantras are useless and they don’t work. They do work. But there are many tedious processes involved in it, before you start using them.

Though many a websites promise of charging the yantras through spiritual energies, prayers or meditation, most of the yantras you will buy will have no results. (if you have invested in a yantra, and also if it has worked for you – kindly mail me the details at kennedig@yahoo.com).

If you have a headache, and if I take a tablet, will you be cured? Karmic rules are similar to this example. None except YOU yourself can solve your karmic connections. Though Ramana Maharishi was a saint of highest caliber, he suffered from Cancer. Why was that? In fact he had to go through the karmic sufferings of his past life, no matter what.

Of course there are people who can reduce your bad karma. There are many instances where Satya Sai Baba has taken over others sufferings, including diseases like Cancer, and cured them. In that case – you should be very close to your master or the master should like you as a person, and should be happy with your performances.

Here is the a glimpse into the process of charging your gadget – before you wear or use a talisman or gadget, you should go on a COMPLETE abstinence for at least 48 days (the number of days depends on what exactly you want).

Complete abstinence means – no sex, no non veg, no booze, no smoking, no meeting people, no movies, no entertainments, no TV, only 2 clothes to change, no eating out, no shaking hands with people, avoiding crowd, sleeping on floor, bathing in cold water, skipping at least 1 meal, eating only half stomach, no shaving, no traveling, and on top of it you should be able to chant a particular mantra for 1,25,000 times in 48 days keeping the gadget in front of a deity or God’s photo.

1, 25,000 in 48 days means 3-4 hours of chanting everyday. And if you miss a single day, the next day becomes the first day. Now this is one of the processes to charge 1 gadget, for 1 single purpose.

Now logically will the websites or the person who sells gadgets to you undergo this process to sell you the gadget? Has anybody have so much time in life that he will go on total abstinence to charge YOUR gadget? The easier way is to keep some 100-200 gadgets in front of the deity, and chant the mantra for 9 times that is all. Can those gadget have the power to change your destiny?!! You better don’t waste your money buying gadgets!

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August 15, 2006

Happy Independence Day!

Crocodiles are territorial, so are human beings. Dogs piss around to mark its boundaries and we have barbwires and LOCs. The love towards once own land, a natural animalistic tendency, in a polished language is called patriotism. India celebrates its 59th Independence Day today and in these years we have done enough damage to India – thanks to democracy, the corrupt politicians, and thanks to all of us as individuals. We started as a developing country, and we still are developing, and will remain developing… I guess!

The effortless and the easiest way to prove our worth as Indians is to wear a cotton cloth today, hoist the flag, and sing the national anthem, even if we don’t understand what it really means, and forget about Indianess for the rest of the 364 ¼ days. Or the other way is to become a NRI and listen to Swades’s song while driving.

We have been trained to have New Year resolutions, which we predictably break in the very first month itself. So this year, for a change, let us have few Independence Day resolution, so that these small changes could bring big different at least in the next decade….

*Use hands free while riding/driving. You could be an expert rider, but the people who follow you think you are a brainless nut. That too when you talk over the phone keeping your head tilted on a bike!

*You could be literate or illiterate - it doesn’t matter. You have all the rights to chew pan masalas but try not to spit, as if you vomit, on public roads, or at least don’t spit at the traffic signals.

*Don’t think you are the smartest, and the person you reached the counter first is a dumb asshole. Try coming in queue. If there ain’t any queue, try forming it. This resolution applies to all those educated and hype crowd who go to watch movies in multiplexes like Satyam Theatres.

*Give preference to pedestrians.

*You could be a Gujarathi, and could be even proud to be one. Doesn’t matter. But when you talk to people or over the phone, see to it that only you and the other person hear the conversation. Let not the world know what you are talking.

*Indian electronic items sucks, agreed. But at least use Indian clothes.

*Don’t bargain with a vegetable vendor or a flower seller.

*It is perfectly OK if you don’t pay your taxes properly, but then donate 10 per cent of your income or profit to the needy – so that in the next 10 years at least, not a single Indian child goes to sleep empty stomach. Try NOT to donate to organization like CRY – they spend most money in flying their representatives!

*Don’t work for more than 8 hours.

*Watch less TV, especially news channels like NDTV or Times Now or Aaj Tak et al, and spend more time with self, friends, family, nature, and God.

*An important resolution for Corporates – don’t exploit employers. And employees don’t get exploited.

*Respect Indian culture, Indian values, Indian arts, and Indian artisans.

*Drink, but don’t get drunk for drink in measure is a pleasure.

*Don’t celebate life, celeRate it.

These are few easy changes that we can bring which could possibly make us feel proud to be Indians!

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June 06, 2006

Cure yourself – part 2

Human body has a natural device of curing itself from most diseases. And fever is an inbuilt defense mechanism that rises our body temperature to put an end to the trouble causing micro organism. But when the body temperature keeps increasing or goes beyond a certain point – it proves fatal in some cases. Hence fever in one way is good – it makes you take rest, and also does the cleansing from the inside.

I read it somewhere that – the holes in the flute of Lord Krishna symbolizes the holes that are present in a human body. If the flow of air, energy, blood and life force are in harmony with nature through these holes – human body will never have ill health, and can live a longer and stronger life. Hence the first step towards good health is good food and good excretion. If you have a disciplined pattern in this, you will never fall sick. You would have noticed that when you fall ill, the first thing is you lose your appetite and also you start having bowel dysfunction.

Fasting once in 15 days is an ideal bet to service your body like you service your vehicles and most of the doctors will scare you of stomach ulcers if you fast, ignore them blindly!

I used to have this dust allergy, and I would sneeze upto some 75 to 100 times in 5 minutes or so. I thought the best and the easy way of curing it was to have few Actifed, and sleep off. I kept doing it, and I wanted a permanent solution for the same. One of my brothers in law asked me to drink 1 litre of water every morning before brushing the teeth. He said if you do that you will be cured in 3 months. And it did happen. Now it should be at least 3-4 years that I got allergic to dust…that too in a place like Chennai! (Catch my collar if your dust allergy is not cured if you follow exactly what is said – 1 litre of plain water every morning before brushing your teeth).

With time, we tend to understand our body better, and we start discovering new ways of curing ourselves. Not always does medicine helps us, and after a while we normally lose trust in doctors. Mahatma Gandhi in his books says, the best cure to any disease is Ramanama (chanting the name of God), and he adds there is no harm in dying taking the name of God! And he is so true….

Here are few cures for common ailments –

*For pimples & bruises – apply your own spit, and I mean it. Spit even will take out the pimple marks. (Haven’t you seen animals licking their wounds? It is the best God given ointment)

*To arrest loose motion – chew some pomegranate skin and drink a glass of butter milk for immediate relief

*For body aches – buy a naturally made mat (not a synthetic or plastic mat), put it on the floor and sleep. Most of your body pain will vanish in 1 week.

*If your energy is completely drained after busy shopping or after meeting a lot of people – apply some salt mixed in water all over your body, wait for 5 minutes, and then take a hot water bath.

*For allergies due to insect bites – take a tablespoon of turmeric, mix it with warm water and drink

Will keep updating this list……

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June 03, 2006

Cure yourself – part 1!

“Doctors have almost unhinged (confused) us. Sometimes I think that quacks are better than highly qualified doctors. Hospitals are institutions for propagating sin. For the sake of a mistaken care of the human body, they kill annually thousands of animals. They practice vivisection. No religion sanctions this. These doctors violate our religious instinct. Most of their medical preparations contain either animal fat or spirituous liquors – both of these are tabooed by Hindus and Mahommedans. We may pretend to be civilized, call religious prohibition a superstition and wantonly indulge in what we like. The fact remains that doctors induce us to indulge, and the result is that we have become deprived of self-control and have become effeminate. To study European medicine is to deepen our slavery.”

“It is worth considering why we take up the profession of medicine. It is certainly not for the purpose of serving humanity. We become doctors so that we may obtain honours and riches. I have endeavoured to show that there is no real service of humanity in the profession, and that is injurious to mankind. Doctors make a show of their knowledge, and charge exorbitant fees.”

Well the above two paragraphs are honestly not mine – they are of India’s father of the nation M K Gandhi from his book Nature Cure. I feel these sentences are apt at the time when doctors went on a strike thinking they are the Gods and without them life cannot be saved. If doctors were life savers, then nobody would die in an Intensive Care Unit (ICU). Time of birth and time of death are decided by the Almighty and not Apollo Hospitals or AIIMS doctors.

You got a headache, take an Anacin. You got fever, take Crocin or Metacin. You have acidity problem, take Gelusil. Where are we going, and what are we doing to our body unknowingly?
Chemicals are dangerous, and you will never understand the side effects till later part of your life, said one my chemistry professors. Not only do we administer chemical medicines to ourselves, but we also try to pass on the habit to the coming generations.

Instead of trying to cure your ailment with a dangerous pill, firstly you need to understand the cause of the problem. There are only few reasons why you suffer from frequent health problems like headache, or cough or fever. Headaches are symptom of brain tumour too, but don’t worry you will not die in the very first symptom of brain tumour. Hence there is nothing wrong in trying out curing yourself without taking any chemical medicine as a first step!

We fall ill only when we fall out of the divine tune or nature’s plan. You get headaches because you might have had a late meal or skipped a meal, or would have roamed a lot in the hot sun without proper protection, or you would have not shat properly in the morning. Once you get a headache, try analyzing the cause, then act accordingly.

If your headache is because you skipped the meal – drink plenty of water and fresh juice, also eat bread or chappatis. You will be automatically cured. If your head ache is because of the hot sun, keep drinking water and glucose, and rest under a tree or in a a/c room, close your eyes and take few deep breaths – you will be cured. And if your head ache is due to improper bowel moment, fill your stomach with warm water and help yourself in the loo – your headache will be pushed out!

The above techniques are experimented and have 100 per cent positive results….say good bye to pills…

To be continued…

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May 19, 2006

….with time….

“The ‘fear’ of an uncertain tomorrow is worse than uncertainties itself”, said one of my friends, and how true he was. Fear subsides with time, and you grow and mature with every passing day – by God’s grace I am a panel astrologer on astrolife.com too (Shaadi.com’s astro portal) & Oneindia.in (Greynium Information Technologies' Portal) . With time even your hair grows a lot. Here is how I look these days.
I had many doubts and fear about my future when I was planning to quit my IT profession, and start with an altogether new profession from scratch.

But when I thought of surrendering to the divine completely, my fear vanished. I had feared about starvation, I had feared about homelessness, and also have feared about broken family – but then nothing as such happened. It is almost 2 years now that I am on my own – and there was not a single day when we didn’t have money in hand!

The sentences like, “when one door is closed God opens another door” does nothing much when you hear them, but the experience is altogether different when you realize it.

It should be the year 2002, when I was as usual bitching about my company to one of my friends. He said don’t be so disrespectful towards your company that which is providing you with your daily bread. I said, it isn’t the company that is providing - it is the divine that is providing me the money through this present company. With the argument getting heated up, we had a bet. He said you can never make a living if these companies never provided you a job, and I said even if I close all my doors and windows, and sit in my house – God will provide me the same amount of money, which is due to me. He laughed, and said it is impossible. And as expected, I won the bet. Hooked to the internet today, I keep my doors and windows literally closed and I am being provided with the same amount of money, which is due to me every month through the treasury of the divine plan. There is no way in the world that you can get deprived of something that you are destined to. With time you start realizing this divine truth….and once you understand this, there are no doubts, there are no fears, and there are no worries.

Time is the best healer too. It is almost 9 years that I parted from my first girl friend. These days the thoughts of her hardly affect me. In fact with time, I have even forgotten my 2nd, 3rd and the 4th girl friend. I cannot afford to forget the 5th one, as she happens to be my wife ;).

In doubt always give yourself some time. If you are not healed, give some more time…..

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May 09, 2006

Beat the heat!

NDTV’s special on how to beat the heat this summer said invest in an air conditioner. This is similar to saying eat cakes when you don’t your daily bread. I am sure people dying due to heat waves in India aren’t the ones who died just because they missed to invest in an a/c. But they are the ones who don’t even have a house to live in. India is not about IT professionals who work in centralized a/c office environment but India is about people who toil under the scorching sun to win their daily breads. Here are few olden and cheaper ways to save yourself from the hot sun.

*Wear pure cotton garments, and India have them surplus. Avoid wearing synthetic garments. Khadi is the best bet

*At home wear minimal clothes. A cotton brief or a langot (loin cloth) will do the magic. And also the aunty next door neighborhood might find you hot & sexy too.

*Apply oil to head when in sun (coconut oil or Navaratna oil are the best to keep you cool cool and thanda thanda) (forget about what people will think about your oily hair, none will come to rescue your family if you have a sun stroke and die on the roads)

*Keep a bottle of water with you. You can add electral, glucon D, or just plain sugar and salt to it. Keep sipping water the whole day this will fight against dehydration.

*Avoid taking cold Cokes or Pepsis. Instead have Tender Coconut at least 1 in a day.

*Avoid sugar cane juices too – they are not good during summers. Water Melons are a better bet.

*If your work involves a lot of traveling or roaming in the sun - take breaks frequently. Stand under a tree for a while, and keep having fresh juices. Don’t push yourself too much remember that how much ever you work your appraisals cannot get you more than 20 per cent salary hike.

*Keep visiting places like shopping malls and movie plazas to escape the brutal sun. Of course you need not buy anything there.

*Avoid spicy food, and compulsorily avoid eating chicken during summer. They are the main causes for dehydration & loose motion. Have simple food, with lots of raw vegetable like cucumber, carrot and tomatoes.

*If you have enough water, take bath at least twice a day. Or at least keep washing your face, body and head with cold water.

*In the nights if you live on the top floor, keep your fan slow. Keeping it in full speed will only heat up the room. Try sleeping on the terrace itself. Exposing your body to the nature is the best cure for all diseases. (but see to it that you don’t have sex on the terrace, you might be the next MMS victim)

*For people living in other floors, wet few bedsheets and hang them in your bedrooms. If you have ice cubes drop them around the places you sleep. Switch on the fan. You can sleep in peace.

*Avoid sleeping on the floor instead buy some mat (not the plastic ones) and sleep on them.

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May 08, 2006

Tamil Nadu goes to election – Happy Voting!

I personally don’t believe in democracy, and long time back I had decided not to vote and I still stick to my vow. Of course as an Indian citizen it is my duty to cast my vote, but I don’t consider myself belonging to any country as such – but would love to exist as a world citizen. Tamil Nadu goes to elections today, and this has been an election of freebees so far. DMK promises rice for Rs 2, free Colour TV for have nots, 2 acres of land for landless farmers while AIADMK promises free 10 kgs rice, free computers for 12th pass students, and 4 gms gold for poor marriages. Of course the election agendas are much more but then why only agendas that cater to poor people get highlighted always?

My sister was a bit dejected that she could not vote this time as her name was not in the voting list. I told her don’t worry in any case your vote won’t make any difference to the politics. She was taken aback. She said don’t talk rubbish. Every single vote counts. I said of course it does, but the segment of people which make a movie hit and the segment that make a chief minister don’t belong to the middle class or the upper middle class. They are the one are the uneducated and illiterate poor people who belong to the lower middle class. And the politicians are completely aware of this point. Hence announcing freebees like rice at Rs 2 or free, or colour TVs or free land – all can attract only the poor and not the one who can afford them. And I am 100 per cent sure that the people who are reading this particular blog never use rice given at Ration Shop for their lunch or dinner!

If someone can get to power easily just by promising freebees that might or might not be given after acquiring the chair in my opinion ain’t fair democracy. It is corruption or creating greediness among voters. Huge discounts are fine, but freebees are not accepted. There is another catch to it too. What if DMK comes to power - they will be able to only get Rs 100 every month from the people they had given TV for cable connection, they will be able to reach out to bigger masses via Sun network, and also what if they give out set top boxes on installment basis? End of the day DMK will continue to monopolize and make more in spite of giving out free TVs!

Well honestly today even people living in slums have colour TVs. The one who don’t posses colour TVs are probably beggars, and thankfully they don’t posses a voter card to vote nor ration card to get one TV after the elections are over!

Happy Voting!

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April 26, 2006

Two lives that amused me recently!

Most of us don’t know what exactly are we supposed to do in life? Is money our final goal or flying abroad is our only dream. Or it is just visiting many countries to make money, or is it buying a 2 bed room flat in a posh locality. The rich become richer with no efforts of their own, and the poor get benefited by the government as always, and it is the middle class who are conditioned by the society to slog their butts and die with the hope of becoming filthy rich some day – and which never happens. Blessed are those who understand the uselessness of money sooner in their lives, and have the guts to dedicate their lives to something they love – how much ever small work it is or how much ever less money it gives.

Chris had a bad childhood. In his teens he was put even behind bars for street violence. It took him few decades to know what exactly his purpose on planet was – until he met Timbo. Timbo is an African elephant, which was made to act in few Hollywood movies. There was no one to take care of Timbo after a while and was chained most of the times. Chris took the pain of adopting Timbo, and dedicated his life to provide freedom to this mammoth elephant. For 25 years he stayed with Timbo, and his daily routine consisted of taking him for a 10 kms walk, feeding him, nurturing him, and loving him. His other hobbies include knife making and biking. From the outside or should I say for the material man’s view Chris’s job would seem utterly boring. But I am yet to see any IT professional with so much contentment on his face that which Chris carries.

I normally don’t appreciate women who call themselves achievers. And also I don’t think achieving what men have already achieved is any kind of achievement. Joining the army, or driving a train, or becoming a VP, or becoming a pilot is no big deal. Men do it very easily and imitating it ain’t tough. If there is anything I appreciate in a woman then it ought to be originality or doing something which even men would think twice to do. Or it would be something what Sneha of Gujarat does. Sneha is a volunteer who is into saving snakes. When you spot a snake in your vicinity you just need to give her a call, and she will come and catch the snake (using her bare hands, and she treats both poisonous and non-poisonous snakes equally). She will then let go the snake in the wild. She carries a revolver with her, as she was attacked a couple of times by snake charmers and local gundas who deal with snake skins. But she is not afraid, and thinks saving these endangered species is the core purpose of her life.

(I never knew that after the teeth of the snakes are removed by the snake charmers, the snake usually dies in 80-90 days due to digestive problems, as venom acts as saliva for the snakes. Hence the next time you come across any snake charmer treat them as killers and not charmers.)

Well this blog is the after effect of watching channels like Animal Planet and National Geographic too much in my native. Chennaites are brutally deprived of these wonderful channels. Thanks to the politicians.

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March 11, 2006

Beware of evangelists!

“Masturbation is a sin and I am sure you do it everyday”, prompted someone from behind. My friend got a shock of his life. Not because the person from the back guessed it right, but because he was talking about sex wearing a rosary around the neck and holding a bible in his hands. He was a protestant evangelist just preaching what he thought was right – Jesus the ‘only’ way, as if all the other enlightened souls who lived on the planet were mere fools.

It was during my hostel days, and my poor friend had gone to a medical store to fetch some pain killer to get rid of his severe headache. He was unfortunately got caught by this person, and for 1 hour he was bombarded about the achievement of Jesus Christ, and how bible can show him the right way. And moreover he didn’t even ask him whether he was interested in hearing about Christianity.

My friend looked all the more tired after coming back to the hostel, and was kind of refusing to see my face. They all knew that half my blood was from a Christian family hence though he wanted to blast Jesus Christ outright he kept mum for a while. He could not resist himself for long and opened up, “why these M*****r F*****g Christians want to convert others?” “Why can’t they just keep their mouth shut, and pray for their daily breads?” He made immense sense to me.

Why should any one market a particular religion, when it is an altogether personal search. And why should Jesus be the only savior? Why can’t Prophet Mohammed be one, and why can’t lord Shiva be one? Confirming availability by constructing churches, mosques or temples are perfect. One who wants to seek will reach. But why is there a need to preach - that too outside your den.

Recently another friend of mine, who is perfectly happy with Goddess Lakshmi as his personal deity happened to converse with a Christian office mate. He honestly agrees that the only reason he started the conversation with her was to try luck his in laying her at the earliest. But unfortunately all his hidden desires were blown to smithereens when she started talking about Jesus Christ, and how he should start reading the bible, and how Jesus will show him the right way. Getting totally pissed off with her, the first thing he did was – dialed my number! And he used words so foul that if his office mate had listened to it – she would have hanged herself.

So what should you do the next time you meet anyone who says Jesus Never Fails, just say probably Jesus never tried his luck writing CA exams!

PS – The scribe believes in Christ but not in Christianity!

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February 24, 2006

A stunt that backfired!

One of my aunts committed suicide last week. She consumed some pesticide available from agri stores. This was not the first time she had attempted to end her life. She had consumed poison a couple of times earlier too. But during the last couple of times she indeed wanted to kill herself, and this time she just wanted to create a scene and stop an important event – which indeed backfired!

When my mother and my wife visited my uncle’s home last month, she was all upset about her life. She felt she is being completely ignored by all. And the latest event was she was exempted from being called for an important function – my uncle’s grandson’s baptism. In fact my aunt was my uncle’s 2nd wife, just 37 years old – full of energy & dynamism whenever I saw her. She had told my wife about her plans of committing suicide, and ironically had also shown her the pesticide bottle she kept ready for the same.

The baptism was scheduled last Sunday, and she challenged her husband that she will stop the ceremony at any cost. When he had gone out to get some food, she mixed the pesticide, and drank as little as possible so that she can be rushed to hospital, and saved at the last moment. Unfortunately, my uncle returned home a bit late and when he returned my aunt told him, “I have consumed poison, and I am extremely sorry I did this. I will never do this again in life, please save me this time.” It was too late already. They have a doctor residing in the neighbourhood, who refused to open the door for it is police case it seems!

They rushed her to nearest government hospital, which is 50 kms from their place – and she died on the way.

We usually tend to take God’s blessing for granted. A perfect body, a perfect life, and a perfect world – what else can God provide for man to celebrate life? Even then we aren’t happy about what has been given for free. We crib about a bigger salary, a bigger car, a bigger house, and a better wife!

I recollect a beautiful discourse once told by Shiva Shankar Baba of Kelambakam, Chennai. He said that, just before going to sleep – just ask yourself one important question. “How many people did you help today or in how many people’s life did you bring a change? And note it down in a book.” I am sure if we start noting it down from today, we hardly would be able to fill the book with any numbers – it will be all NIL!

Bringing change doesn’t mean you keep forwarding useless SMSs through mobile phones, or keep forwarding sick jokes or a friendship messages via email. Helping & bringing change probably would mean – donating at least Rs 10 to some needy, or spending time with your loved ones, or throwing a surprise lunch or dinner for friends, or at least sharing your knowledge & expertise with your colleagues. You need not necessarily celebrate your birthday in an orphanage once a year as most celebrities do, but you surely can be kind enough with people with whom you interact on a every day basis.

Well here are some other interesting things that followed the death of my aunt –

*The landlord called my uncle to say, “don’t keep the dead body inside the house, you should keep it only outside. And also kindly vacate the house in one month’s time.”

*The church’s priest refused to come to do the prayers. It seems in Roman Catholics, suicides and accidents are not considered natural deaths. And also in graveyards, 10 per cent of the place is reserved for such cases.

The thought of killing thyself comes to all once in a while, but before you take the decision about ending your life ask, “did your presence make any difference to others? If not then you have more to live – for we live for others and not for ourselves.”

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February 14, 2006

Askenni.com's wishes for Valentine's Day

Askenni wishes one and all a very Happy and love-filled Valentine's Day. Spread love not AIDS!

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February 09, 2006

Throw your passport away. If you are destined, you still will fly abroad – Part 2!

“I think I trust your astrological capabilities now,” whispered my wife from behind when we were riding our bike on the busy roads of Chennai. I have been practicing and predicting since the year 2002, and it took my wife 4 long years to acknowledge that astrology works and that I can do decent predictions. Not her fault though, human mind needs practical examples and real life incidents to unfold in front of their own eyes before they start believing things they hate to accept. (Well I am really not sure how come so many science graduates believe in the presence of electrons in spite of having no chance of getting to see them with their own naked eyes).

Your brother will go abroad, your 29 year old friend will get married in the month of June 2005, and also your brother will get marred in the same month - were few predictions that had already come true in my wife’s case. These predictions were not sufficient enough to impress her or to bring those kind words on to her mouth - she just uttered on the bike.

My sister had to join her husband in Belgium at the earliest. She got all her papers ready, and had submitted them perfectly. In ideal conditions the papers take a week’s time to get processed, and within a week the Visa comes on hand. Given this situation, my sister had already decided to leave the country in the 3rd week of January 2006. She had completed all her pending works – like packing, giving out unnecessary things, and informing the house owner about the vacating part. She also paved a visit to our native (Tiruppur) to meet our relatives and say an adieu, as she will be back only after a year or so. My mom wanted to see her off from the airport hence she accompanied us to Chennai.

It was in the month of October 2005, I had told my sister that she will be leaving India only in the month of February 2006, and not before that. She had this sudden interest in Satya Sai Baba around November 2005, and I told her that we will also be visiting Sai Baba in the month of February 2006, and you won’t be leaving the country before taking Sai Baba’s darshan. She is not the person who doesn’t accept or agree what I say, but then she continued putting her effort so that she can leave the country by January 2006 itself.

My mom, who generally is not happy with my long beard, long hair, white waisty, barefooted legs and my new career as an astrologer asked me - when do you think your sister will be leaving to Belgium. I stuck to what I said – I don’t see any chance of her going in the month of January 2006, she will go only in the month of February 2006. She wanted to double check, because her visit to Chennai would be waste of time if my sister wasn’t flying in the January 2006.

Looking at the pace at which the Visa documents were sent across, all in our family including my wife were 100 per cent sure that my sister will fly off in the month of January itself, and I kept smiling.

January 2006 was already coming to an end, and anxiety was creeping in. My sister called up the Visa office to enquire about the developments, and the office person replied that – one of the documents was not correct, and they needed another instead of that. So astrologically January was ruled out. The new document is ready as of today, and once my sister submits that- Visa should be ready in a week’s time.

Meanwhile my sister has booked our tickets to Bangalore to pave a visit to Satya Sai Baba. We are leaving by tomorrow evening’s train!

Om Sai Ram!

“Someday I will blog about why I keep blowing my own trumpet” 

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February 08, 2006

Throw your passport away. If you are destined, you still will fly abroad – Part 1!

Case 1

“How sure are you about my trip to the US tonight?” asked one of my astro clients working for Infosys a couple of weeks back. He had consulted me before, and astrologically I had told him that he definitely will be flying abroad in the coming months. The reason for his panicky question was because he had lost an important Visa related document and wasn’t sure whether he will be allowed to board the night’s flight to the US, though he had photo copies of the original documents!

I was meditating when I got his call, and based on the mood of his question I enquired, why did he had this particular doubt on his mind. He said, he shifted his house recently, and this important document was not to be seen for the last 8 days. I told him to search all the places carefully, and concentrate on places – where you least expect. I asked him to give me a call around 6 pm and keep me updated about the same, as the flight was at 11 pm that evening. As far as prediction is concerned I had told him that - he definitely will be boarding the flight to the US that night.

After hanging up, I prayed to my favourite deity (God) to show one miracle in his life. I prayed that he should get the document by evening, and that there shouldn’t be any hassle in his trip.

My mom was in town and we went for a dinner that night. At around 6.30 pm I got a call from this client, saying he has found the document, and he is already leaving to the airport.

Case 2

To be honest I find strangers better clients than my friends. May be because friends hate to see me or find it difficult to accept me as a person who predicts their lives or probably think twice to take my advice seriously.

One of my Express day’s friends – a complete skeptic – buzzed me over Yahoo Messenger asking me to predict about his life. I did it for free the first time. As his future tone was a bit arrogant & was unacceptable to me, I told him to pay for the services he takes from me. I want serious clients – not those who want to listen from me about them – just because I am available for free for FEW friends.

His H1 Visa was cancelled twice, and his question was whether he would get his H1 Visa in the future. I said that he will definitely get the same, and in the year 2006 he will have a short trip to the US. Post November 2006 – he will go for good. He asked me, “what if I decide not to go to the US then what would happen to your prediction?” I said, “throw your passport in the sea, and still you will go to the US in the year 2006, because you are destined to go.”

He got his H1 Visa last month, and I heard from one of our common friends that he is leaving to the US in the month of March 2006. Of course he never bothered to let me know that my astrological prediction for him came true – may be because his ego hurts to accept that astrology worked fro him - whether he believes in it or not!

To be continued….

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January 07, 2006

How to choose a technological gadget!

If I were to take a complete sanyas from life, I just need to forego 2 important things in life - firstly my wild sexual fantasies about women, and secondly my passion about owning an electronic gadget. Choosing an electronic gadget is like choosing a woman for marriage. When you are young, dynamic, and have just decided to get married, your expectations are really high, and you would want to possess the best that is available in the market. That way, when I planned to get married, I very badly wanted to marry film star Kajol!

Later as you grow up with time, and when you are able to touch base with reality that you cannot afford the best always, you start compromising. You say average looks are fine (instead of good looks), average education is ok (instead of high intelligence), and average figure is acceptable (when you had dreamt of a woman like that of a blonde). And end of the day you are happy/unhappy with what your destiny wanted you to take home.

A similar process is involved when you plan to buy a technological gadget from the market – which could be an iPOD, a digital camera, a music system, a washing machine or a MP3 player. There are always ‘better’ products available, and the old is outdated within a span of 6 months or 1 year’s time. So how do you make the best choice in the present scenario?

Do an initial check about the following three important factors –

*Why do you need the product?
*What is your budget?
*How urgently do you need the product?

Why do you need the product?

This is the most important factor you need to consider. Are you going for a product just for the sake of passion or you really want to use it to the maximum after you buy it. Handycams, digicams (unless you are professional photographer) & music systems are products we buy just out of passion and products like washing machines, fridge, and microwave ovens are ones which we buy to meet a particular need. Hence when buying products for passion, don’t go for the best brand, as your passion will die in no time, and you might want a better product soon. Target just for a year, and invest accordingly.

And the products that you need, you can go for a better brand that which gives you the maximum warranty period, because you aren’t going to change them at least for 3-4 years.

What is your budget?

While buying an electronic product, we always tend to exceed our budget. For instance when you have made up your mind to buy a particular product for Rs 4000, people would say another 1000, and you will have this extra feature included. And you forget the fact that, when you thought about investing in the product your budget was just Rs 2000, which eventually reached to Rs 4000 now. So Rs 5000 is Rs 3000 more than where you had started, and it is not Rs 1000 more than Rs 4000.

Try to drag the product in your budget, and ignore flashy features, which you might not use at all. For instance – when you have a computer at home, you need not pay few thousands more to buy a computer compatible TV, which you would hardly use (if your budget is less). The purpose of TV is just to provide clear picture and clear sound. Or when buying a washing machine, you don’t need an automatic program – because in any case your wife is going to be near the machine while washing clothes.

How urgently do you need the product?

It is always better to buy an electronic product 6 months later. The prices would have come down, and also a new model would have hit the market. That way the ideal time to buy any gadget is just 6 months before you die – that way you would have possessed the latest in the market, and by the time the new model comes into market, you would have left the planet.

But that is not practically possible. Hence you can probably postpone buying something you want for a couple of months – that is only if you can resist yourself. Or else ignore all and go and buy the product that you always wanted to have.

Few other important tips

*Never buy second hand electronic goods
*Avoid buying electronic goods online (on the internet)
*Try not to buy electronic goods on installment, instead save money and then buy –that way you will buy it after few months, and by the time you buy the prices would have come down. Also when you have cash on hand you can bargain with the dealers to get the best bet
*Do a minor market study before you buy any product
*Stop thinking about other products, after you have made the purchase
*And lastly don’t listen to anyone (including me). Follow your own inner light

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January 01, 2006

A Very Happy New Year To You And Your Family!

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December 29, 2005

Do something different this New Year!

For years we had been glued to the Television on the midnight of December 31, and watched celebrities dancing, singing & wishing us a very ‘Happy New Year.’ Some other years we were at our office slogging our butt at work, when our bosses were having a gala time in some New Year party. A couple of years back we ground our hip with our girl friend in a pub, who later ditched us to find a better NRI partner as a soul mate. Few New Year nights we tried to call up our forgotten parents and found the phone lines very busy. So what can you do differently on this New Year eve?

Wherever you are, what ever you are doing, and with whomsoever you are – just exactly when the clock hits 12 on the midnight of December 2005
– close you eyes
– imagine the picture of our planet earth
– and chant the following mantra 3 times…

Take a deep breath and say it when you exhale

Om Shaanti, Shaanti, Shannti hee

Again breath in and say

Om Shaanti, Shaanti, Shaanti hee

Again breath in and say

Om Shaanti, Shaanti, Shaanti hee

It will hardly take 2 minutes and once you are done, you can carry on with the beer you are holding on your hand, or go ahead kissing your girl friend or cuddle yourself in your warm bed.

Askenni wishes one and all a very Happy & Prosperous New Year, and asks you to Celebrate Life!

PS – Shaanti in the mantra means 'peace' in Indian lingo. Even if your girl friend’s name happens to be Shaanti try imagining the image of our planet Earth and not HER!

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October 30, 2005

Askenni’s wishes for you!

Askenni.com wishes every 'Indian' living in India, and also abroad a very Happy and safe Diwali! Have Fun!

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July 13, 2005

Processes have to be ‘thinked’!

I had been to Adyar Sangeetha recently, and I noticed a couple (colleagues) who had come for lunch. Both of them were from Inautix – their tags on their neck showed it. I really wonder why people carry their office tag to each and every place they go. Wearing it during office hours is fine, but to the shopping mall in the evenings? I am sure they at least remove it when having sex with their spouses.

The restaurant was crowded and the server wasn’t able to find a place for them. The young chap pulled a chair, and shared a table with another set of people. With pride he said to the attendant, “processes have to be thinked.” He surely was a Tamilian, and also the server. In that case what was the need to use a foreign language for communication? And that too wrong English? (I am sure after reading the headline you already had thought about sending me a mail or leaving me a comment to change it to ‘thought’). Had the attendant knew English, I am sure he wouldn’t be serving masala dosas & idlis to the customers.

We as Indians tend to give a lot of importance to foreign languages at the cost of regional, and I have seen it predominant in the South. In the North, people start off with English, and midway shift to Hindi. But in the South, language seems to show a class difference. The one who knows English tries to behave more sophisticated than the rest. People even tend to carry huge complexes about not having fluency in English. It is ultimately your thoughts that matter & not your vocabulary.

May be it all started from the day when India’s first Prime Minister Jawaharlal Nehru gave his first Independence day’s speech in English, and not in an Indian language. He would have had his own reasons, of course. May be he was trying too hard to impress Mrs Mountbatten.

English of course is important, but it should come last in the list of languages we know. First any Indian should be made thorough in his regional language, then probably a national language & then a foreign language. There may be thoughts that this might retard our growth as a developing country – but Japan became one of the developed countries without using a foreign language. And if you want to work in Japan – you should know to converse in Japanese.

And why a regional language is important than a national language? Most regional languages (like that of Marathi, Sanskrit, Tamil, Malayalam) of India has rich heritage, unlike Hindi – which was in fact formed only in the year 1935 (refer Hindi Sahitya Ki Itihaas – by Ramchandra Shukla). And Mahatma Gandhi never wanted Hindi to be a national language – he wanted Hindustani, which is a mixture of Urdu & one of the dialects of Hindi.

If we don’t put efforts to save our regional languages now, it will die soon. Maharashtra is the best example for this. The whole of Marathi filmdom had to bring their shutters down, as Hindi became a prime language and Hindi movies became the prime focus.

Enna solrathu sariya? Kya mein theek hoon? Am I right?

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July 02, 2005

Types of astrologers - part 2 - Final!

‘Print out’ astrologers

In my previous blog I missed to add this important kind of astrologers who are budding really fast. These are people who invest in a computer, download the latest astrology software from the net, find the crack code and then start calling themselves astrologers.

Millions of astro rules are fed in the software and on the basis of few astro parameters pages & pages of predictions are thrown by the computers. Whether the prediction will suit you specifically is a BIG question!

It is like this – you have a head ache, and there would be some 100 permutations & combinations for why you have the pain. You feed in all the permutations in your computer, and the computer will throw the possible remedy for the same. In that case you will never need a doctor!

Or probably you play the mantra ‘Om Namo Narayanaya’ in mp3 format on your computer and put it in loop for millions of repetition. In that case Lord Narayanaya should bless the computer with few siddhies!

Computers can never replace human beings as far as divinity is concerned!

Astrologers who counsel

These astrologers are psychological pillows. Whatever your vows be, you can have an appointment with the astrologer and vomit all that you have on your mind on him/her.

They will happily listen to you, and give you one standard answer – shaant raho, sab kuch theek ho jaayega (be patient, everything will be alright). I really wonder how can one remain patient when his/her marriage is heading for a divorce?!

The clients feel better after the cleanliness process, go home happy, and return after 3 months with a fresh set of problems.

Astrology is not a soothe saying business where the clients are made to feel better, but it is about predicting - no matter what the client thinks or feels. End of the day it should be truth that was told.

Astrologers who claim to solve problems & change destiny

Add an extra letter ‘h’ in your name, and all your problems will be solved. Or probably wear a ring that has 2 carat of Emerald on it, and you will win over destiny.

Plenty of astrologers come on TV to convince the audience about how easily karma can be put to an end and how future can be structured or planned by human efforts. If only Siddharth’s father could put an extra ‘S’ in his name and stopped him from becoming the biggest saint of all times – Gautam Buddha! (The future of Guatam Buddha was predicted by an astrologer when Siddharth was born.)

People of course love to go in for this kind of astrologers who promise to change your destiny, since none is happy with his/her own life. Have we ever liked the dish on our table more interesting than which is on our friend’s table?

Finally the Astrologers who predict & leave it there

In my personal experience of meeting with astrologers from across India, I have come across very few astrologers, who could predict on the dot with utmost clarity & perfection. K Gopalakrishnan (my teacher), Dr Praja Rao, and the one who I met outside the Chennai‘s Sai Baba temple are few of the best astrologers I have encountered.

These astrologers won’t give you gyaan, won’t bombard you with useless information, won’t give you false hopes, and also won’t promise you of changing your destiny.

They will just do a reporting job, and honestly let you know about what is in store for you – no matter how bad you feel about it. They are one of the few astrologers who take the risk of predicting your future.

And to which category of astrologers I belong – I don’t want to write about myself! My clients would decide that :).

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July 01, 2005

Types of astrologers � part 1!

If Jesus Christ visits the planet today, he will be surprised to see the different branches of Christianity that resulted out of his divine preaching - Roman Catholics, Protestants, Penda Coastal, CSI, NSI, Christian Orthodox & what not. I am sure there also would be a special cult, which will object Jesus Christ being a Christian himself! It is simply the ignorance of the masses, which without understanding the basics jump on creating their own belief system & their own preconceived notions. Astrology is one such art that has been conceived utterly wrong based on very few astrologers who most of the times have gone wrong.

Scientific astrologers

Astrologers who refuse to accept astrology as a divine art choose this path � where in they try really hard giving all the scientific explanation for the planetary placements and their influence on life events. How much ever they try, they ultimately fail to convince the scientific minds.

Modern crowd of course prefers a scientific astrologer for astrological consultation � as they don�t want to get tagged as a believer of blind faith.

Scientific astrologers are always very keen on getting the exact date & time of birth for charting the horoscope, and they also give a lot of importance to minor degrees of planets.

They usually won�t predict events, but prefer to give you a list of probabilities that might occur in your life. The failure rates for a scientific astrologer are really low � as they have predicted nothing.

For instance � the astrologer would say, the time is good hence if you put effort you will be successful. If you go back after a month saying nothing has materialized � he would very well escape saying you didn�t put enough effort hence the event didn�t occur. Safe batting I should say.

Western astrologers

Western Astrologer Linda Goodman with her experience with different people could segregate all human under 12 signs based on their date of birth. And she chose to give the same �images� to all the Sun Signs she discovered, as that of Moon signs Indians had invented 5000 years ago.

She kept publishing books which spoke more about characteristics & nature of a person belonging to a particular sign. Where has the �prediction� part gone? She didn�t bother, since none of her readers bothered.

Whatever is Western has great value in India � even if it is a truck load of shit like Harry Potter & the Sorceror�s Stone.

People who happen to read Linda Goodman & mug it up call themselves astrologers too. They are adept at character analysis, and might shock you with their perfection at reading your behaviors. They play it safe too � they never touch the prediction part.

Astrologers who give only gyaan

Thanks to B V Raman & K N Rao to have made astrology understandable by common man by publishing the highest number of books on Indian astrology. I am sure very few know about these two icons � in fact both of them are termed as fathers of Indian Vedic Astrology.

B V Raman was �THE� man to have translated most of Sanskrit scriptures of astrology into English. The scriptures otherwise belonged to a particular caste or community.

K N Rao is the person who founded a separate institute for Indian astrology in Delhi, and is the single man behind winning the case from Supreme Court to add astrology as a subject in universities.

People out of special interest read their books, analyze charts, and start calling themselves astrologers. There are few million rules which they apply on individual charts, and try giving the clients some gyaan � which most of the times aren�t understandable.

For instance they would say � You are born in the lagna of Meena, and your Moon sign is Kumbha. In your chart Guru, Mercury & Sun are placed in your lagna itself � which is good, Ketu & Venus go into the 3rd house, which is bad�.

Did you understand what these jargons mean? I am sure you didn�t!

To be continued�

*Astrologers who counsel
*Astrologers who claim to solve problems & change destiny
*Finally the Astrologers who predict & leave it there

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June 22, 2005

An insight into sleep!

Baby sitting is an art, and making the baby sleep is a bigger art. My wife left for shopping today, and I was swinging my 3-year-old baby in a cradle when I got this idea of blogging about what sleep exactly is. I am sure this blog will help all those men, who cannot escape baby sitting their children - always.

Scientifically the process of sleep is divided into 4 levels - the 1st, the 2nd, the 3rd and the 4th. A good sleep comprises of 4 hours of 1st & 2nd level and 4 hours of 3rd and 4th level.

I am sure this is getting a bit confusing. Here is an easier way to understand this concept �

The 1st level of sleep

This is when you decide to close your eyes, and try to sleep. Various thoughts come to your mind � the day to day happenings, the images of people you met, new ideas for the next day at office, women stripping etc. You are so engrossed in yourself that if someone calls you, you take time to revert - consciously.

The 2nd level of sleep

This is an intermediate stage, while you are slowly falling into the 3rd stage. This is a semi-sleep level, when you sometimes can hear the TV volume and sometimes don�t. There is a break in what you hear. Also this is the level when you could hear, but could not understand.

The 3rd level of sleep

This is the level when you start having dreams. This is when your subconscious mind gets activated. You lose consciousness, and most of your muscles are put to rest during this stage. People tend to get up in fear, have wet dreams, or start walking during this stage.

The 4th level of sleep

This is the stage when you are close to death. You don�t have dreams during this level. Your conscious mind, subconscious mind, and all the muscles of the body are completely put to rest. If someone tries to wake you up during this phase, you will pass through the 3rd & 2nd level before getting up.

Most saints sleep only for 4 hours, because they train themselves to jump to the 4th level of sleep directly � this prolongs the life span.

People who tend to worry a lot either become insane or need hallucination (sleeping pills or alcohol) to sleep. This is because their worries don�t allow them to cross the 2nd level of sleep. And how does alcohol help in giving you good sleep? Alcohol helps in breaking thought processes and the person becomes successful in jumping into the 3rd and 4th level.

The next time you booze, try spending some time meditating. You will witness that your mind could not stick to one subject � it will keep breaking your thoughts. Hence, people tend to drink when they have a lot of pressure. It surely helps.

And here is the tip to make your baby sleep fast in a cradle

Playfulness for kids is similar to worries for adults. Kids usually don�t sleep or eat when they are busy playing, and similarly adults don�t eat or sleep well when they have worries/work.

1st stage

Cradle is a device invented to make your babies sleep. Whenever you put your baby in the cradle, it will naturally rebel. Try swinging the cradle vigorously to match the baby�s energy. If the baby cries, try raising your voice � you could sing a song or lullaby. By doing this you are taking your baby to the first level of sleep, where it decides that it should sleep now. If the baby keeps its eyes open, the movement of the cradle will tire the eyes of baby, and the eyelids will close automatically.

2nd stage

Once the baby silence down, slowly reduce the speed of cradle, and keep it constant. Keep singing the song or lullaby, and keep repeating the same song. This will create a kind of boredom in the child, and take her to the 2nd stage of sleep. She will be able hear you � partially.

3rd stage

Now keeping the movement of the cradle constant, gradually reduce your volume. This will slowly help your baby slip into the 3rd stage of sleep, when she starts having dream. Don�t stop swinging the cradle at this juncture. She might get up disturbed any moment.

4th stage

Stop singing, and gradually reduce the speed of swinging. 99 per cent the kid won�t get up, if it does � you need to come from stage one! You can stop swinging slowly, and the kid would have already got on to the 4th stage of sleep.

You can come back, and complete your pending job, which otherwise could get disturbed by your children. I took 1 hour to write this blog, and my kid is still sleeping peacefully.

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June 03, 2005

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June 01, 2005

What�s life? It�s just a set of memories!

Zen says �keep flowing.� The Buddhists say its nirvana. Osho says it all about no-mind. Jesus says forget & forgive. And there are many others who have dedicated ample number of years to understand what life is all about & who took enough pain to share their experiences about God or Divinity or shunyatha - whatever you name it. End of the day truth remains that there is no escape from day-to-day human problems and that you cannot leave them behind to survive in solitude.

Whether you live in a crowded place like Mumbai, or you escape to the caves of Himalayas once in a while � you would need people to socialise or at least to share your experiences. Ultimately Buddha had to come down to the same town, where he was an emperor, after 12 years of penance to preach the people about Bodhi Satwa.

Once I was typing a letter to someone & by mistake I typed 2104 as the year. And to my surprise I could not see my existence. I could not even see my children�s existence by that period. An important truth flashed in my mind that even in our sub conscious we are aware about our life span, and human mind can not think beyond a point. Of course we can take our imagination a bit forward and think about how the world could be in the year 2200 but then it will be really hard to see yourself enjoying all the amanities. We exist in a particular time frame say between 1975 & 2050, and life is all about how many good & bad memories you gather in that particular time frame.

Goals are important, money is important, career is important, the new house, the new car and the new girl are important. But then no body will remember you for having a bank balance of few crores, or for owning a flat in Marine Drive, or for sleeping with Jennifer Lopez, or for having a chauffer driven car while working with Tatas or Birlas. You will be remembered on the basis of how many good memories you could inculcate in the people you have interacted with or on the basis of the good changes you were able to bring in somebody�s life.

Spending money is the easiest thing. You can either splurge few 100s in a dance bar boozing yourself with the best beer and dancing your way with a bar girl or probably donate a 2 rupee coin for a hungry child who begs under the hot sun near the traffic signal. By donating you of course are supporting beggary, but I think supporting beggary is better than promoting bar girls.

Living a selfish life is easy. Anybody can do that. But living your life to assist humanity is altogether a different ball game. Many talented & successful people have lived & died, but then the one who tops the list of important people in our minds are the people who were able to bring great changes in human lives. They not only collected good memories for themselves but also were successful in implanting great reminiscence in others� mind.

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May 27, 2005

How to know what your �goal� is!

One of the questions I always hated to answer all my life was, �what is your aim in life�? Probably I disliked the question because I never knew the answer. In schools I used to tell that I wanted to become an engineer, because my bench mate wanted to become one. Later I kept telling that I wanted to become a doctor, because the teachers admired students who wanted to become a physician. To be honest I never had an aim or a goal. But deep down, I always had an affinity towards saintly people & things that were associated with divinity. I surely could not tell my parents or teachers that I wanted to become a saint!

God always provide you two paths. One is the simple one - where life pushes you and another is a tougher one - where you push the life. You will never come to know about these different paths until you surrender yourself totally to the divine. You would always think that the path you are moving on is the only path God has provided.

The first path is simple. You have a system, you have a hierarchy, you get few promotions, you slog for the company, pay to the government, get retired & live on pension.

The second path is the tougher one. There is no hope, uncertainties haunt you, close people (that includes you wife, parents, relatives, friends & neighbours) criticise you or laugh at you, there is no hierarchy, there is none to guide you, and you never retire. And the truth is most successful men have chosen the second path & not the first!

For instance this person would have died as a mediocre foreign return lawyer, if he had not selected the second path. I am talking about Mahatma Gandhi!

So where is this second path hidden?

Every individual has a purpose in this life, and every one aspires to become big or successful. We live half our life for the society, and we tend to keep compromising on our special interests or passion.

Go into solitude, close your eyes, and focus on the things that give you the most pleasure. It could even be furniture that gives you immense delight. You probably can be a very good carpenter in that case. But then you should have enough guts to answer to your father that you will start making furniture after having completed your MBA from Oxford! If you succeed in taking the plunge, then you surely have chosen the 2nd path.

Don�t focus on what you want in life. Of course everyone wants money, fame & success. These three things are peripheral of your effort & dedication in achieving your personal goal. Focus on what you want to do in life. List down things that give happiness � it could be sex, it could be movies, it could be religion, it could be photography, it could be sketching, or it could be music. After listing it down, ask yourself whether you would leave your job and dedicate your life for your special interest. If the answer is yes, then probably you have taken the 2nd path.

Sex? How can sex give you success? Remember porn movies & porn magazines are multi million businesses in the US, and as far as India is concerned there isn�t one professionally made porn movie or magazine. Don�t jump on conclusions - this was just an example!

If you want to know astrologically what field suits you the best, you can always ask me!!

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May 23, 2005

Hey blogger! Planning to write a book?

The concept of blogging has brought many a talents out. The creative people bubbling with ideas, the people who were rejected by media companies and the people who always wanted to write but could not gather enough guts to take up writing as a full time career can find solace in updating their blog site. A 100 dedicated readers is a good amount of number for a successful blogger. With increase in readership & fame most bloggers are now nursing a thought about bringing out their own book or publishing their own work. Will it work?

I always wonder why companies like Pepsi & Coke spend crores in advertising & marketing their products. Why do they make the super stars & the cricketers dance to their funny & bubbly tunes? What is their motto? The simple funda is � their target audience is anyone who has Rs 10 note in his/her pocket. And the whole drama is played to induce them to take that currency out and make him/her drink plain carbonated water which is produced spending a meagre 1 rupee. Making people pay for a service or a product is the most difficult thing on the planet.

However talented you are & however interesting your writing style is - until & unless you get associated with big brands or you have tons of money to pump in you cannot succeed in life. If not money, you at least should have someone BIG who gives you a lift. (Will write another blog about successful people and people behind their success)

I happen to meet a person who is an author of few vernacular books. He was the person who gave me an insight about how the publishing industry works.

There are 2 important things you need to consider before you think about publishing your own book. Firstly � how big you are, and secondly how big the publisher is.

If you are a celebrity writer like Shobha De (remember Shobha De became famous through Indian Express, which already is a big brand), you write your experiences about constipation and you will be paid in lakhs for getting your work published by top publishers.

If you are a layman, and think that your thoughts are unique and will be accepted by general audience then you need to approach big publishers like Penguin or Rupa. If your writing is accepted by them, then you will be paid 7.5 per cent of the book cost. But then in this case your work should really impress the so called intellect working for these publishers.

If you think you don�t need both the options and you want to publish your own book. Then the option is open. You can publish your own book for not more than Rs 50,000. But then even your friends won�t buy it from you.

People visiting your blog & leaving interesting comments doesn�t mean that they cannot survive without reading your work. There are enough takers for shit if it is disbursed for free. If you really want to know where you stand - just introduce a payment gateway on your blog site and start charging Re 1 per blog. If you get 1 customer, then your probably you will win the next Booker�s prize!

End of the conversation I came to know from the author, who published his books that he had to pay the publisher from his pocket to get his work done!

So anyone here who wants to buy my e-book titled �How to enhance your sexual life after 5 years of marriage�, can mail me your request to kennedig@yahoo.com. I am pricing it at Rs 200 per copy. Any takers?

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May 12, 2005

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December 14, 2004

Crack the GMI syndrome!

I hate my irregularity in updating my blogs, and am sure my readers? hate the same too :P. Not that I am busy nowadays, it is just that I am shuffling between two careers. One as a professional astrologer & second as a consultant to my sister?s Data Conversion Unit. And for the first time in life I feel 24 hours are indeed less in a day?there is so much to do and there is so little time. I have been blogging about ?How to save your marriage, and this particular blog is the 3rd in the series? The inputs are out of my own experiences out of my marriage, which will surely help the ones who are already married & warn who haven?t taken the suicidal plunge as yet!

Osho in one of his discourses spoke about how dogs are the best in dealing with situations diplomatically. When a stranger comes to your house, the dog will bark as well as wag its tail. It barks to show the owner that it is carrying out its duty properly & wags his tail to show sign of acceptance ?IF? the stranger happens to its owner?s friend. Both ways dog benefits from the situation & succeeds in being a good pet. I am not saying that married men are dogs. But men of course have to learn this trick of diplomacy from dogs.

Women are not that bad as most men perceive them. There are exceptions too. And if you are able to crack the GMI syndrome of any woman ? YOU surely CAN WIN.

Now what?s this GMI syndrome? It is ?Give Me Importance.? Unlike men, the confidence level of women to a very large extent depends upon lots of external factors - how others see them, how others perceive them, and how much importance people give them for their existence & their decisions. Hence a girl at her prime (17 ? 25) has more confidence than a woman who is at her 40 or 45. Men remain the same through out their lives ? they keep poking their nose, scratching their scrotum, and farting all around without giving a damn to the people who notice them.

You need to practice Zen philosophy of detachment in dealing with your wives. To practice this you need to do a lot of self talking & game planning. For instance you need to send some money for your mother on Diwali, and you don?t know how your wife will react.

There are many ways you can do this.

1) You send the money and hide it completely from your wife, but then be ready to face the music if you mom calls you on your land line acknowledging the receipt of the money.
2) You tell your wife that you are going to send the money no matter what may come. In this case you need not buy crackers for Diwali at all. There will be enough bursting in the house itself.
3) The third one is by winning over GMI syndrome. Tell your wife that you are not going to send anything to your mom this diwali. She will surely ask you why. Tell her that you don?t have enough money & you don?t feel the necessity. Your wife will surely come to you with some money, move her hand on your hair, give a pat on your back & ask you send some money to your mom.

And you have already won the game! Use the same funda if you want to call up your ex-girl friend, or want to have a beer with your old friend or want to watch a movie alone. Give her some importance, and let her decide what you want her to decide. It works perfectly!

Posted by Kenni at 07:47 AM | Comments (0)

December 11, 2004

How to save your marriage � 1st problem

Any marital relationship is like a blissful fable in the first 3 months of marriage. Once the honeymooning is over and once individuals have explored their bodies & mind enough - it is time to face the reality. Looks doesn�t attract anymore, neither the personality. You start hating few things you had initially loved in that person.

For instance, if a girl had told her hubby that she admires the way he cares for his mom, the same might create problems in the near future, as the wife would start thinking that he cares about her mom more than her! This is the foremost problem most couples face.

There is an intense competition, on the subconscious mind, between your mom & your wife about who has stronger hold on you! Mom would say that you have become henpecked after marriage & wife would ask, �why can�t you use your own sense to decipher life�s meanings? Why do you want to discuss everything with your mom?� This is the first problem men face in their initial part of married life. He is literally tossed between 2 women, and in this situation he is completely confused about which side to take. And if the man has few sisters too, then I am sure men are tossed even more.

The best decision you could take at this juncture is to set your priority list of people. Is it in this order - mother, father, wife & children or is it wife, mother, father & children so on so forth. But once you have listed it down, stick to it and make it clear to everyone. You will fail miserably if you thought you would stick to justice, because the problems would have risen from a TV mega serial, where in you cannot have enough evidence to base your judgment. Also never try to make everyone happy.

Stop talking & become a good listener. Listen to the allegations made by your wife about your mom, and also listen to what your mom has to complain about your wife � not in the same room of course. Listen carefully as if it is changing your perception about them, then dress up and go for a stroll. Both of them would feel light as you have taken enough garbage out of them, and the stroll you took would have unburdened yourself. It is similar to the process of throwing garbage in the street dustbin. Keeping it at home will only make the place stink.

Few things you should avoid is � don�t give your personal opinions to any of them on any issues they fought about, don�t call them for a debate so that you can be a judge, don�t yell at anyone in front of each other.

Ideally become a rock & behave like a God. May be that is the reason, why Gods in the world are mostly made of rocks, where in they just listen to your woes & never reply.

Posted by Kenni at 06:24 AM | Comments (0)

December 09, 2004

How to save your marriage – Part 1

There are few misconceptions regarding marriage in many minds. Few think that marriage is a bed of roses, and expect that events that would take place after marriage are going to be as pleasant as a fairy tale. Most movies end with a happy note where the Hero meets the Heroine, they hug, and the screen says They Lived Happily Forever! May be they don’t want to let us know how film stars’ marriages stink off screen.

There is a western concept called the concept of soul mates. Where in they believe that marriage is meeting of 2 equal halves coming together to become one perfect circle – wish life was so easy. I am not sure about soul mates, but am sure hole mates surely exist.

Marriages are destined, and you cannot do a thing to change it. You are born with the prescribed fate about whom you are going to get married, when you will be getting married, and whether it is going to be a love marriage or an arranged one. Personal preference doesn’t have any hold on it.

Marriage is not just tying of knots or sleeping together for a period of time. It is about deciding to live together in good & bad times, and also to learn our soul lessons through each other. Hence marriages are considered divine, and in most cases it is carried out in divine places like churches & temples.

Opposite poles attract & similar poles repel. Men & women are two different poles of energy, and through marriage they come together. I don’t agree in equality of gender. They cannot be equal as their purposes are different & also their priorities are different.

Expecting eternal love & harmony when 2 opposite poles come together is mere nonsense. Misunderstandings, conflicts of interest, and ego issues are bound to be there in any marital relationship. Now the level of happiness depends on the intensity of differences. Marriages go for a toss if there is unequal ratio of happiness & grief.

In my knowledge, there is not a single couple who had not talked about permanent separation in their lives at least 100 times. Still they continue to live together as it is sometimes refreshing after you had a good fight with your partner. None other in the world can tolerate so much of shit from you except your partner. They become psychological pillow for each other.

Articles to follow

Areas/topic on which most couples fight
How to solve marital problems & start living

Posted by Kenni at 05:24 AM | Comments (0)

December 07, 2004

Can astrology be sold like hot pizzas?!

Astrology portals are on a new frenzy - giving out special discounts on customized predictions. Yearly prediction costs Rs 1200 & if buy now it is just Rs 900! So hurry! Limited stocks! It is like a heart specialist putting up a board outside his dispensary ? if you get yourself checked & operated before December 2004 it is Rs 500 or else I will charge you Rs 2000! Of course these kinds of management rules works perfectly with FMCG products like soaps, face creams, & powders. But astrology isn?t a product like fair & lovely, it is a divine service & selling them like hot pizzas accounts to mere confusion.

B V Raman, the father of Indian astrology, had written beautifully that a millionaire won?t mind spending lakhs in putting a ?shamiana? for his daughter?s wedding, but would surely refrain from paying 100 rupees extra to the astrologer who did the final marriage match making. That has always been the plight of astrologers, at least in India. The guidance, the help & the prediction given by an astrologer cannot be compensated by money alone.

Also in any society, there are bound to be equal number of believers, skeptics, believers who have become skeptics and skeptics who will become believers. Astrology isn?t for non-believers, and the best is to keep them away from it. Astrology works perfect with people who believe in divinity. It is a two-way process. Giving special discounts will only attract skeptics who want to give it a shot for the first time. For these kinds of people astrologers won?t be able to predict perfectly, hence they will never come back. And for believers these kinds of special discounts only irritate them. End of the day no purpose is solved.

If the astrologer is good & his predictions are 90 per cent accurate people will even travel miles together to consult him. And if he is not good, he won?t be consulted even he stays in your neighborhood.

Of course the prices of astrological services are quite high on the internet. Not that the whole money goes to the astrologer. In fact majority of the amount is put in maintaining the sites, servers & paying up the people who run the websites.

Astrologers are simple human beings and they do get greedy for money at times. Customized readings need a lot of manual interpretations and for this an astrologer would need a lot of psychic energy. Ideally an astrologer can do only 10 horoscopes per day, and anything beyond that is out of question. And also this is one profession where you cannot have assistance or MBA graduates working under you. You run the show yourself.

Try not to go for astrological products based on the price factor but go by the astrologer?s caliber. And if you trust 100 per cent in God even a fake astrologer would predict perfectly for you.

Posted by Kenni at 06:30 AM | Comments (0)

December 03, 2004

Do your homework before you attend an interview!

It is an old story but it is based on a real life incident ? the main cast being none other than ME! The period was 1999, and there was a boom in the Dot Com industry. I was getting bored doing the same mundane job at expressindia.com, and was searching for a new job desperately. The erstwhile Chip Magazine was getting into their web edition and they were seeking a content manager who could manage their portal.

I had applied for the job by mail, and I got a reply. Their channel head, I forgot his name but never could forget his form, asked me to meet him the next day. I was never a good job hopper, since I always hated to attend interviews. What I hate the most is to reply to questions like ?

Tell us something about yourself ? I am not sure what would they reply if someone said they get attracted to same sex people!

Why do you want to change your job? - Because I have a wonderful relationship with my boss, I am getting more than expected pay hikes and dumb people are never made managers. But still I want to change because I am like that only.

I reached the Chip office on time, and met the person who wanted to meet me. He was 6 feet, huge, similar to the one who steals Dinosaurs DNA in Jurassic Park 1 ? but he was his darker version. He took me into a cabin - from what I saw was, they were busy setting up their new office.

He offered me a chair, he sat opposite to me ? and in a very low voice started talking about their plans, their ideas, and what their company is up to. I hardly could hear him. I was just assuming most of the things he was saying ?anyways these introductions were not going to help me much. I was waiting for him to come to the point or rather allow me to talk. After nearly 10 minutes he stopped and suddenly he asked me on top of his voice, ?now Kennedi tell me. Why Jasubhai??
I was taken by surprise and I immediately asked him, ?who is Jasubhai??

There was pin drop silence for a moment. He wasn?t sure what to do, neither I was. I didn?t know what went wrong I was still thinking why was he asking me about some Jasubhai? I was started to doubt myself now - did he talk about that person when I could not hear him? Then after a couple of minutes he said ? Jasubhai is the name of our publication and Chip magazine is one of its publications! I said fine. The interview was over, and thankfully as expected I never got a job there.

Posted by Kenni at 12:15 PM | Comments (0)

November 27, 2004

When I was about to kill a child!

The year was 1998, and I got a call from my wife. She said she is pregnant, and I thought it is high time I got married to her. I was just 22, and my take home salary was 6,600. Most of my friends advised me not to get married so early in life, and that too when I didn?t have a permanent job. In Indian Express, Mumbai even the CEO was on contract.

We got married and we moved to Mumbai. We didn?t had any rent to pay as it was my parents? house, still I thought my salary wasn?t enough for 2 people in Mumbai ? a city which is considered to be one of the costly places to live in India. And now I had a 3rd person to take care ? the one in the womb. From childhood I never wanted my probable wife to work. I always am against woman working. Like I always say a bull and a cow have different purposes in life. Bull is to plough the field, and the cow is to milk. Any change can only change the balance of life.

For woman I always felt being a good wife is more difficult than passing out MBA from IIM, becoming a mother is more difficult than working for the biggest company, and maintaining children, family and home is more difficult than running a corporate. I am totally against children being ignored for some extra money, or lifestyle for that matter.

We thought, and we decided that we would abort the kid and think about having children later in our lives. We met a gynecologist, and here is the conversation?

Me ? Somehow, we aren?t interested in this baby. We want to abort it.
Gynec - why?
Me ? ?cause I think I cannot afford a kid at this juncture
Gynec ? what?s your salary?
Me ? 6,600
Gynec ? and I have clients whose monthly salary is 1000 to 2000, having 2 kids and who manage to send their children to English medium schools.
Me - ?
Gynec ? it is all in the mind. Money will never be sufficient. Even crorepathis go only for 2 children hence it has nothing to do with your economic conditions. And also by the time you need to send your children to a school i.e., after 3 years, you never know how much you will be earning.
Me ? (I was listening carefully)
Gynec ? Never ever abort children. They are God?s gifts, and I know couples who come to me crying just because they aren?t able to conceive. That way you are blessed couples. I will check her (my wife) up first, take 5 minutes to think, and we can do what exactly what you want.

She also added that it is never advisable to abort the first kid, as the body starts repelling future fertilization.

I came out, and was staring at the sky. I didn?t know what to do. There was no one to guide us. The only thing I could do is to take out a Re 1 coin, pray to lord and toss it. If it is tail, I go for it and if it is head I don?t. In life I always found that ?tail? was lucky for me. May be in the subconscious mind I had already decided. I tossed and it was tail! My wife came out and before I told her my decision, she came with water in her eyes saying, ?we will go for it. The doc said that the kid is growing well.?

We named the kid Tilotama, but then for some unknown reasons my wife had a miscarriage. And it was all over. May be God wanted it that way.
Looking back I thank the almighty and the Re 1 coin, that I wasn?t responsible for a fetus?s death.

I read somewhere that in 3 months a baby is well developed and it tries the best to survive the killing (abortion).

I agree with what Mother Teresa has to say about abortion, ?you don?t have rights to kill a child, when you cannot create one.?

Khalil Gibran says, ?your children are not your children. They are just born through you. And they belong to the future.?

Deciding not to go for children is completely different than aborting it after it is formed - there are enough contraceptives available in the market, which can help you to delay pregnancy.

Taking on a newly formed fetus for your irresponsible sexual episode is highly condemnable!

Posted by Kenni at 05:36 AM | Comments (0)

November 09, 2004

Even �nonsense� has a divine reason!

After 7 months of blogging, 156 articles, 9000 page views, 30 clients and close to 75 comments - I feel like Mullah Nasruddin! I am reminded of the story where Mullah Nasruddin and his son were going to the market to sell their ass � I mean donkey.

All the three were walking, while someone commented that how foolish these guys are, they can very well sit on the donkey and go. Mullah sat on the donkey as he was a bit old, and they started walking. Someone else commented, what kind of father he is. He makes his young son walk, and he himself is having a ball of a time. Mullah got down, and made his son sit on the donkey. Midway someone commented again, look at these fools one is walking while there is enough place for two on the donkey. Mullah, climbed over the donkey too, just to see someone commenting, these buggers are heartless. How can they be so mean and make the torture the donkey? Both of them got down now, and started carrying the donkey � and the whole market laughed at them. This is exactly what happens to individuals, if they live their lives according to others� whims and fancies.

I was advised by one of my well-wishers that too much of sexual content on your blog will look unprofessional on your part as you are a professional astrologer now. Point taken. But then I really wonder, what�s wrong if astrologers think, write or indulge in sexual intimacies? Astrologers aren�t godmen. They are as human as other mortals are, just that they pray a lot to perfect their predictive skills. And interesting I came across a book written on Nakshtra (birthstar) Matching and Sexual Life. If ever I were asked to write a book on astrology, my first book would be on �Moon Sign and Your Sexual Preferences.�

Not all my blogs are good, and not all my blogs make sense. Sometimes I love to write nonsense and sometimes it happens to be nonsense without my conscious effort. As Swami Vivakananda says, education is the manifestation of perfection already present in a man, same way junks are needed for the good to surface.

Most people fail in the process of perfecting art, and no art can be perfected - that remains the truth. Sachin looks damn neat when he hits a six but the same shot looks ugly if the ball is caught at the long on. Moviemakers always face this situation, where in their movies flop even when they know that it had all the masala which people expect. Problems are bound to happen if you TRY to match others expectations, also when you try to make others happy. There is no need to make others happy, that also doesn�t mean you start living in solitude.

Trust in God, believe in yourself, follow your inner voice, and trust your conscience. Neither take appreciation seriously nor criticism - both are one and the same. They both are bound to affect your inner happiness.

Always remember - 'Wise men are those who cared a hair about what others thought about their presence, their attire and their attitude!'

Posted by Kenni at 10:19 AM | Comments (0)

November 04, 2004

The ?no-nonsense? way to lose weight!

Statistics say 70 per cent of the Americans suffer from obesity and 70 per cent of the people in Somalia die of starvation. That is how WE the people have disbursed the natural resource. We bother more about our country borders than human lives. Now that is not what I wanted to blog about today. It is about how programs of ?losing weight? are catching with the younger CORPORATE generation, and how they successfully fail in losing that extra pound.

Paunch was considered to be a sign of prosperity a couple of decades back. Even today among politicians, police officers, and government officials ? huge paunches are signs of the amount of money they make?I mean the extra money they make through people. Unlike them, the people who work for IT industries and BPOs are constantly worried about the extra flesh they carry, for they know they are MORE susceptible for paunches.

Both men and women rush to lose their weights just before getting married so that probably they don?t have major problems in experimenting with various positions. Or probably they think being skinny is always beautiful ? not to forget that most men like HEALTHY women.

Here are few common ways people try to lose their weight

Dieting

There is a common misconception that skipping meals will slim you down. It can only make you weaker ? both physically and emotionally. I knew of a person who came to me to ask about tips to lose weight. And he proudly said, he skips break fast everyday, and still he is unsuccessful. People, who skip meals, hog like pigs in their next course ? and the end result remains the same.
NEVER EVER SKIP MEALS.

Exercising

If someone comments at your belly, the first thing you decide is to get up early the next morning. You dig in your old pair of shoes, and run for some 4-5 kms. Your food intake become more to compensate for the exercise you do, you jog for 5 days, and stick to the new intake habit. End of the day you have only succeeded in increasing your appetite.

Medical Treatment

This is a new system used by the otherwise unsuccessful medical practitioner. How long will they keep meeting sick people for a meager amount of Rs 30 per consultation? They embarked on an innovative idea of sucking people?.I mean sucking their extra fat using liposuction. And they graciously charge Rs 15 k per sitting. End result ? you will shot for a photo session for a ?before after? picture in newspapers. I honestly doubt about the credibility of the pic. Which is before and which is after!

We also tend to accept that what is built in few years, should not be lost in a month - only demolition of buildings happen that way. Reconstruction always need time, and extra care.

Here are few tips formulated by experienced people to help you lose weight with a smile on your face.

Break your meal to 6 times a day

Scientifically, the capacity of human stomach is just 50 ml. Rest is just expansion. You can very well know this by noticing those sexy waists of FTV models. Hence, break your food intake. Eat 6 times a day, and not a single time fill your stomach. Keep in mind the EXACT capacity of your stomach ? it is only 50 ml!

The timing could be - 8 am, 11 am, 2 pm, 5 pm, 7 pm and 10 pm.

Eat before you get hungry

Usually people tend to eat more when they are hungry. Though ayurveda say you should eat only after getting hungry, it is for those yogis who have only ONE meal a day. Watch for a day to know at time you get hungry. If it is 10 am, 1 pm, 5 pm and 9 pm, have your meal at 9 am, 12 noon, 4 pm, and 8 pm.

This way you surely will eat less, also you won?t become weak as you keep eating the whole day.

Never allow your stomach to be full

Don?t eat so much that you keep belching the whole day. Eat ? of stomach, and the rest ? can be filled with plain water.

Postpone eating food you love

Everyone has few special dishes that they love to eat like mad. It could be those spicy samosas or hot pizzas or it could be a bowl filled with ice creams. There is NO harm in eating what you love, but then just postpone the decision, and you will tend to eat the same food ? with more joy, and also you will not crave for it.

Also when the food is on your table, look at the food for a while, and imagine how probably it would taste. Allow yourself to drool for a moment, and then start eating. This was one reason why people were asked to PRAY before they eat, so that they feed their stomach and not their minds.

Eat whatever you want, but in limit

Whenever you visit a hotel or a restaurant, order for food what you love, but share with your friend than hogging it alone. If you feel it is enough, pack it home and you can have the same after 3-4 hours. Don?t avoid anything you love to eat ? it can only create a craving, and you will never lose that extra tire you have around your belly!

Lose only 2 kgs a month

Your waist cannot be like that of Aishwarya Rai?s overnight. You have taken a couple of months or should I say years to put on weight, so don?t expect miracles to happen. Set your target for losing 2 kgs in a month, and that is ideal and also healthy. In 6 months you can lose 12 kgs, and then sustain, and this is without fasting, dieting, exercising, or spending a fortune on slimming centers.

If you need a customized advise on How to lose weight with a smile, buzz me on kennedig@yahoo.com - I charge Rs 1000, and this is refundable if you lose 4 kgs in 2 months. For I am here to help you lose weight!

Posted by Kenni at 06:04 AM | Comments (0)

October 24, 2004

Things I hate the most in life!

If only external factors didn�t affect our internal harmony am sure most Buddhist Monks and Indian Saints would have been seen in the crowded trains of Mumbai or in the fully packed Chennai buses. Though most people are in constant search of peace inside themselves, there is no doubt that the mental peace to a very large extent depends on what is happening outside us. No wonder the real seeker is seen meditating in the silent valleys of Himalayas and not in any of the metropolitan cities.
I am generally happy, content and have no complaints in life. But there surely are few things that trigger the animal in me, and here is the list of the things I hate the most in life.

Irritating Horns and High Speed vehicles in City Limits

I was told that in Holland, if someone horns � he is considered to be an illiterate. I am not sure how true that info is, but if the same principle is applied in India � 90 per cent of the people who drive behave like illiterates. There are enough number of people who shut themselves in the ac car, and horn their way to glory when they surely know that they are stuck in a heavy traffic. It is not that the driver in the front has some vengeance against you, or loves to irritate you. He is not moving because he cannot. And your horn won�t help much to clear the traffic.

None cares about you. You can drive at 100 kms/hr, ram the electric poll and die. But see to it nobody else dies in the process. Most of the time it has happened that the driver has escaped unhurt killing innocent pedestrians. Salman Khan should know this better.

Remedy

Whoever is seen horning mercilessly can be taken to the remotest part of the city.
Tie their head to the horn speakers, and keep it ON for the whole day. Gandhian way of ahimsa will not help much curing this menace.

Mobile phones in movie halls

Thanks to Reliance to have made mobile phones a necessity than a luxury. But there is no decrease in the number of people who still love to show off their mobile phones.

The movie is The 6th Sense, the climax is on, Bruce Willis comes to meet his wife and there comes a call to a person who sits adjacent to me. The phone glows, and the bugger yells 4 times on the phone that he will call the caller later, and he thinks he is smart enough to have cut the call. The movie is over, and I curse him for rest of my life.

Remedy

Jam all public places, where mobile phones can prove irritating.
People can be asked to surrender their mobile phone at the theater counter, for none is going to miss a million dollar deal by not having a phone for 3 hours.

Chennai Auto Drivers

My father always cracked a joke that most auto drivers have the meters in their mouth, and it holds true when it comes to Chennai Auto Drivers. They are born to irritate the Chennaites, and are one of the most cursed people I am sure.

They don�t show any mercy in charging the probable customer thrice or 4 times the right charge. They make sure that in all the possible deals they remain the final winners�

*If you ask them to put the meter ON, they surely will abide, as it is already rigged to move faster than the auto itself
*If you refuse to take the rick, they will arrogantly ask you to catch a bus instead
*If you agree in giving him what he asks, he will take the shortest route possible
*If you succeed in bargaining, he will keep abusing you till you reach your destiny

They indeed rule Chennai�s road, and it is 4 years I am in Chennai now, and I am yet to see an honest auto rickshaw guy.

Remedy

Have an investigative team, which will cancel auto licenses immediately if they are seen fooling people
5 years Rigorous Imprisonment for the drivers
Learn to ride an auto rickshaw

Girls who flirt

I don�t mind holding your hand, I don�t mind hugging you and I don�t mind kissing you too � all because you are my best friend and will remain ONE forever! There are enough number of girls with that attitude, who have a ball of a time with guys of their choice. But when it comes to marriage � they have their own reservations. They experiment with their freedom only till they are successful in getting all they wanted - �without any commitment�. Their parents take rest of the decisions �cause they have better access to US grooms!

Remedy

Let them go, and don�t forget to see them off at the airport. What else can you do?

Posted by Kenni at 06:04 AM | Comments (0)

October 21, 2004

Help others when they need, not when they don�t need!

I had already started to hate the world and the people around me during my last few days at my previous office. I disliked the way people turned thankless with time, and how they started back biting without remembering the past. Anybody�s life is all about events unfolding in a cycle - what comes down goes up and what goes up surely comes down someday � it is just a matter of time. Don�t ever think that people can always remain on the top � it has NEVER EVER happened in the history of mankind. Hitler, Alexander, Nepolean � and all those who thought were invincible had to eat dirt with time, and this holds good to every individual.

It doesn�t hurt you much, when people point their finger when you had planned their downfall, but it honestly feels disappointing when others turn their back even when you tried to help them. There is one argument, which makes sense at this point� why bother about what others think about you. Stick to what you think is right and leave rest to God �a thought frame easy to be told but difficult to implement.

I had a childhood friend, who was very close to me and also damn good at studies. His father was a drunkard who never bothered about the family and unfortunately his mom died in a fire accident. He was left alone, and he didn�t know what to do with his life. We moved to our native, and I came back after few years just to know that he was a gangster now. He had joined Mumbai�s then famous gang-war group called Manchekar�s group. My neighbour advised me that I should not meet him and talk to him. I cared a hair for his advice. I met my friend, and asked him why did he do that? He said a man could be alive for just 15 days without food, and you never know what you will do when you are hungry. I am being thankful to the person who fed me for months together without asking me a single question. He made immense sense to me.

Karna from Mahabharata is an amazing example to explain to what extent a person can remain thankful to the person who helped him in his bad times. Karna was insulted in a fully packed auditorium for not having his roots from renowned ancestors. Duryodhan, was the only person to help him out by calling him from his team and giving him an equal status. Karna stood on Duryodhan�s side, even when he knew that he was fighting against his own brothers. He made sure that Duryodhan never came to know about this fact, and he remained loyal till he died.

Giving someone a gift when he himself can afford one isn�t a good karma we are doing. Help someone who really is in need, and the gifting exercise will altogether have a different meaning.
Buy street children some Cadbury chocolate, donate Rs 10 to a temple pujari, and help some elderly people in crossing the roads or climbing the lift � they will remain thankful to you forever!

Posted by Kenni at 06:03 AM | Comments (0)

September 26, 2004

Why commit suicide, when you have so many options left?

I was sure it was all over. The mind knew what was coming but the heart refused to accept. I was giving my last best shot and forcing things to happen. Logical conditioning is very hard to be broken as we are trained to try and try until we succeed - which is absolute nonsense. Any man gets the first glimpse of how destiny works when his first girl ditches him. You can�t change a thing in this world. Those last 2 months were the time when I was moving around with a strip of sleeping pills, and was sure that there could not be any life without her!

7 years later - I am married to a nice woman, and also have been blessed with 2 wonderful daughters. Life looks so good today, the future seems damn bright, and I understand how we live for others and not for ourselves. Looking back I feel how dumb I was to have thought about ending my life, only because ONE person in the world didn�t wanted to spend her life with me � a person who probably didn�t deserved my presence.

Once I happened to my wife to name the person who has loved her the most in her school days. She said, � Saravanan.� I asked what is he doing now, and she said he committed suicide when they were studying in the 9th standard. He committed suicide because he had many personal problems, and also because I had rejected his proposal, she said coolly. I was a bit shocked, and I asked her, don�t you feel guilty about the same, she said why should I feel guilty? I was too young to decide, and also it would be my last option to marry a person like him who is so weak in his character! It was an enlightening experience for me to know that girls care a hair about guys who beg, plead or cry for love. They need a stronger shoulder to take care for them.

People commit suicide for 2 major reasons � 1) debt and 2) failure in relationships. Every individual has to face these 2 situations at least once in their lifetime, and if everyone thought that killing thyself could solve the problem � world�s population would drop by �. Here are few things you can imbibe before you take THE drastic decision�

When in debt

Mani Ratnam�s brother and movie producer GV is a classic example of people who die due to the fear of humility. He committed suicide a year back just because he didn�t have enough money to pay back the moneylenders, and he left behind the family to suffer. Very few people know that none could anything to you if you honestly don�t have the money to repay. The maximum that can happen is you will get arrested.

Think that you are freedom fighter for a while, surrender yourself to the police and get arrested. You can stay in the jail for about 10 days come out in bail. And once you are out you are ZERO DEBT! What would the society think about you if you go to the jail? Show them the middle finger!

Failure in relationships

Now that you have decided to end your life don�t stop yourself if you seriously feel that an assortment of protruding flesh is more important than your parents, siblings and friends who need your presence.

Carve this deep into you mind that your death WILL not bring the minutest change in the person who has decided to dump you. She will get married, have babies and will live a long and fruitful life like �Rose� of Titanic, who happily saved her life by hanging onto the wooden plank.

Time is a best healer or I should say time reshuffles your memories perfectly. The next time you think about committing suicide postpone the decision or buzz me at kennedig@yahoo.com

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September 17, 2004

Sony Walkman � Rs 200 only!

Our 1-month training at �The Statesman�, New Delhi was getting over, and we had to book out tickets back to Coimbatore. We, Chandru and me, were the last people to complete our summer training, while rest of the people had already joined the curriculum. Chandru was a philosopher whose only aim was to start a religion of his own, while I was a gadget freak.

As we were moving towards Nizamuddin to book our tickets, a local guy wearing blue jacket approached us. He removed a polythene bag from his jacket, unwrapped the paper cover, and showed us a sexy Sony Walkman. We weren�t interested, we told him �boss nahi chahiye�, and he interesting recorded our voice and played it for us. It was good to hear our own voice, and I was now interested to buy it.

I asked for the price and he said, you decide. We knew it was a second hand piece, or could be a stolen one too. I said Rs 200? And he insisted on Rs 400. 2 mns of conversation, and we decided we will buy only if he gives it to us for Rs 200. We started moving, and he packed the walkman in that paper packet, put it in the polythene bag, and kept it in his jacket.

We were sure that we wouldn�t take it till he gives it for the price we asked for. I was watching him without his knowledge, and he was following us. He came near us, and agreed for Rs 200 and asked us keep it immediately in our bag, as it is a stolen product. He removed the polythene bag packet from the jacket, and helped us keep in Chandru�s bag. I took out the money, and handed it over to him and suddenly he said � �are aapne to 400 bola tha, phir 200 kaise de rahe ho?� (you said Rs 400 and why are giving only 200?). I was taken aback Chandru immediately wanted to take the walkman out of this bag, and this guy yelled some 4-5 names � hey changu, mangu, dhilip, suresh�and we were surrounded by these local thugs in fraction of second. Honestly, I was scared but Chandru kept his cool even when he wasn�t that comfortable with Hindi. He said, that we are from the press and let us go to the police � thankfully we had the visiting cards of our Chief Reported of Statesman.

The guys got a bit scared, and the guy who sold the walkman said it is ok, no issues - go ahead. He asked us to use another road, so that we don�t get caught by the police anywhere. We took the longer route � in fact had to walk some 5 kms before we could get a bus to Munirka, the place where we resided.

The incident left a bitter experience in our minds, and I kept appreciating Chandru for his bold action at the right time. We were scared so much so that we didn�t even bother to take the walkman out of our bag. We boarded the bus, and we kept mum. The whole incident disturbed us so much so that we dunno what to talk.

Munirka was just 1 minute away, and something struck me hard. I looked at Chandru, and the same thing struck Chandru too. We immediately got down from the bus, and opened the bag. We took out the polythene bag, unwrapped the paper cover, and to our shock what we got was a wooden block! We had paid Rs 200 for a wooden piece!! Chandru dropped the stuff down, and we continued moving towards our room in utter silence!

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September 08, 2004

How to meditate? � part 1

One of my skeptic friends called me at 10 pm from Bangalore and asked me to give him some quick tips on how to meditate. I thought instead of explaining him the whole procedure over the phone or typing them in my messenger window, I would rather blog on the topic so that it will be useful for all those who read my blog regularly.

Please note � Most of the things I know about meditation has come out of my personal experiences under the guidance of my spiritual teacher, and few of them are out of the knowledge I had gained reading books.

1) Personality Check - Who am I? Or who you are?

All techniques don�t suit all the people. If Ramana Maharishi, could get enlightened just by asking himself �who am I�, don�t think even you will get enlightened asking the same question repeatedly. It won�t help you much.

The first and the foremost check you need to do is � to find our your own energy pattern. There are only 3 prescribed levels and you surely will fall under one �

1) Rajasik
2) Tamasik
3) Satwik

Rajasik � people who are bold, action oriented and violent to a very large extent.

Tamasik � people who are optimistic, hard working, and who possess less energy than the Rajasik people

Satwik � people who are very slow, a bit pessimistic, and strong believers

The right Guru can identify your energy pattern at once, and could prescribe you the best possible meditation technique.

2) Reason - Why do you want to meditate?

There are many reasons a person wants to meditate. Some want to get liberated from their birth-death cycle, some want to use it as an escape route from the nagging wife, some do it for relaxation, some want to rise their kundalini, and some want to just show off that they meditate too.

Will be continued in part 2�Meanwhile try to find out in which energy pattern you fall in � Rajasik, Tamasik or Satwik.

Headings to follow�

*The best meditation techniques for Rajasik, Tamasik and Satwik people
*Mental preparation before you start meditation
*Steps for meditation
*How often you need to meditate
*What can you achieve through meditation
*The best meditation techniques for the modern man
*The difference between yoga and meditation
*Why bhakti is better than meditation in 21st Century

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September 07, 2004

Friend in need, need not be a friend at all!

We were 11 girls and 5 boys, and our seniors called us �SWEET 16�. No, we weren�t performing one of Osho�s forbidden therapies, but were doing our Masters in Mass Communication and journalism from PSG college of Arts and Science, Coimbatore. Who said politics happen only in corporate office? It happens wherever people want to prove their power - it could be to prove their power of designation or it could be to prove their power of gender.

We had a funny reason for the girls to play politics in our class. The reason was quite childish�they just wanted to prove how many GUYS they can get on their team. And mind you we were only 5 guys � and we had a rocking time, I should say! Our prof wasn�t happy about what was happening, and unlike everyday, this time he came out with a sensible statement. He said � College is the last place you will find FRIENDS, so don�t waste your time on petty things! I ignored what he said, until I realized it myself very recently.

Once you enter the arena of work culture, the people you meet are � your colleagues, your peers, your superiors and your bosses, and rarely would you find a real friend. They will wish you a good morning, they will have lunch with you, they will greet you on your birthday, they will enquire about your family, and finally will bitch about you to your boss behind your back � that will screw your happiness for rest of your life.

I had a friend who used to pray to god that�save me from my friends, for I know what my enemies are up to.

There are few important things you need to know to avoid becoming a fool in the corporate world�

*Never trust anyone completely
*Avoid talking to people who don�t look into your eyes
*Don�t waste time with people from whom you cannot expect any thing
*Don�t indulge in office gossip
*Don�t trust SOMEONE who seems to be good to everyone

Remember you are here for a business relationship and your only aim is to make money and build rapport. Of course you can talk with everyone, spread positive energy, and have a gala time - but think twice before going for a friendship deal�who knows he/she might become your boss some day!

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August 30, 2004

Why August 30, 2004 is very special for me!

Today my wife and I complete our 6th year of married life. And this year stays particularly special, as she has honoured me with the best gift possible ? a daughter! Yeah, I am a father of 2 girl children today, and I feel a lot proud about the same. The first angel is called Tejeswini and we are planning to name the second one as Priyadarshini.

The presence of God becomes more obvious when a fetus is formed in the womb of a woman. The process of pregnancy and childbirth, in my opinion, could not go as smooth as it goes without the intervention of the almighty, even when people argue that it is just a natural process.

We always go to a church-run small hospital near my place that is known for their record in normal deliveries. So much so that they don?t even have equipment for a caesarian. The hospital is run by a few simple Christian Nuns, who believe in God and prayers more than in science and modern tools.

They don?t advertise, they don?t have a/c wards, and they don?t have computer billing-system. All they have is experience and the grace of God. I am not a Christian freak, but I have admired the way these missionaries have served humanity for ages. Yeah there are controversies about religious conversion, but still the service they render is beyond par and always admirable.

There is another trend where the doctors deliberately go for Caesarians just to meet their hospital expenses. A Caesarian would cost 3-4 times more than a normal delivery, but who cares when there is enough money in patient?s pockets. And also there are woman who hate to go through the pain of normal delivery nowadays. They forget one truth that, this 2 hours of labour pain is always less than the life-long pain she will be undergoing just because of the surgery.

I incidentally learnt from one of my NRI friends that, in the US none prefers to go for a Caesarian, and all prefer a normally delivery. Mind it ? a normal kid weighs at least 4.5 to 5 kgs. Also most Americans don?t go for any birth-control operations. Presently each American family goes for 3-4 children and we have stopped it at 1 just because our government promised us a better life. People have started investing in land, fixed deposits, and insurances rather than in children, and the government has succeeded in taking your money with the hope that you will die a millionaire some day.

Here is the address of the hospital in case you want to consult them?

St Pius Hospital
Perungudi
Chennai ? 96
Ph ? 24964614

Meanwhile let me get ready for my 3rd kid!

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August 21, 2004

Nag Panchami - and a snake visits my house!

I was busy with some important work at office, and I got a call from my wife. She said a snake has come into the house, and she is scared ? obviously. She lives alone at home with my daughter Tejeswini and dog Venus. My house is some 5 kms from my office, and I could not reach my house in less than 20 mns. Intelligently, at least I thought I was, I asked what is the colour of the snake and she said ? full green. I immediately knew it wasn?t poisonous, and asked her not to kill the snake!

I got a call in another 15 mns, my daughter who has just started talking said ? the snake is dead! My wife had already killed the snake by hitting it with a stick. I asked her to keep the dead snake safe till I reach home.

We had a BIG argument at home about why she killed the snake when I said it was non-poisonous snake, and she kept arguing that it was poisonous according to what she had known.

Snakes are basically very shy animals and they avoid people as far as possible. They can sense the noise of human steps using its tongue and mostly slide away. It attacks only under dire situations when it feels its life is under danger.

Today snakes have become endangered species just because most snakes are killed under the impression that they are poisonous. The pathetic part is we aren?t educated enough to identify them or to catch them alive, which I feel is a must for every individual if we need to preserve them.

In India most of the things around us has been given a divine significance and snakes are one among them. Lord Shiva has a snake whirled around his neck, looks quite impressive in photo or sculpture. I am not sure how many people would enter a temple if Shiva idol had a real snake around its neck?

Pouring milk or providing eggs once a year to snakes, and killing them for the rest of 364 days is mere nonsense. The best way we can impress the God is to keep them alive, and learn how to deal with them.

Man has been proven to be the most selfish and the dangerous species on the planet. He has killed most of the animals around him, and also killed enough of his own breed. No other animal in the world kills its own species without reason?it is a copyright activity of human beings.

I reached home and did my last ritual to the dead snake. I burnt it, and prayed for its soul. All said and done, I am not sure what would I done if I was at home instead of my wife in a similar situation!

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August 20, 2004

Money matters!

Before I open up with all that happened in my life in the past 6 months, I would like to share something interesting with you guys. I am now one of the panel astrologers on Sify Astrology - here is the URL you can visit to buy my customized products. At present I have showcased only one product ? and I will be introducing 9 other products at the earliest.
The last 6 months have the best in my life so far. A period in which I started hating most things around me?the job, the people, and the whole world to be precise. May be I took Bollywood star Shahrukh Khan?s words too seriously in my life.

I was damn impressed with one of Shahrukh Khan?s statements in one of his interviews. He was asked how do you feel having so much money, fame and wealth. And he replied they are just peripherals. What I like is acting and I do it with 100 per cent sincerity, rest comes on its own. His advice was, ?never work for money - just go behind your passion and dream.?

I did exactly what he said, and to be honest what I was left was a dream and hell lot of passion. Passion doesn?t feed your family nor would get your kid an admission in the school. What you need end of the day is MONEY? this was the first lesson I learnt.

The present world gauges you on the basis of where you work and how much you earn, and most friendships and relationships are based on them. Love, honesty, dedication and loyalty are few soothing words that sounds great to be heard once in a while.

The world around you is a heaven when you are positioned well, and the same world could be a hell if you fall down ? monetarily. Philosophies, dogmas, scriptures come handy only when you have other things in place. A beggar won?t be thinking about God when his stomach is empty. Religion, God and Godmen are for those people who need not have to worry about their food, cloths, shelter and wealth.

I have a friend who beautifully said ? I want to do a lot of social service, and for that I need money. So I am chasing money now. Once I get it, I will get into service. Made great sense to me.

Life revolves around this limited resource called money?.and I think I need to do what I hated the most in life ? chase money.

PS ? You can trust money-minded people who accept money is important in life more than the self-proclaimed saints who claim that money isn?t important.

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August 04, 2004

Can gems change your destiny?

Who doesn�t want to change his/her life? It would have been ideal if God had given a bit MORE of everything we have. Everyone seeks for better parents, a better salary, a better house, a better car, a better country to live in, a better wife and a better person to have sex with. None is content with what he has and is always in search of a better tomorrow. The hope and the dream of a better tomorrow is what have lead to all the misdevelopment around us. Or else we would have lived happily with what the existence had to offer to us.

Astrology is one science that helps in understanding human destiny and also that which provides immense faith to people. None goes to an astrologer when things are moving perfectly as expected. Why should anyone believe in astrology when the time is right? There is no need. But the divine knows when exactly to make a person move towards bigger sciences in life, and it also knows how to check mate a person and where and how.

In Vedic astrology there are various remedial measures, which promises to reduce the ill effect of bad time or bad planetary phase. It varies from going to a temple, chanting mantras, donations, wearing rudrakshas, to wearing of lucky gems!

Selling gems is indeed a multi million business today and there are no ways that you can differentiate between an original and a duplicate gem � all looks the same (and each astrologer will have his own definition to prove which one is original and which is not). Also you can never find an astrologer who respects other astrologer�s prescription, nor could you find a single gem shop that acknowledges the quality of other gem dealers � all think they are the only God send people on earth.

Gems are worn both by believer and non-believers. Believers accept that they are wearing out of their own choice, and non-believers say they are wearing just because someone else asked them to do so, and they don�t want to hurt their sentiments. It is not that non-believers don�t accept the concept, just that they don�t want to be looked down upon as a believer � it could be an ego-hurting phenomena.

There are various ways gems are prescribed to a person. Some use the system based on Sun signs, and a few use a system called dowsing, few use intuition, and few use tarot cards. Even in Vedic astrology there are different ways a gem can be prescribed. Some prescribe it based on the strongest planet, and some based on the weakest planet. There are others who ask the native to keep changing the gems depending on the dasha and bhukti that which is running. Every astrologer will have his own arguments to back the concept he believes in.

End of the day it all depends on the astrologer you meet up. And again it is your own destiny about what kind of astrologer you will meet in your life.

Personally I don�t think Gems help a lot in bringing about major changes in life, though it could act as a good ornament on your fingers and neck.

Want to know about your lucky gem? Mail me your date, place and time of birth today!

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August 03, 2004

I am yet to crack what death is!

I am back after a fabulous trip to Coorg, Bellur and Hallibed with my friend in his new Ford Ikon. I wanted to blog about the wonderful trip, but then my teacher’s father passed away last evening after a massive cardiac arrest. Hence thought would share few thoughts he had shared with me when he was alive.

Death has been the most mysterious concept to me till date. My imagination stops, and my mind become blanks if I try to analyze what death exactly is. I got a called in the morning and astrologer K Gopalakrishnan (my teacher), informed me about his father’s death, and I instantly asked when are you taking the body to the crematorium. BODY?!! He had a name and he had few relationships attached to his being. He was a father, he was a husband, he was a friend and he was a well wisher (I honestly don’t know his name, I called him mama) and the moment he died he is referred to as a corpse…and nothing else.

There was no sign of ailment, and the death was unexpected. In one sense it is good to die without getting bed ridden – we can at least presume that to be a blessing in disguise, but the suddenness of the event could create real panic for the people who care.

I got introduced to him in 2002. My astrology class used to start at 6 am, and he would be the first person to greet me. At 68, he used to get up at 4 am; getting up early is the one of the most difficult habits to be cultivated.

He always had a beautiful smile on his face, and his forehead used to be full of vibhuti, kum kum and a paste of chandan – giving him a divine look. Kancheepuram was one place he used to love to visit, and we had a plan to together someday – which didn’t materialize.

He was blessed with an amazing sense of humour, and could make anyone laugh. He had traveled a lot, and could mimic too. I should say a wonderful person to be with.

He had a special adoration for me because of my love towards Lord Ayyappa and my yearly pilgrimage to Sabarimala. He incidentally had traveled to this shrine 7 times, with his father, and the commonality brought was together.

Out of love, he happened to give me few advice about life, and it mattered a lot to me..

1) Be witty
2) Never lie
3) Never cheat
4) Never borrow or take loans
5) Never eat out
6) Invest in children and lands
7) Stick to one wife and one God

He said, just by sticking to these preliminary things you can have a content life, and you need not undergo any sufferings. Will try to stick to them, and let me see….

May his sole rest in peace!

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July 29, 2004

Dear Shoaib Akhtar!

Hope you remember me, in case you don�t here is a quick recap. After all the hulla-gulla you guys created about my blog on one of the leading portals � here is the copy of the last blog I had posted, the nasty comment you had left, and my response to your comment � though 4 months late.
BTW guys I am leaving for Coorg with my friend Suraj Varma tomorrow and will be back on August 2nd, 2004. Check out tips on how to get in and get out of an extra marital affair on Monday ;)

MY LAST BLOG

Just was made to realise how important my job, wife, kid and Venus (my new dog) was important than wasting my time on blogging and arguing on freedom of expression - by my sister.

Before I say a final adieu a prediction for myself -

In my horoscope I have Venus (the planet of sex) and Ketu (the planet of religion & spirituality) in my 3rd house of written communication. And the day is not far when people have to spend money to talk to me, and read my documented work!

Happy Blogging!

YOUR COMMENT

Great man, great. I was just thinking of bowling you one of the nastiest yorker that would have broken your toe for writing crap and making us read all this. As for paying to talk to you, you think people would do that? I rather give that money to and NGO. And even if there are people to pay you to talk, be rest assured that I would only pay you to shut up and if you don't one of my beamers would either take your head off (do you have one?) or just break your mouth so you wouldn't talk ever again! Don't show your face again.

Shoaib Akhtar

I know who you are, where you work, and what�s your real name. In fact I wanted to reach your office, come to your desk, and give you two tight slaps. I didn�t because I believe in love and not war, and also because I was glad that you didn�t have enough guts to put your real name. I presume that it is not you but real the Shoab Akhtar � Pakistan�s Rawalpindi Express. Hence, this mail is addressed to him and not you.

Shoaib, I am sure you remember how 16-year-old Sachin got out at zero in few of his initial matches, and in the next match he had to face ace bowler Abdul Qadir who had laughed at his potential. He in fact had provoked him to touch his ball if he can. And the end result was - 3 sixes in 3 consecutive deliveries.

I very well could have deleted your comment and rested in peace, but then I differ on two important things if compared to Jesus Christ. Neither do I forget and nor do I forgive.

Askenni.com was born just to prove a point, and here is a small beginning�a mail I got from one of my readers�

I have found your website on Internet. I have couple question I need to ask you. How can I make payment? I am not in India.
Thanks
Nilesh

Doesn�t it imply that my prediction about myself is coming true? And this is just a beginning�

In one way I should thank you for the comment, because it provoked me and provided me with enough motivation to create my OWN EMPIRE�and am not far from creating one soon.

I am not sure if your CLOSE FRIEND will forward this URL to you, or whether you will read this blog and leave another nasty comment. But the message is before passing a comment, do your homework properly and double check about the person whom you are playing with. Be ready for real slaps this time!

Agar tum Shoaib Akhtar, to hum Sachin Tendulkar!

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July 21, 2004

The stunts wives play!

Love could be a bouquet of roses, but marriage is an altogether different game. It isn?t a bed or roses as wisely said, but it is a relationship where a man compromises on his ego, self-respect and ultimately loses his individuality just to save the relationship. There also seems to be misconception floating around the society that the wives are always better genre than the husbands, and that there is always a woman behind a successful man. It would be ideal if it is rephrased as ? ?women are always AFTER successful men, and not behind.?

The first three months of the marital life is always the best. Later, women start showing their true natural colours other than pink. Now the whole purpose of their existence happens just to tame the men, and enslave them. And if the man tries to be stubborn in changing, here are few stunts wives usually play to get their things done.

Stunt 1) Blackmail you of leaving to her parents? place & never come back

How to handle it: Never ever make her feel that her presence is important for your happiness. Just make it very clear that, she is just an attachment, and if need be you can always detach and attach someone else. And also don?t ask her when she is coming back, and lastly don?t call her over the phone or pick the phone if she calls you.

Stunt 2) Will lock herself in a room & create panic

How to handle it: Men usually panic a lot if a woman shuts herself in a room when she is angry. The fear is ? she might end up doing something nasty ? to the extent of committing suicide. Don?t try to break open the door this will only make her feel good. Just open the main door, start your bike, and walk out of your house. You can come back after 2-3 hours ? your dinner will be ready.

Stunt 3) Will try to use your desperation to her benefit

How to handle it: Any social system thinks that sex is important only for men and that women are born saints! Wives are completely aware about how important sex is for their better halves, and they always try to snatch this opportunity to get their things done. Most of their request petitions comes to fore in the bedroom, that too when the man is desperately seeking sex. It is always hard to say NO when a simple YES can get you a marathon session.

To avoid this, just make a rule that none of the partner will open their mouth to TALK once the light is put off!

Don?t ever think that your wife is always right, and that your partner is doing some kind of favour living with you. Remember she chose you because she didn?t get anyone better and this makes you unique and important. Also don?t try to be too nice just to save the relationship. Be honest, truthful and stick to dharma, and if she still want to leave?just let her go, you always have Bangkok to your rescue!

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July 19, 2004

The rocket science behind Gambling!

I don’t want to comment on the Supreme Court’s judgement about whether Horse Racing is sports or a gamble played on mere luck. I might get arrested for defamation of court. But then according to my personal opinion, I don’t find anything sportive about horse racing. Instead I have seen families badly hit by loans & credits, and people who have ended up being a pauper after gambling their hard-earned money on these animals.

Before I start my blog on Gambling, here is a small news I wanted to share with you guys. I have started astrological consultation from home, and anyone who wants to have an insight into his/her future can mail me at kennedig@yahoo.com

My father in law is a hardcore gambler, and I always hated the way he saved the clipping from the last page of the Hindu (newspaper) that carried information about horses, jockeys and races. He has few colourful pens, which he uses to do some kind of study late night about which horse will win and which horses to bet on. He lives on the hope that he will win a jackpot someday, and will be able to build his own house and buy his own car. He is 60, and he has been gambling for some 30 years now. I am sure if he had saved the money he had put on horses, he at least would have built 2 houses by now.

Whenever I asked him about how exactly the betting is done, I could see a big smile on his face and he would love to talk about it for hours together. I always wanted him to stop it, but then I could not advice him until I know what exactly it was.

So we planned a day. We decided to go to the racing club one Sunday, and thought would gamble. I was accompanied by my father in law and two brothers in law..as if it was a big family fare. I never wanted to make money, but wanted to learn the whole system…

Here is what I learnt..

Homework

You can go through few newspapers and understand about the latest winners – both jockey and horse. You can do a complete study, and decide at home on which horse to going to bet on. You better don’t take advice from anyone at the race club, though most people will talk as if they have done a PhD in the subject. Go fully prepared. How much ever prepared you are the chance of you winning always remains 50/50!

Entry

You can get in by paying an entry fee of Rs 5 or Rs 25 or Rs 50. It naturally is based on the class of people whom you are going to be seen betting with. It varies from beggars to filmstars. I had an opportunity to see few beggars betting their HARD EARNED MONEY paying Rs 50 as entry fees!

Bookies

You are surrounded by bookies stall run mostly by Gujjus. You have two options, you can bet with these individuals or there are government run stalls, where the returns are less.

These bookies keep changing the percentage of amount that you would fetch after the race is over. For instance in any particular race there are few favourite horses, which have won few races before and whose probability of winning the race is quite high. The bookies will always quote the least amount for these horses. The rates go this way…

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So if you pay Rs 100 on a horse, and if its rate is quoted as � before the race, then you will get Rs 150 if your horse wins.

The maximum return is promised for horse that has never won any race.

The rates are not fixed it is different with each bookie and keeps changing every 10-15 seconds. I really didn’t understand on what basis they change it.

How to pay

The tax meter starts right from the beginning. If you bet Rs 100, the tax levied is 10 per cent, and you get a ticket for Rs 90. Again if you win the bet, you will be taxed again.

You can escape paying tax, but in this case there is a risk if you win HUGE amount of money.

How to bet

I had heard only about the concept of JACKPOT, before I myself went to the club. But there are many other ways you can bet, and still can lose money err gain money.

Winner

This is a direct method where you bet on a horse, and say it will come first. In most of the races, the favourites (as mentioned earlier) come first. This method is profitable only if the amount you going to bet is huge. For instance, if you bet Rs 100 on the horse and if you win the same you will make not more than 50 rupees profit. At the same time if you bet Rs 10,000, you will be making Rs 5000 in not more than 30 mns!
The risk is – you will never know which one of the favourites will come first, and also there is no rule that the favourites will always come first!

Place

The risk involved in this system is a bit less, and most people make impressive money playing ‘place.’ You need not bet on the winner, you just have to tell the order in which the horses will win.

For instance you can say Horse A will come 1st, Horse C will come 2nd and Horse B will come 3rd. You can bet on all the 3 possibilities and still walk out with zero loss.

Jackpot

It isn’t easy as it is claimed to be. In a day there are at least 10 races, and to crack the jackpot you should be in a position to tell the winners of all the 10 races without a single error. Moreover, the jackpot amount is distributed among all those who have given the right combination.

The chance of cracking a jackpot in my opinion is 1 in 100 million.

Who should play & who makes money?

Most people who gamble are the one’s who think gambling is a way of earning money. And whoever has thought that way has always led a miserable life. Horseracing isn’t for poor, thought 90 per cent of the people found in a racecourse belong to the middle class or people who are under the poverty line.

It is a sport for the rich, who can try their luck with few percentage of their income for the sake of excitement.

End of the day, the people who make money are the jockeys, the racecourse owners, and the horse owners like Vijay Malaya.

Fraudulent Activities

An astrologer or a psychic is always asked, when they know about the future why can’t they predict gambling results. To be honest it would be easy to predict the results, if everything remains transparent.

The whole set up works in such a way that end of the day the organizers don’t make any losses. The jockeys are ordered to lose the race deliberately, so that the money which was betted on the best favourite remains with race club.

The amount of frauds is less in bigger races like Derby, organized once a year by various race clubs, where the Cup or the title matters more than the money.

The amount I lost

I deliberately betted on the worse horse so that it doesn’t win, and also kept praying for the same. I didn’t go the race club to make money, but wanted to learn the rocket science behind it.

I remembered what Tamizh poet Thiru Valluvar had to say about gambling in his famous work Thirukural…

Winning a game at gambling can be compared to the fish that has just swallowed the worm attached to the fishhook, it is happy about worm but the truth is that it is entrapped for life!

I lost Rs 210…and I am glad I did!

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July 13, 2004

Total detachment comes through total acceptance!

Most enlightened people advice on an interesting concept of taking your mind to a state where nothing external affects you. The whole of Zen philosophy is based on this technique of staying alert, conscious, and keeping your mind detached from all worldly pursuits. It might sound easy to read, preach and philosophize but in reality it is the most difficult thing to practice. Training your mind using your own conscience is like trying to lift your own body – you never know when you will succeed and when you will fall miserably.

Here is a story that made me realize what Zen actually meant…

There lived a Zen master who practiced total detachment. He had no money, no family, no wealth and not more than a pair of clothes. He also would keep changing his name so that he doesn’t get attached to his name!

He had few sincere disciples with whom he lived. Once they came across a river, which had to be crossed through a bridge. The bridge was so narrow that not more than one person could cross it at a particular time. A young lady was crossing the bridge with a pitcher in her hand, and she was having a tough time crossing it. Seeing her struggling the Zen master offered to help her by lifting her and letting her on the other side of the river, and she agreed. Once all crossed the river safely, the master started moving as if nothing happened.

One of the disciples was a bit confused about the whole philosophy of detachment now. He started doubting his master, his disciples and himself. His query was, if the Master practiced detachment then why should be bother to help that young woman? Why didn’t he let her go on her own? Why should he offer any help, when nothing external mattered?

It was afternoon already, and the group had to stop for lunch. After the lunch was over the Master asked if someone had any doubt or query; none responded. After a break they started moving again.

The question was killing the disciple from inside who still could not understand why the Master had to lift that lady on the first place.

The sun was setting, and the group stopped for a small break again. After taking some rest, the Master asked the group again if someone had any doubt or query. The disciple could not hold it any more. He had to ask it now, and he asked…Master, when you preach so much about total detachment, why did u help that woman to cross the bridge? Why did you lift that lady? And the master replied…I left the woman near the river itself, you still seem to carry her! That is what total detachment is all about. The group started moving again.

Total detachment doesn’t mean that you start ignoring the truth. It simply means that you start accepting things, while carving the impermanence factor deep down in your being.

In life

When at school…don’t ignore your studies you will be out one day
When at college…don’t ignore love interests it will fade someday
When at work…don’t ignore your work you will retire someday

In relationships

Don’t ignore your parents you will have to leave them someday
Don’t ignore your children they will leave you someday
Don’t ignore your friends they will be away from your someday
Don’t ignore your beloved, as he/she might not be there for you someday

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June 19, 2004

Father, dear father!

June 15th was my dad’s birthday and I forgot to call him. I regret that I never belonged to the generation where fathers treat their children as friends. My father was always a terror, and we (my 2 elder sisters and me) hardly would speak to him. My mom was a mediator always, and everything would reach him through her - whether it’s about a new dress we want or it is about going on a school picnic.

I wasn’t close to my dad at all. To be honest, his presence at home always frightened me. It doesn’t mean I never wanted him, just that I wasn’t comfortable with him at all. He had a stern voice, and always expected discipline. I don’t remember a single instance when I refused to take his orders. One of the few things I did even when I hated them was to get him a pack of cigarette (Capstan filter when 5, and Wills filter when 17) at 7 AM on Sunday mornings.

I am 30 now, and am sure if I calculate I would have not interacted with him even for more than 10 hours or I should say 15 hours maximum. There was no verbal communication whatsoever and we existed on the basis of body language. That surely doesn’t mean there was nothing between. There indeed was an emotion attached to our relationship, which changed with time - I feared him when I was a kid, I hated him when I was in my adolescence, I respected him when I was 25, and I love him when I am 30.

The 10-hour conversation meant a lot to me. His advice, which made no sense when I was a kid, makes absolute sense when I myself am a father today.

Few things he told me that became a part of the philosophies I follow day in day out.

“Education is what I can give you, rest everything is your call.” And today it is the education he gave us, which is feeding me.

“If you copy or steal, do it in such a way that you never will get caught”. He got a sealed matchbox, and asked us to take out the sticks without breaking the seal. We failed. He pressed the matchbox from the sides, and the sticks fell out. His explanation was ‘none would bother to count the number sticks in a matchbox, and also if you take 5 sticks from 10 boxes, you already have created 1 matchbox.’

He always said, “Try to stick to the truth. If you lie, you have to tell some 1000 lies to justify the first one. So, better not to lie and complicate lives.”

“Never ask God for a fair & beautiful children, just ask for a normal kid. Being normal is the biggest blessing God can shower on you”. I am reminded of my father words each time my 2-year-old daughter runs to me to hug me after am back from my office.

“Respect elders and look after them when they are old. You never know how fast your life will go, and you will be old one day too”.

My parents today stay some 1000 kms away from me. He was busy man once upon a time, and my mom would remind him about our birthdays. Today he is retired, and never misses to give us a call on our birthdays. Their lives revolves around us and our phone calls make a lot of difference to their life. And I honestly wonder if I am justified for not giving him a call just because I was busy with my schedule?

Happy Fathers Day!

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June 11, 2004

Venus attacks for the first time!

I am sorry if the headline is misleading. The blog has nothing to do with the recent Venus transit. It is about Venus - my dog who is 4 months old now.

From childhood, I don’t know why, I somehow loved animals more than human beings. I have had many animals right from white rat, dog, parrot, parakeet, fish, turtles, to rabbits, and hen. Probably I love them because they don’t manipulate, they don’t lie, they don’t indulge in backbiting and they don’t boss around. They make great companions and all they need is a small share from your food.

It was 1.30 am and I was fast asleep. My wife woke me up saying Venus has been barking for the last 15 minutes. I had read somewhere that you should never take animals signs for granted. They always try to communicate, and usually humans fail to notice it. It is said dogs and cats can even know natural calamities like earthquakes and storms well in advance.

I was a bit scared to go out. I don’t know what could it be - a thief, another dog or some kind of snake. It was pitch dark, and I rushed so that nothing happens to Venus if it is a snake. My area is kinda prone to snakes, as I always prefer to live in the woods – far from the maddening crowd.

I opened the door and I could see Venus all energetic. She rushed to me wagging its tail, and I asked her what’s wrong. She was silent for a while, and later lifted her head looking at the door top and started barking again. It was a terrified rat sitting on the doorframe!

To be honest rat and cockroaches scare me more than snakes. I rushed to the bedroom to call my wife – she is an expert in dealing with rats. Once it so happened that I locked myself in one of the rooms, and she managed killing a huge rat that was disturbing us for a while with a broomstick. She laughed at my bravery and I said well I hate killing animals.

I held Venus, and my wife made the rat run away. I patted Venus, gave her a biscuit and we went to sleep.

I trust Venus more now, and am glad I invested in him. Thanks to my colleague Nandu who impressed me with a beautiful advice - everyone should own at least one pet in life, it surely brings a whole lot changes in your life.

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May 25, 2004

Depression – male menses!

The moods of human mind are seasonal and depression is like Chennai’s summer - it drains your energy completely and makes you feel yuck and tired both physically and mentally. These swings are also known as Male Menses - the only difference being men neither bleed nor they need the new winged Whisper to protect them.

All pass through this phase of depression, which stays for a minimum of 2 and maximum of 5 days, and there are no specific reasons for the same. It just happens, though few people have their own rationales.

How to know if your friend is depressed

Most people are highly irritable during this phase. They tend to argue on anything and everything you speak to them. Not that what they speak are their personal opinions; they just want an opportunity to prove a point and transfer the garbage they are carrying for a while. They usually succeed in doing so too. The best way is to cut the topic midway, and you can see them already fuming.

How to know whether you are depressed

Nothing in world could interest you. Not even Jennifer Lopez’s back, and am not exaggerating. You will feel as if the whole world was created by the God to make you feel disgusted, and that God is planning a conspiracy against you to put an end to you forever.

How to help your friend when he/she is depressed

A friend in need is a friend indeed, so goes the saying and there is no hard and fast rule that you should stick to it. Never become a dustbin for your friend to vomit his psychological garbage on you. Just ignore him, and he will be all right. There are few instances when depression leads to suicidal tendency. If your friend asks for help, please buy him a strip of sleeping pills.

No man who spoke about committing suicide has ever committed suicide. Even committing suicide is destined astrologically, and moreover it is a decision taken in an impulse.

I came across a news story long back on ‘World This Week’, about a book that was published in the US about ‘How to Commit Suicide.’ The book sold like hot cakes, but then none who bought the book dared to experiment.

How to help yourself when you are depressed

Stay aloof and stay alone, as there is nothing like self cure. Talk to yourself to find solution rather trying to escape it by talking to your friends. Friends can only listen to you, but the solution lies within you.

And never ever talk about your sick plight to your girlfriend and sob! You will surely miss all the minutest chances you ever had to marry her. Remember women need a shoulder to cry and not a nut who needs counseling every time!

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May 19, 2004

Follow your inner light!

Mrs Sonia Gandhi has given one tight slap to the shameless BJP by just putting down the most desirable post of India - the post the Prime Minister. This is the same post most Indians want to reach in their political era, and this is the same post for which most political dramas, killings, and hypocrisy are undertaken. And we need to accept the fact that a person from Italy had to come down to India to educated us that it isn’t the post that matters but it is the values, principles and ideals that drive a nation. (I am sure if given a chance A B Vajpayee won’t mind being the PM even on his death bed!)

We salute your decision Mrs Sonia, and respect your inner call.

So what is this inner light or conscience that Sonia is talking about? My teacher told me about a scene from Kamal Hasan’s movie ‘Hey Ram’, where Gandhi when asked about India-Pakistan partition, says – ‘I cannot listen to everybody, I have to listen to my inner God’.

We all have an inner voice, but we tend to compromise on that in our lives out of fear, insecurity, force, ignorance, money, and by comparing ourselves to others.

Sachin Tendulkar flunked in his 12th grade from Jhun Jhun Wala College. He understood that he is not here to do his graduation/post-graduation and travel in a train everyday for a 9-5 job. He knew in a country like India not being a graduate is a big risk you would take. But he followed what his conscience had to say – follow your passion, fulfill your dream and become a cricketer. Rest is history.

Mother Teresa when young didn’t know what to do with her life. She prayed, and she got a divine guidance. She was asked to go to Calcutta, India, and she followed her inner voice. The first person she saw getting down from the train was a leper and at once she knew what she has to do next. Thus was born Missionaries of Charity.

Galileo said, the gravitational pull for all the objects remain the same no matter how heavy they are. He argued a 5 gm stone and a 1 ton stone will reach land at the same time when dropped from top of a building at the same time. People laughed at him. But he stuck to his conscience, but then as usual people even refused to see him proving his point.

Swami Vivekanand could have fallen in love with some woman, got married to her, reproduced children, got a govt job, retired at 58, and died by leaving some 1 lakh insurance amount and some 50 k as bank balance. He never did that. His inner call was to become the greatest SAINT of all time, and he made it. He left his body at the age of 32, but the work he has left behind will be revered for generation to come.

There are many such examples about people becoming successful just following what their conscience had to say.

So how do you find what your inner call is?

Just close your eyes, and do an instant check. Ask yourself why are you doing what you are doing? If it is out of fear, insecurity, force, ignorance, money, or by comparing yourselves with others then probably that is not the job you are supposed to do. Know the work that gives you the most satisfaction, it could be even stitching a shoe or just plain talking. That is the area you need to develop yourself in, and take my word success is assured!

Always remember follow your Inner light!

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