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At times I surely feel that whatever he is today is because of me. Here is another example.

I arranged an interview for another brother in law of mine at Sify.com. And he screwed it big time. He not only put me into trouble but also dragged another close friend of mine into it. The relationship between my brother in law and me got strained and it remains so still.

If I were really responsible for my first BIL’s success, then my second BIL should have also done well in his life. It never happened. Hence the truth is – you cannot be responsible for any body’s success or failure. Many a times things just happen through you, for which you cannot take responsibility. If my first BIL is successful, he is because of his own destiny and not because of my help. If it has happened through me, I can only be thankful and not egoistic about it.

Many a times people are already on the verge of change, and someone comes and gives them the needed break. This doesn’t mean that the one who was responsible for the break becomes greater than the seeker. They just compliment each other’s life. The doer ceases to exist if the seeker doesn’t exist. Just like a doctor ceases to exist if there are no patients, a spiritual master ceases to exist if there are no disciples, and an astrologer ceases to exist if there are no clients. They exist in perfect harmony – none is greater than the other.

The great Ramakrishna Paramahansa had 10-15 close disciples. But only one of them was able to make it big in his spiritual path - rest all were mere failures. In fact Ramakrishna Paramahansa was known to the world through Swami Vivekanand and not vice versa.

Of course Ramakrishna helped Vivekanand immensely, but it didn’t happen only because of the Master’s help. If it was so – then all the 15 disciples should have made it big in their lives, which never happened. The contribution should have been equal from Swami Vivekanand’s side too. And it is very much possible that whatever had to happen to Swami Vivekanand could have happened even without Ramakrishna, may be through some other master. And there is where personal destiny comes to play – whatever has to happen in your life, will happen - whether someone deliberately helps you or refuses to help you doesn’t really matter - destiny will overtake your course of life – sooner or later.

This particular blog comes in wake of few nasty comment passed by few important people in my life. They claim that whatever I am today in the field of astrology is just because of them. I am not sure whether I am successful today or not, but then they at least feel I am. Of course I am thankful and grateful to all those who helped me in my course of life – right from my Kinder Garten teacher who taught me English to ‘you’ who is reading my blog. I cannot deny it. But then if someone claims that I am what I am only because of certain people – then I refuse to take that shit. I am what I am ONLY because of MY personal destiny.

Here is another instance –

Whenever there is exchange of ideas between me and one of the managers of a particular website he/she always makes it a point to say – “remember Kennedi, we were the first to give you the break.” Point taken, but then what about my personal destiny? Just because they gave me the first break, I cannot be obliged to them forever. At the same time I cannot be less grateful to them. Also it was not that I was a mentally retarded beggar before taking up astrology as a career. I was doing well, and also was excelling in my dot com career. If I had not taken up astrology as a full time profession, I would have marveled in the IT firm.

And if I am doing well in astrology today - it is because of grace of God (50 per cent), blessing of a good teacher (25 per cent), and my personal destiny (25 per cent).

PS – Kindly don’t confuse personal destiny with personal effort – they are not the same.