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Extra marital affairs happen in both the genders equally though the society always blames the men. I know equal number of men and women who have extra marital affairs. The only problem is men are dumb and get caught easily, while women are very intelligent and escape unscathed.

It is not that one fine morning people (both men and women) decide to get a bit gutsy and start having an affair or relationship outside marriage. It just happens. Someone walks into our lives; create ripples and walks out after creating enough problems. We don’t have much control over it. You can blame it on bad karma or good karma or you can blame it on the planets. But if caught – it is considered to be a complete breach of trust! May be Jesus Christ forgot to add a line to one of his commandments – love thy neighbour, but never get caught!

Breach of trust happens in all the relationships, but people don’t get separated or start hating someone for it. We never told our parents when we sipped our first beer, we never told our parents when we saw our first blue film, we never told our parents when we bunked lectures & went for a movie, we never told our parents when we fell in love, we never told our siblings when we had our first sex – they are all breach of trust. Even if we were caught – I am sure we would have got a good hitting, but then the relationship would have never broken. You cannot say this is different and that is different. Like Anniyan (Aparichit) says you steal Paise 5 or 5 crores – theft remains a theft.

Basically all human beings hide many things and expose only few things to many people in slots. It is better that way. There is no necessity for anyone to remain open like a book to everyone – it can only create problems.

When I met Shiva Shankar Baba (Kelambakam, Chennai) for the first time I asked him, “what do you feel about people having multiple partners?”. And he said beautifully, “there is nothing wrong. But see to it you don’t hurt any soul in the process”. Makes absolute sense. We don’t open up many a times – because we don’t want to hurt the other person in the process. If someone looks like a monkey, we don’t walk across to tell him he looks like one, just because we want to be considered honest, frank or upfront.

Not all are prone to extra marital affairs. But few of course are. The people who never had an extra marital affair are not the people – who got attracted to someone sometime, the other person also reciprocated encouragingly, and our man/woman avoided just because he wanted to remain honest to his partner. He/she is just one who never had an opportunity - that’s all.

I know men would agree but women would not agree to this – show me one married woman who finds her husband more attractive or handsome than Shahrukh Khan, Surya, Hrithik Roshan or any of the celebrities. I am not saying women are in love with them, and given a choice they will leave their husbands and walk out with their favourite stars. But what if these celebrities live in your neighbourhood, with ample amount of time for communication and conversation – there of course is a chance of an intimate relationship!

Just because you have a low semen count, a bad sexual appetite, and an erectile dysfunction – you cannot argue that you have more control over sex and women. If that reasons were taken into consideration then eunuchs and impotent men would get enlightened faster than us.

Living in Chennai I should not take pride in my sexual control because I never been to have a sandwich massage. I didn’t go, because there are no places out here. If I were in Bangkok without a partner, had a good hard on, had enough money on hand, found a massage parlour near by with pics of hot chicks showcased, and if I still avoided going just because I don’t want to violate the trust my partner has on me. Then probably I am a saint in the truest sense, or else a normal human being.

I had a friend (who follows Islam). He always used to talk about Islam, Mohammed, sin & virtues, till he was India. He went abroad, the first place he landed was a strip club! He hardly talks about Islam these days.

Might be continued…..