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Mending few relationships

We are related to many people on different levels. We love some people instantly and we hate few without any reasons. It all depends on the karmic (life after life) connections we are born with.

Just prior to death, it so happens that the person who is about to die will take some steps to mend few bad relationships, which he hated to continue subconsciously. This happens by choice or sometimes by chance.

My father hated our in laws. And he was completely against going to their house or meeting them in person. After 8 years of our marriage, when he was at my sister’s place, he was invited for lunch at my in laws place, and he could not refuse. He had an awesome lunch there, and we all knew that the years of hatred are all over.

That was the 4th step….

Manifestation of small desires

This part might sound a bit funny, but it remains true. As you grow older, your likeness towards eatables increases a lot, and you would notice that none provides you with tasty food. But when you are nearing death, you will be blessed with good food automatically. People from nowhere would come and provide you things that you always loved to eat.

A diabetic patient will get a box of sweets from his friend, and a heart patient will be able to get some hot samosas. Death doesn’t happen because you eat these stuffs, you eat these stuffs because death is near.

My dad always loved Hot Idlies, and we need to thank Murugan Idlies of Besant Nagar for providing him with some awesome idlies, with hot sambaar and chatnies. He in fact used to stop bothering about the restrictions the doctors have imposed on him on his eating habits, when he was at this particular restaurant.

That was the 5th step….

Change in functioning of prana (breathe)

Place your index finger under your nose, and watch the breathe pattern. You will notice that you tend to inhale and exhale using only one nostril at a time. The breathe through nostrils change every 3-5 minutes in a normal human being – meaning you breath using left nostril for 5 mns and then use your right nostril for another 5 mns. This keeps going on without our knowledge.

When a person is nearing death, there is a change in this particular pattern right from 6 months before his death. Mostly they breathe only through one nostril, or the change between the nostrils doesn’t happen at ease.

For my dad, I wanted to confirm this, but then I didn’t have the heart to check it!

That was the 6th step…..

Final adieu when favourite people are around

Life parts easily from the body, if the dying person has his favourite people around. Else life tends to take a lot of time to leave the body. This is the most painful process for many, especially for those whose loved once live far away from them.

Both my grandparents kept gasping till they saw my mom the last. My mom was always their favourite. In my dad’s case, he loved my elder sister more than any of us. He always had great plans for my sister, which made me a bit jealous at times.

I was with my dad till 17th of September, and had to leave. My sister was to celebrate her birthday on the 26th September. She thought she would celebrate her birthday with my parents for a change. She informed my dad about her plan, and I still remember the excitement my dad had on his face. She booked her tickets for the 22nd and reached my native on the 23rd.

All was fine till 9.30 pm of 23rd September, 2005. A sudden stroke, my sister rushed to the hospital with my dad, and he collapsed at 9.50 pm.

The final adieu ----the 7th step……