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We got married and we moved to Mumbai. We didn?t had any rent to pay as it was my parents? house, still I thought my salary wasn?t enough for 2 people in Mumbai ? a city which is considered to be one of the costly places to live in India. And now I had a 3rd person to take care ? the one in the womb. From childhood I never wanted my probable wife to work. I always am against woman working. Like I always say a bull and a cow have different purposes in life. Bull is to plough the field, and the cow is to milk. Any change can only change the balance of life.

For woman I always felt being a good wife is more difficult than passing out MBA from IIM, becoming a mother is more difficult than working for the biggest company, and maintaining children, family and home is more difficult than running a corporate. I am totally against children being ignored for some extra money, or lifestyle for that matter.

We thought, and we decided that we would abort the kid and think about having children later in our lives. We met a gynecologist, and here is the conversation?

Me ? Somehow, we aren?t interested in this baby. We want to abort it.
Gynec - why?
Me ? ?cause I think I cannot afford a kid at this juncture
Gynec ? what?s your salary?
Me ? 6,600
Gynec ? and I have clients whose monthly salary is 1000 to 2000, having 2 kids and who manage to send their children to English medium schools.
Me - ?
Gynec ? it is all in the mind. Money will never be sufficient. Even crorepathis go only for 2 children hence it has nothing to do with your economic conditions. And also by the time you need to send your children to a school i.e., after 3 years, you never know how much you will be earning.
Me ? (I was listening carefully)
Gynec ? Never ever abort children. They are God?s gifts, and I know couples who come to me crying just because they aren?t able to conceive. That way you are blessed couples. I will check her (my wife) up first, take 5 minutes to think, and we can do what exactly what you want.

She also added that it is never advisable to abort the first kid, as the body starts repelling future fertilization.

I came out, and was staring at the sky. I didn?t know what to do. There was no one to guide us. The only thing I could do is to take out a Re 1 coin, pray to lord and toss it. If it is tail, I go for it and if it is head I don?t. In life I always found that ?tail? was lucky for me. May be in the subconscious mind I had already decided. I tossed and it was tail! My wife came out and before I told her my decision, she came with water in her eyes saying, ?we will go for it. The doc said that the kid is growing well.?

We named the kid Tilotama, but then for some unknown reasons my wife had a miscarriage. And it was all over. May be God wanted it that way.
Looking back I thank the almighty and the Re 1 coin, that I wasn?t responsible for a fetus?s death.

I read somewhere that in 3 months a baby is well developed and it tries the best to survive the killing (abortion).

I agree with what Mother Teresa has to say about abortion, ?you don?t have rights to kill a child, when you cannot create one.?

Khalil Gibran says, ?your children are not your children. They are just born through you. And they belong to the future.?

Deciding not to go for children is completely different than aborting it after it is formed - there are enough contraceptives available in the market, which can help you to delay pregnancy.

Taking on a newly formed fetus for your irresponsible sexual episode is highly condemnable!