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July 09, 2004
The difference between love and marriage
Few are blessed people, as they tend to love someone else and marry someone else. And few carry a curse of marrying the same person they fall in love with. The former can at least be content with the illusion that his life would have been better if he had married the first one. While the latter has no other choice than to live with his beloved and experience all the unexpected pain, agony and turmoil…forever.
People tend to fall in love when there is a hormonal imbalance in the chemistry of the body. Liking towards a person of opposite sex doesn’t depend upon caste, creed, money, power and religion. It depends solely on the level of individual desperation. Most love affairs are offshoots of circumstances. You tend to develop an interest towards a person who fills your vacuum of insecurity, dejection and loneliness. This liking gets transformed into love with time, and also when you are left with no other option. Ask yourself - whom will you choose if Jennifer Lopez walks across your desk and says she is interested in you - your girl friend or this Latin babe?
Love affairs need not necessarily lead to marriage. And in most cases it doesn’t. The factors that made no sense when during the rosy days dominates the most when it comes to getting wed locked.
Marriages are indeed a concept invented by man on the planet earth and the various factors that supplement the communion are – caste, creed, money, power, religion, ego, pride and what not. If ego and pride wasn’t included in the list, why would Mittal spend 250 crores in one single marriage and fly down Shahrukh & Amitabh for an entertainment show? And if other factors have lost their meanings in this IT driven 21st Century, then why does every matrimonial ad have caste, creed, salary and religion mentioned in it?
Love of course is a bed of roses but you realize the thorns only after getting married. The first 3 months are the best period after marriage, and after that the real fun starts. Both husband and wife, go on a different trip after marriage – the ego trip. They try to change few basic characteristics that in fact had impressed them once upon a time.
Two important things a man would want the woman to change after marriage
1) Dressing
The guy would have loved peeping into the cleavage of the girl when in love, but after marriage he would hate to see other men doing the same
2) Friendships
Men usually don’t like women to have too many friends. And would hate if their wives return home after having a good time with her friends. So the ORDER sent will be to reduce your friend’s circle
Few important things a woman would want the man to change after marriage
1) Quit smoking, drinking, eyeing on other women and all that you like OTHER than her
The oath taking ceremony to quit smoking starts from the day they fall in love. And that also happens to be the day when the guy starts lying to his girl friend.
2) Stop talking to all those breeds who wear salwar kameez and sarees
This list also includes your mom, sisters, aunty and all other relatives
3) Transfer of power & money
You could be running a BIG firm like Infosys with few 100s wishing you good morning in the office. But at home your wife expects it from you. Also you might take pride in your take home package, but end of the day you will be asked to give accounts for each penny spent.
4) Rule 2 of men’s list holds true for men themselves
5) Be a Jesus Christ
Women would do all the talking, induce all the fights, and create all the problems, but would expect men to come and apologize. Whatever happens, men always are expected to forget and forgive first!
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Posted by Kenni at July 9, 2004 04:26 AM
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