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I pity those women who show a lackadaisical attitude in getting married, thinking it is a life-long bondage that could impinge their freedom of existence. It could undoubtedly be said that the concept of MARRIAGE was introduce by the men, who readily restraint themselves from their selfish desires, to save the women from the burdens of life.

FLASHBACK

Human beings lived in community, and free-sex was the only religion they followed. Any man could lay any woman, sometimes with their consent and sometimes without their consent (rape wasn’t illegal then, but was claimed to be one of the ways of having sex).

Lack of contraceptives lead to easy conceptions and a single lady could be seen with many children without knowing the right father. Osho Rajneesh’s in one of his books beautifully argues how the word ‘uncle’ came into existence much before the word ‘father’. All the men in the community were called as uncles (no the exact word though), as none knew their real father. Even today any stranger is called an uncle, which instantly brings in a relationship without many thoughts.

Later in the community it was seen that men had their fun screwing away every women they met, and women were the ultimate sufferers to take care of their children. No man shared their responsibilities, as he was unsure about his progeny.

So someone in the community raised his voice. He said, enough of screwing around. Men should restraint themselves now, and should share woman’s responsibilities. This lead to a major brain storming sessions of intellectuals and following were the minutes of the meeting…

*One man should screw only one woman.
*If he gets attracted to other women, he should marry them too (this led to polygamy)
*The marriage will be a BIG public ceremony where in all the people of the community will be called, so that all men now know that the woman is married. This was also a warning message to other men to keep their eyes off the married lady.
*Married man and woman will stay together and raise their children, and this will be called a family.
*Man will work outdoors and bring food, while woman will raise the children. (This lead to economy)

Thus came the concept of marriage. But there was another problem, which people faced later. As the community started growing, all could not be called for the marriage. And the men who didn’t attended the marriage never knew that a particular woman was married. They still went of their prey. It was high time the intellectuals got together for their 2nd round of meeting. The following were decided in the meeting..

*A man will tie a thread around woman’s neck so that other could know that she is married (this is the mangal sutra)
*A woman will put sindoor/bindi on her forehead (I will discuss the importance of bindi in my next article)
*She will also wear rings on her feet, if men fail to see the mangal sutra

PRESENT

Even today married women stick to these things to prove that they are married, while a man is as free as ever - until and unless he opens his mouth and confesses. So girls, if you still think marriage is a bondage and that you don’ want to get married, do let us know. Let us time travel and live in our flashbacks!